Flashback, Like your comments, I had a similar experiences in High
School...I think in today's society, parents needs to teach
their children on how to deal with failure. That life is not fair and not
everyone wins (no participation awards). When you get knocked down, you have to
learn you need to get back up, dust yourself off and move forward.They
need to learn that retaliation of any kind does not cure your problems, but
adjusting to the situation, making changes within yourself will.Not
sure parents these days are teaching these valuable lessons to their kids today.
I got bullied in my younger days. I was small and skinny. I got in a few
fights over it and those guys never did it again. I went after the biggest kid
in our school that was a bully and flattened his nose. Never had a problem with
him again. We got to be good friends after that. He got sent to the principle,
not me.I melted down in a school class one time after a couple of
other guys picked on me one too many times. I found out later that my older
brother found out about the melt down and beat up the two bullies involved.
Didn't have a problem with them at all after that.Frankly,
people need to start standing up for themselves.
Connor, you said; "I can see how many students around me are struggling
with bullying and are being bullied on the daily."So, what do
you do to help these people? Watching is not helping. Bully's like to
intimidate others. Most are really cowards that rely on others not standing up
to them.I was bullied when I was a kid, got picked on a lot. Then,
one day a kid was going to beat on me and I accidentally stuck my fist out to
block him, and hit him in the nose. He quickly backed down. Then, I started
growing and was a little bigger than the bully's. At that point, I stood
with the kids that were getting bullied. Most of the time I never had to fight
anyone. They knew that they would take few if they started a fight.If you don't stand up for others, don't expect anyone to stand up to
"accountability in government" claims a prominent poster. We need
accountability!Well, let us start with the highest echelons of
government. If you place bald faced lies out there, then we should hold them
accountable. Or incite others to insidious actions.Let the
accountability begin. Today. Crickets..........
@patrioticAMERICAN I also labeled bullying as a current cultural issue,
that permeates our whole society. "We live in a culture that
approves of bullying."By the way, requiring accountability in
government, government agencies, and news organizations is not Bulling.
"Muslims, immigrants, minorities, & the poor; women--esp women of color;
"So fast the media erased his statement about Muslims, he asked
for a moratorium on immigration from seven specific countries also suspended by
Obama, that have terrorist activity. He did not say it about all Muslims. Again on immigrants the fake news edits out his statements are about
illegal immigrants that are criminals. How many crimes have been committed by
illegals, against women, against children, against American citizens. His wife
is an immigrant. He supports legal immigration.Please show a real
documented case attacking minorities, & the poor; women--esp women of color.
Again these are the liberal fake news statements by those that have been
preaching Russian collusion.As for the DOJ and FBI top brass they
have been committing crimes especially with the testimony of Ohr and Page.I am sorry that you feel he has been bullying Kim in Korea, Maduro in
Venezuela. That is part of the political game. Republicans do it and it's
bullying. Democrats do it and they call it honesty. And fake news
is fake news by anyone promoting fake news. Calling it out is not bulling.
patrioticAMERICAN - "It's interesting but not surprising that you only
list actions from people or orgs on the Left--completely ignoring the daily
onslaught of bullying from Trump"I believe jsf is responding to
a prior Liberal poster that basically stated it starts at White house.So according to you, it is okay to bash our current President because liberals
do not like it, but conservatives can not bash actual statements made by
democrats in congress... Right?Letterwriter - It is how you define
"bullying", If a young lady who does not like a young man because he
exhibit anger issues refuses to be their friend, does that constitute
"Bullying"?We have be clear on what Bullying is and is
not:Second, Parents are solely to blame. They think it is okay for
their kids behavior towards other kids and pass it off as "just growing
up". On the other hand, we have parents who refuse to teach their children
how to deal with failure. They often site "Bullying" as the reason they
failed.This is serious issue, but I think people need to have a more
objective view of the issue instead of an emotional view.
jsf; It's interesting but not surprising that you only list actions
from people or orgs on the Left--completely ignoring the daily onslaught of
bullying from Trump against DOJ, FBI, Mueller & his prosecutors; any news
org. that's not Fox or it's ilk, or their reporters; Muslims,
immigrants, minorities, & the poor; women--esp women of color; anyone of
consequence that says *anything* neg. abt him; basically any Dem (except for
"Nancy") & Hillary specifically (he can't seem to get past
2016); McCain or anyone who dares to vote against his policies; various
Democratic world leaders; etc. He makes up & proudly uses
juvenile names, & during his political career has been known to mock a
disabled reporter, people w/accents; McCain's war record, a sexual assault
victim (Ford) etc.; & has threatened or encouraged violence from his
supporters against his detractors, police against suspects, & lately law
enforcement, military & any of his gun-owning supporters against those who
oppose him. NTM the bullying that reg. comes from his inner circle:
Don Jr., Huckabee-Sanders, Conway, Stone, Nunes, Graham, Hannity, Pirro,
Meadows, Miller, etc. But sure, the Left is the problem!
Bullying is taught daily on TV. Late night shows every night, movies out of
Hollywood, progressives that demand conformity.False statements to
belittle opposition, "Not surprising since a good portion of our electorate
voted for a bully to be president."Maxine waters calling for
belligerent bullying. Ilian Omar calling for Muslims to terrorize others.
Liberal attacks by groups like Antifa supported by anyone. Those that attacked
the Covington kids. This is not a Trump problem and blaming him for
the culture of bullying that exists is ignoring the problem that really exists.
We live in a culture that approves of bullying. It
exists in the climate debate, it exists in the religion debate, it exists in the
LGBT debate, it exists in the collegiate free speech debate. Bullying exists any time any group demands others conform to their beliefs
through demeaning comments and actions.
Not surprising since a good portion of our electorate voted for a bully to be
president. It will be a long time before our nation recovers.
Bullying starts in the White House and trickles on down from there.
Bullying has escalated due to social media, smart phones, apps, and the
internet. You don't need to be physically intimidating or even face to face
to be a bully today. Which lowers the risk of the bully being confronted. Some
kids need a good "confrontation".
@ Thomas Jefferson; Well said. I might add that teens must remember to always
tell themselves that they are good people. They are not perfect and that's
okay. The people doing the bullying are always lacking human compassion and that
makes them lesser than anyone they bully.We who are older, look back
on early school days as a quick blip in life. The meaning at the time spent in
early schooling can be alarming at the time, but in the big picture it is
meaningless. Just be sure to keep learning all you can. As we age we realize
that our imperfections are just meaningless, we all have them. Some people have
imperfections on the outside and others have them on the inside. Some people who
are the "beautiful people" have hollow souls or other life ruining
aspects. Just keep reminding yourself you are okay, because you are, and you are
only human. A good human.
It's really sad that bullying has become so prevalent in this country.
It's a combination of our adult elected leaders that have made attacking
each other a common practice. We see name calling from the elected leaders in
our state and federal government. We see parents that have become politically
partisan and very vocal in opposing parties. We have adults guiding our
children and social media fueling the disrespect of others. It's become an
ugly way of living in these modern times. We need a cure, and the cure
starts with adults who are leading our country, leading the charge to give every
human being respect and decency. Watch who you vote for.
I dont really know how or if it is even possible to do but what would really
help is if there were a way to teach teens that none of the things you think are
so important* will matter in a few short years. You might not even remember the
names of the bullies who tormented you. Ignore* them and know that a life well
lived is the ultimate revenge. *Obviously not applicable to physical
bullying for which people should be brought up on charges.