Mormon Women for Ethical Government release statement regarding abuse of women

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  • Cav Pilot St George, UT
    Feb. 13, 2018 1:14 p.m.

    I would be interested in knowing who any of these "LDS rising stars" that abuse their spouse or children are.
    My experience, even within the church a man winds up being accountable for accusations, even when they have no foundation in truth. He has to rebuild his reputation.
    I am also aware of there being instances of spousal abuse by a young man, who seemed to be given a "pass" because of his father's calling. Of course it was that father who could not believe that his own son would do such things and gave him the pass. Humans are not perfect. Just because we strive for perfection, doesn't mean that we accomplish it, even when in leadership positions. reading the scriptures you constantly find examples of otherwise good people, failing.
    In answer to another comment, yes, there are women who are disciplined for abuse. but also keep in mind that church discipline is not "legal" discipline, there is a huge difference, to include what you should expect from the church's disciplinary councils.

  • Pssst LOGAN, UT
    Feb. 12, 2018 8:24 a.m.

    Have any women been excommunicated or disciplined in any way for abusing their husbands? Just wondering.

  • illuminated Kansas City, MO
    Feb. 10, 2018 3:26 p.m.

    So if the woman must be automatically believed, then the man must be automatically disbelieved. Isn't that the very definition of sexism?

  • brotherJonathan SLC, UT
    Feb. 10, 2018 11:16 a.m.

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  • CMTM , 00
    Feb. 10, 2018 11:03 a.m.

    RE: batfink .I'm yet to meet a perfect Mormon or a group of perfect Mormons for that matter so how can I request they stop using the Mormon name as a collective of Mormons ? True,

    ”Inasmuch as this Church of Christ(JS) has been reproached with the crime of fornication and polygamy, we declare that we believe that one man should have one wife, and one woman but one husband”, (H of C, vol. 2, pg. 247 August 1835.)

  • AZ Eagle ,
    Feb. 10, 2018 10:01 a.m.

    Looks to me like anyone can call themselves "Mormon" and get free publicity so they can attack all men in general. My advice to women is, "If you suffer physical abuse, call 911. But remember there are criminal penalties for filing a false police report."

    My advice to men is, "If you find yourself ready to hit a woman in anger, walk away from the situation. Find ways to get rid of your anger. Here are some tips from the Mayo Clinic on how to deal with anger."
    1. Take a timeout.
    2. Go for a walk or run outdoors.
    3. Breathe deeply and relax.
    4. Think of some positive solutions.
    5. Use "I" statements like, "I am upset that you did that."
    6. Forgive and learn from the situation.
    7. Seek help from a trusted counselor.

  • Karen R. Houston, TX
    Feb. 10, 2018 9:57 a.m.

    I get the concern of guys who worry about accusers being automatically believed. It puts them in a vulnerable spot, one in which their well-being isn't dependent on what's true, but on the group with the power and influence, and whether they're inclined to do the right thing rather than protect their own. Really - we women get that.

    So while the data shows that false accusations dwarf valid ones, I'm all for making sure a steep price is paid for making false accusations. (Including for men who falsely accuse women of lying.) It's not only the right thing to do, it's in everyone's best interests. The better we are at catching and holding accountable the liars, the more trust everyone will have in the system.

  • batfink Australia, 00
    Feb. 10, 2018 9:55 a.m.

    " I wish groups wouldn't use names like that. You aren't necessarily representative of "Mormon women". No group can be, which is why the church shouldn't be used for any agenda no matter how well meaning. "

    Hmm, I pondered that too but then it dawned on me to 'cast the beam out of mine own eye first' as I call myself a Mormon but regularly fall short of the mark.
    I'm yet to meet a perfect Mormon or a group of perfect Mormons for that matter so how can I request they stop using the Mormon name as a collective of Mormons ?

  • batfink Australia, 00
    Feb. 10, 2018 9:39 a.m.

    Let she who is without sin cast the first stone.

  • dski HERRIMAN, UT
    Feb. 10, 2018 9:00 a.m.

    Abused? As soon as possible, walk out the door while you call the police. Nip it or end it before it gets worse. Abusers have forgotten what they signed up or make an eternal promise for. Trade them in immediately. Too many cases of hope they will change. They do claim they have changed in their parole hearings. All these going on while the abused are permanent residents of city cemeteries.

  • Kevin J. Kirkham Salt Lake City, UT
    Feb. 10, 2018 8:40 a.m.

    Forgiveness is the Answer said it better than anyone could. Those who abuse another must be punished, as well as those who abuse someone else through false accusations.

