Letter: Bullying has gotten even worse

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  • Confused Sandy, UT
    March 27, 2019 9:28 a.m.

    Flashback,
    Like your comments, I had a similar experiences in High School...

    I think in today's society, parents needs to teach their children on how to deal with failure. That life is not fair and not everyone wins (no participation awards). When you get knocked down, you have to learn you need to get back up, dust yourself off and move forward.
    They need to learn that retaliation of any kind does not cure your problems, but adjusting to the situation, making changes within yourself will.

    Not sure parents these days are teaching these valuable lessons to their kids today.

  • Flashback Kearns, UT
    March 27, 2019 8:45 a.m.

    I got bullied in my younger days. I was small and skinny. I got in a few fights over it and those guys never did it again. I went after the biggest kid in our school that was a bully and flattened his nose. Never had a problem with him again. We got to be good friends after that. He got sent to the principle, not me.

    I melted down in a school class one time after a couple of other guys picked on me one too many times. I found out later that my older brother found out about the melt down and beat up the two bullies involved. Didn't have a problem with them at all after that.

    Frankly, people need to start standing up for themselves.

  • ConservativeCommonTater Salt Lake City, UT
    March 26, 2019 8:16 a.m.

    Connor, you said; "I can see how many students around me are struggling with bullying and are being bullied on the daily."

    So, what do you do to help these people? Watching is not helping. Bully's like to intimidate others. Most are really cowards that rely on others not standing up to them.

    I was bullied when I was a kid, got picked on a lot. Then, one day a kid was going to beat on me and I accidentally stuck my fist out to block him, and hit him in the nose. He quickly backed down. Then, I started growing and was a little bigger than the bully's. At that point, I stood with the kids that were getting bullied. Most of the time I never had to fight anyone. They knew that they would take few if they started a fight.

    If you don't stand up for others, don't expect anyone to stand up to you.

  • unrepentant progressive Bozeman, MT
    March 26, 2019 5:23 a.m.

    "accountability in government" claims a prominent poster. We need accountability!

    Well, let us start with the highest echelons of government. If you place bald faced lies out there, then we should hold them accountable. Or incite others to insidious actions.

    Let the accountability begin. Today.

    Crickets..........

  • jsf Centerville, UT
    March 25, 2019 6:10 p.m.

    @patrioticAMERICAN
    I also labeled bullying as a current cultural issue, that permeates our whole society.

    "We live in a culture that approves of bullying."

    By the way, requiring accountability in government, government agencies, and news organizations is not Bulling.

  • jsf Centerville, UT
    March 25, 2019 5:55 p.m.

    "Muslims, immigrants, minorities, & the poor; women--esp women of color; "

    So fast the media erased his statement about Muslims, he asked for a moratorium on immigration from seven specific countries also suspended by Obama, that have terrorist activity. He did not say it about all Muslims.

    Again on immigrants the fake news edits out his statements are about illegal immigrants that are criminals. How many crimes have been committed by illegals, against women, against children, against American citizens. His wife is an immigrant. He supports legal immigration.

    Please show a real documented case attacking minorities, & the poor; women--esp women of color. Again these are the liberal fake news statements by those that have been preaching Russian collusion.

    As for the DOJ and FBI top brass they have been committing crimes especially with the testimony of Ohr and Page.

    I am sorry that you feel he has been bullying Kim in Korea, Maduro in Venezuela. That is part of the political game. Republicans do it and it's bullying. Democrats do it and they call it honesty.

    And fake news is fake news by anyone promoting fake news. Calling it out is not bulling.

  • Confused Sandy, UT
    March 25, 2019 3:56 p.m.

    patrioticAMERICAN - "It's interesting but not surprising that you only list actions from people or orgs on the Left--completely ignoring the daily onslaught of bullying from Trump"

    I believe jsf is responding to a prior Liberal poster that basically stated it starts at White house.

    So according to you, it is okay to bash our current President because liberals do not like it, but conservatives can not bash actual statements made by democrats in congress... Right?

    Letterwriter - It is how you define "bullying", If a young lady who does not like a young man because he exhibit anger issues refuses to be their friend, does that constitute "Bullying"?

    We have be clear on what Bullying is and is not:

    Second, Parents are solely to blame. They think it is okay for their kids behavior towards other kids and pass it off as "just growing up". On the other hand, we have parents who refuse to teach their children how to deal with failure. They often site "Bullying" as the reason they failed.

