Men are helping more around the house and favor more gender equality, new research shows

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  • LOU Montana Pueblo, CO
    April 5, 2018 5:17 a.m.

    This is new in Utah?

  • yankees27 Heber, Utah
    April 4, 2018 11:59 a.m.

    We made a conscious decision to have children, and more than average. We discussed current responsibilities, and future responsibilities. I worked more than double the average hours, sometimes 2 jobs to allow my wife to spend the early, formative years with our kids. Because I was earning the money, she took care of the household, with me pitching in as much as possible, but not much early on. As the kids got older, and started school, she went to work part time, so I helped at home more, now I still work 40+, and she does 30+, so we're about equal on duties. I've always done my own laundry, so I do 50%of that as well, I do most of the cooking, so I grocery shop for what I need and want. We split cleaning duties with the kids. My wife has done the mornings with the kids, and I run them after school to the few things they are active in. We made a decision long ago that we weren't going to put our kids in everything. We have game night once a week, we eat dinner together every night (even the teens) and have family movie or dinner out once a week. We're busy, but not crazy. We actually love all of the free time we have with our kids. And each other.

  • bass679 Novi, MI
    April 4, 2018 10:07 a.m.

    I'm not sure what your marriage is like but what you described in your first post is a cross between a house keeper and a prostitute. Is that your ideal of a good marriage? If that's what you're looking for, that's your business but some of us are looking for an actual person for our spouse; not a maid that also puts out.

  • Gildas LOGAN, UT
    April 4, 2018 9:19 a.m.

    While 'illuminated' made some good points, he missed the things that traditional wives once did and some who still do. If a man can find a faithful and loving companion, willing to bear children, especially when the number exceeds the average, willing to help raise those children, to cook and make and keep the home beautiful at the same time, I think everyone gets a good deal and I would not be too exact in the accounting.

    However I think that separate and equal access to the same bank account too often does not work; either partner can create debt, sometimes considerable, for the other. If possible a joint account should require two signatures, and forgery should be prosecuted.

  • bass679 Novi, MI
    April 4, 2018 7:24 a.m.

    I don't know. I do about 50% of the Laundry, 30% of the housekeeping and 95% of the cooking; I'd happily take the rest of the laundry to cut down that housekeeping number. As long as my wife is doing the majority of that plus taking care of the kids during the day I think I'm getting a decent deal.

  • illuminated Kansas City, MO
    April 4, 2018 6:48 a.m.

    Think about your personal business or employment. Why would anyone enter a business contract where you make all the money, call it an "equal partnership", and your partner can leave at any time and take half?

    But that's modern marriage!

    If someone is living under the roof I paid for, eating the food I paid for, & wearing the clothes I paid for, they are NOT my equal business partner. They are benefiting from my benevolence and should abide by my authority and my rules. The least they can do is keep the home clean, and cook a hot meal each day. Is that too much to ask?

    Historically marriages were arranged by a family to an older, established man who could take care of someone's daughter for the rest of her life. "Love" was not the priority because "Love" doesn't pay the bills. Parents didn't want their daughter to run off with the bum down the street because they knew she'd be back living with them again in short order.

    Women used to understood that the man taking care of her was the head of the household and that she should submit to him as taught in Ephesians 5:22-23. If we went back to a system like this, women and families would be far more happy and successful.

  • illuminated Kansas City, MO
    April 4, 2018 6:39 a.m.

    Imagine seeing an ad in the newspaper like this:

    "Large, fully-furnished home available for female tenant. Rent, utilities and all other personal amenities paid for including food, clothing, and health care. Tenant will receive monthly allowance for personal spendnig. Tenant is only required to keep home clean, cook dinner once a day and do a couple personal favors for the landlord each week.

    This is a lifetime opportunity. You'll never need to work again!"

    Does that not sound like an incredible deal? This was marriage for a woman not too long ago. And I guarantee you, most men would have loved to keep this arrangement. But that wasn't enough..

    Women now require the "landlord" to do half the chores for her, cook, clean and entertain her each day. And if she ever gets tired of the arrangement, she can leave at any time and steal the home from the landlord and require him to continue paying her for many more years, sometimes for the rest of his life.

  • benjjamin Provo, UT
    April 3, 2018 8:55 p.m.

    In my house, I do 95% of the shopping, 60% of the dishwashing, 30% of the housecleaning, 60% of the cooking, and 95% of the laundry. And I work more than full time. And my wife doesn't work.
    I guess you could say the pendulum is swinging to the opposite extreme in my household. Thanks feminists!