Great article Brad. I really appreciated the perspective. It’s good to be
reminded that there are things going on behind the scenes that clearly influence
ones behavior in almost everything. To judge a situation based solely on the
immediate information available is shallow and most often wrong.
Brad, I appreciated your article. I hope it works out for all concerned.
Merril Hoge is an adult and not the football coach. He was out of line.He didn't help his son in the least, but added more stress.
I think we've all gone crazy defending a family member before.Beau had an amazing response. Excited to see him as a running
Wow. I really enjoyed this article. I always enjoy reading Brad Rock's
articles - there is always some entertaining little tidbit. But, this is
hands-down my favorite. It stepped away from sports and talked about being
humans that understand. I liked it. Best wishes to Beau, Merrill, BYU, the
coaching staff, etc. This was a feel-good article about a tense, public
disagreement. Well-done Mr. Rock.
So many opinions, so few facts. I always find interesting the anti-BYU crowd
who assume something nefarious must be going on. Can we just look at the
evident facts and stop with the speculation?1. The elder Hoge thinks that
his son is a good and perhaps great QB who should be given a continuing chance
to move up the QB depth chart.2. The coaches think that Hoge has
great potential as a football player but not as a QB. But he is too good an
athlete to sit on the sidelines or carry a clipboard waiting for an injury to
the starters. Better to try a new position.3. There is an
abundance of QBs on the roster with some good ones slated to come into the
program. SOME of them would have to change positions if they want playing time
or, if they really want a shot at QB, they will have to transfer. This is
actually not uncommon. 4. The coaches have no incentive to
"blackball" a player from competing at QB. Their evaluation, under
practice and game conditions and in comparison with others, is that he has no
real future as a QB. They do not see what the elder Hoge sees but the elder
Hoge does not see what they see.
While I often find fault with this reporter, I have to thank him for this. This
is a great perspective for fans to have before jumping to conclusions about the
I had a daughter who played collegiate softball, and I thought that since this
was college, I wouldn't be around delusional parents. I was wrong - I
still heard parents wonder aloud why their kid wasn't the #1 pitcher, why
their kid was on the bench, why kid wasn't batting in the #3 hole, why
their kid wasn't playing shortstop, etc. Some things never change.
Beau's and his team's response to the position change is what is
important; for him, the team, the school, fans and his dad.Get on
with it.I'll be cheering even more for you now Beau.
BlueHusky - Mission Viejo, CAAug. 16, 2018 10:16 a.m.You can
only hope, Robin.Again, wake us up if Utah actually finishes in the
top half of their conference.---------conversely wake us up when you
beat us. Your slumber will last much longer. Sleep well Guy!
Brad Rock gave a spot on assessment of the situation. Merrill didn't handle
this perfectly, but I understand where he's coming from. I thought Beau
handled it with complete class. I hope he has an equal amount of success at
running back this year.
"There is always a place for redemption and forgiveness on or off the
field."coogopinions:Unless Utah gives troubled
players from other programs--including your own--a chance at redemption and
forgiveness. Then it's, "Off with their heads!"Seems
like that says more about coog fans.
@JohnInSLCYour comments seem to tell more about our own life, than this
fine article. There is always a place for redemption and forgiveness on or off
Coaches will always be second guessed. I would like to know what the
quarterbacks coach and offensive coordinator think about Hoge. If they feel he
helps the team best at running back then I am satisfied with this move.
You can only hope, Robin.Again, wake us up if Utah actually finishes
in the top half of their conference.
The best part about this? We're two weeks away from football season and
BYU-P fans (and possibly the team) are completely focused on off-field parent
drama. Actually, maybe that's a good thing. It gets the focus
off of the on-field product.
I feel as sorry for Merrill Hoge as I do LaVar Ball.
I don't know. I worked in youth sports for years and dealt with
accusations (both baseless and justified), boorish behavior, and people who just
took their frustrations out on people who didn't deserve it. I'm okay
with one-time outbursts followed by an apology. In fact I actually respect
people who recognize and apologize for their behavior. But I stop short of
excusing unapologetic outbursts just because someone has dealt with hard things
in their life. I'll give him space and won't blast his twitter
account or something--but those outbursts do result in some lost respect.