    This is serious issue, but I think people need to have a more objective view of the issue instead of an emotional view.

  • patrioticAMERICAN South Jordan, UT
    March 25, 2019 3:07 p.m.

    jsf;
    It's interesting but not surprising that you only list actions from people or orgs on the Left--completely ignoring the daily onslaught of bullying from Trump against DOJ, FBI, Mueller & his prosecutors; any news org. that's not Fox or it's ilk, or their reporters; Muslims, immigrants, minorities, & the poor; women--esp women of color; anyone of consequence that says *anything* neg. abt him; basically any Dem (except for "Nancy") & Hillary specifically (he can't seem to get past 2016); McCain or anyone who dares to vote against his policies; various Democratic world leaders; etc.

    He makes up & proudly uses juvenile names, & during his political career has been known to mock a disabled reporter, people w/accents; McCain's war record, a sexual assault victim (Ford) etc.; & has threatened or encouraged violence from his supporters against his detractors, police against suspects, & lately law enforcement, military & any of his gun-owning supporters against those who oppose him.

    NTM the bullying that reg. comes from his inner circle: Don Jr., Huckabee-Sanders, Conway, Stone, Nunes, Graham, Hannity, Pirro, Meadows, Miller, etc.

    But sure, the Left is the problem!

  • jsf Centerville, UT
    March 25, 2019 1:29 p.m.

    Bullying is taught daily on TV. Late night shows every night, movies out of Hollywood, progressives that demand conformity.

    False statements to belittle opposition, "Not surprising since a good portion of our electorate voted for a bully to be president."

    Maxine waters calling for belligerent bullying. Ilian Omar calling for Muslims to terrorize others. Liberal attacks by groups like Antifa supported by anyone. Those that attacked the Covington kids.

    This is not a Trump problem and blaming him for the culture of bullying that exists is ignoring the problem that really exists.

    We live in a culture that approves of bullying.

    It exists in the climate debate, it exists in the religion debate, it exists in the LGBT debate, it exists in the collegiate free speech debate.

    Bullying exists any time any group demands others conform to their beliefs through demeaning comments and actions.

  • embarrassed Utahn! Salt Lake City, UT
    March 25, 2019 10:48 a.m.

    Not surprising since a good portion of our electorate voted for a bully to be president. It will be a long time before our nation recovers.

  • Ernest T. Bass Bountiful, UT
    March 25, 2019 10:47 a.m.

    Bullying starts in the White House and trickles on down from there.

  • Impartial7 DRAPER, UT
    March 25, 2019 9:58 a.m.

    Bullying has escalated due to social media, smart phones, apps, and the internet. You don't need to be physically intimidating or even face to face to be a bully today. Which lowers the risk of the bully being confronted. Some kids need a good "confrontation".

  • Cora Smith BOUNTIFUL, UT
    March 25, 2019 9:44 a.m.

    @ Thomas Jefferson; Well said. I might add that teens must remember to always tell themselves that they are good people. They are not perfect and that's okay. The people doing the bullying are always lacking human compassion and that makes them lesser than anyone they bully.

    We who are older, look back on early school days as a quick blip in life. The meaning at the time spent in early schooling can be alarming at the time, but in the big picture it is meaningless. Just be sure to keep learning all you can. As we age we realize that our imperfections are just meaningless, we all have them. Some people have imperfections on the outside and others have them on the inside. Some people who are the "beautiful people" have hollow souls or other life ruining aspects. Just keep reminding yourself you are okay, because you are, and you are only human. A good human.

  • Cora Smith BOUNTIFUL, UT
    March 25, 2019 9:34 a.m.

    It's really sad that bullying has become so prevalent in this country. It's a combination of our adult elected leaders that have made attacking each other a common practice. We see name calling from the elected leaders in our state and federal government. We see parents that have become politically partisan and very vocal in opposing parties. We have adults guiding our children and social media fueling the disrespect of others. It's become an ugly way of living in these modern times.
    We need a cure, and the cure starts with adults who are leading our country, leading the charge to give every human being respect and decency. Watch who you vote for.

  • Thomas Jefferson Salt Lake City, UT
    March 25, 2019 8:15 a.m.

    I dont really know how or if it is even possible to do but what would really help is if there were a way to teach teens that none of the things you think are so important* will matter in a few short years. You might not even remember the names of the bullies who tormented you. Ignore* them and know that a life well lived is the ultimate revenge.

    *Obviously not applicable to physical bullying for which people should be brought up on charges.