BYU Football and the Athletic Department have an opportunity to show that they
are a class-act...just don't respond. The staff has every
right to lash-back. This wasn't just a father speaking; this was a former
NFL player and ESPN commentator; using his credentials to garner a far larger
platform for his grievances than any player or parent would have.Just don't respond. Don't waste good. The boy has a lot
of potential. The staff wants to take advantage of that. Based on camp &
practices, BYU has the 1, 2, & 3 string QBs selected. Beau isn't one of
them--not this year. But, Beau has too much potential to cut. Keep Beau on the
team & on the field as a RB. Continue developing his awareness, timing,
speed, agility, & ability to read the field...If a slot opens up for Beau as
a QB next year...awareness, timing, speed, agility, & ability to read the
field are all good things for a QB to have developed. Just
don't respond to Merril, it'll alienate Beau. All the "right"
in the world won't make a son choose a team over his dad.Eventually, Beau...and maybe Merrill...will come to appreciate that Beau has a
better shot at the NFL by being on the field than on the bench.
You have to admit the move does seem a little odd, given the fact that the QB
coach had Hoge listed as one of the QBs likely to win the job. Maybe the staff
felt he was the only one of a crowded position that could move, or maybe
Merrill's comment that Lamb was looking out for his own recruit was true.
Only the staff knows for sure, but there have been other sources pointing to
issues within the program management that have to be troubling.
I remember listening to the father of a college football player complain about
how the Head Coach chose somebody else over his son as a starter. He went on and
on about the conspiracy against his kid. He claimed that the Head Coach was
close friends with the other boy's family and was playing
"favorites." Talent had nothing to do with the choice he insisted. The starter, whose name most of you would recognize, had by this time
earned numerous Conference and National honors, broken several School records,
and was first team All-American - suggesting that talent may have had everything
to do with him winning the job. I decided not to point that out to the angry
father of course. I understood that he was just being a Dad who wanted the best
for his Son. I'm not exactly rationale about my two boys either. Maybe its
time to just chalk up what happened with Merril to being a Dad and move on.
Brad, nice way to distract readers from the fact you and the DNews are not doing
your job of, you know, actual journalism. The real question here is not about
name-calling, it is this: - Was Hoge wrong about what had taken place?
As critical as the DNews has been about coaching staffs of other
schools lately, it's pretty obvious the paper wants to completely avoid ANY
examination of the truth here.
I agree with Brad. Being a father I understand and want the best for our kids.
Merril isn’t in practice so he’s not fully in tune with what happens
and what the coaches see. Beau deserves the opportunity to become the best he
can be and maybe running back is it. If the injury bug bites again he may find
himself back at QB. The whole team should be focused to improve on a 4-9 season.
When my children were involved in team sports as youngsters i would tell them
the older they got the more fair the coaches would be. Boy was i wrong! Coaches
have favorite players, coaches have children, both of whom are going to play
fair or not. That's at every level of sports.
Well stated Brad. I agree.
Great article Brad. I completely agree. Merrill does owe the BYU coaches an
apology however. IMO.
Im willing to forgive some very unwise comments from Merril Hoge... but despite
the hardships...he should have known better.... and it certainly did not help
his son navigate his own setback. Parents of ALL college athletes give heart and
soul to their children hoping they will achieve their dreams...and most often
they personally become ego invested along the way. When coaches decide against
YOUR child, then parental emotional outbursts cause the child more problems and
embarrassment. It appears Merril got caught in this trap. He made it worse
because his tantrum was in front of a national audience. Hey Merril, your
son needs your support, not your rant. We are sorry for your disappointment and
your trials, and we are all pulling for your sons success....so are the coaches.
This setback may ultimately serve your son amazingly well. We are rooting for
him and you.
I appreciated getting some context. Thanks, Mr. Rock. I’ll withhold any
Injuries are frustrating and end careers all the time. Merril Hoge is used to
offering his opinion as a sports commentator so his rant was probably
instinctive. That’s how families go sometimes, Dad embarrassing his kids,
or maybe kids embarrassing dad etc
Excellent article Brad.I couldn’t agree more.
As a parent of a couple sons who played football and participated in track, I
understand the feelings of a parent wanting their of-spring to do well and to
have every opportunity possible. I get that---I really do, but going public
with outrage over what some coaches have determined is the best thing for the
team is classless. Sports types want all the hype and glory without any of the
failures or criticism. Well, it's a package deal. It all comes with the
territory and the sooner we all act like adults the better, especially those
who are adults. I'm willing to give Merril Hoge the benefit of the doubt,
assuming if this turns out to be a good decision that he acknowledges that at
some point. Keep it balanced.
"The elder Hoge’s frame of mind can’t be great right now. He was
laid off in 2017 by ESPN after 21 productive years with the network.
That’s a soul-crushing experience. He and his wife divorced several years
ago."That's a highly speculative comment. I think his
frame of mind is spot on! Bringing his marital status into the discussion is
"off topic" and irrelevant.