    We've all heard of women making false and exaggerated claims of abuse of themselves and/or children in order to get a more favorable divorce settlement. We've all heard of the Duke lacrosse team incident as well as the girl who carried around her mattress around campus as a symbol of her own alleged rape. Both of those incidents were proven to be false accusations against innocent men.

    Women who claim abuse/rape deserve to have their claims investigated and prosecuted should their claims are found to have merit. They don't deserve to be automatically believed simply because they are women. Edward R. Murrow stated, "We must remember always that accusation is not proof and that conviction depends upon evidence and due process of law. We will not walk in fear, one of another. " If women are automatically believed and their accusations are considered proof, without due process of law, then we all will walk in fear of one another. The #metoo movement is causing men to be afraid of dealing with women.

  • patriotstate Cedar City, UT
    Feb. 10, 2018 7:59 a.m.

    Mweg is a liberal political group, and is out demanding their social justice in warrior fashion. Mweg is a way to whine about losing the last presidential election.

    ^which demeans real victims, because simply being mweg means it's about social, not justice.

  • Kay Hunt Celebration, FL
    Feb. 10, 2018 7:38 a.m.

    In my experience and those of other women who I know who were also abused by their Mormon husbands little or nothing was done. The comments I got from my bishop early in my marriage was "you just need to make better meals and be a better wife". A friend was told, "you just need to lose a little weight" another was told, "you just need to have more sex" and yet another was told after the children reported sexual abuse, "I refuse to believe this good man that I know could possibly be doing this". None of th above husbands were ever held to the facts and not moved from "good standing".
    There does need to be better training for bishops and for members. Abuse of any kind should not be tolerated! And then we need to define what it is so that women and children know that being degraded, disrespected, belittled, name calling and etc are not normal and is abuse.

  • moresureword Maple Grove, MN
    Feb. 10, 2018 7:30 a.m.

    "Mormon Women for Ethical Government is ... dedicated to the ideals of decency, honor, accountability, transparency, and justice in governing."

    The first principle and law of a righteous government, is that this government must never be self-serving. It should never act in and of itself and of its own accord for the sake of its own existence. A righteous government serves those that benefit from its existence, and those who benefit from its existence are those who give it the power that it has received. That power, again, is limited to serving those who gave it power.

    A righteous government will do nothing that infringes upon the free agency of those whom it serves, except in defending the free agency of another from being infringed upon.

    A righteous government follows the principles outlined by the prophet Joseph Smith in the 11th Article of Faith. It allows all humans the privilege of worshiping their God according to the dictates of their own conscience, worshipping how, where, or what they may.

    A righteous religion would support the principles of a righteous government and not impose its religion on other human beings.

  • Forgiveness is the Answer St George, UT
    Feb. 10, 2018 12:11 a.m.

    From extensive personal experience, I've repeatedly witnessed how the Church has stood for disciplining most severely any person who has abused his wife or a member of his family, even beyond excommunication, ensuring the natural legal consequences be fulfilled many years before readmission.

    On the other hand, I have also witnessed false police reports where both a woman and a man have made allegations of the grossest of abuse that they knew they had completely invented and were wholly false, solely to make someone suffer, and the ramifications of those false police reports still continue destroying lives decades later.

    So, not all women "must be believed," because too many use it as a weapon in divorce and in the business world. The accused is entitled to "due process" in the American Constitution. The Church handles it better than any organization or government I know of.

  • sashabill Morgan Hill, CA
    Feb. 9, 2018 5:00 p.m.

    "These women must be heard and they must be believed." As much as I sympathize with and support these women, I have reservations about the "must be believed" part. They must be believed -- if they have evidence and facts to substantiate their accusation. For what it's worth, I can testify from personal experience that people can, and do, get falsely accused of spousal and child abuse.

  • kaysvillecougar KAYSVILLE, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 3:04 p.m.

    Impartial, nowhere in the article does is say that every priesthood holder who abuses his wife or children receives church discipline. You made that one up. It would be great if we had perfect justice in this life. Sometimes abuse is not brought up by the victim. Sometimes there are allegations and denials so I'm sure not every situation is so cut and dry. My experience is that the church as a whole does an amazing job of taking abuse seriously.

  • 79Ute Orange County, CA
    Feb. 9, 2018 3:03 p.m.

    @Impartial:

    First, I'm sure you join me in sending sincere condolences to the women in this case and the victims in every case.

    Looking at just one case, which is certainly one too many, it's impossible to say that previous admonishments aren't working generally.

    Although it appears that Porter didn't take the many admonishments to heart that he must have heard if he attended church, and it appears he didn't live up to the standards for behavior so clearly set forth in LDS scripture (i.e. Doctrine and Covenants Section 121), my anecdotal experience in church leadership demonstrates that Pres. Hinckley's statement is indeed the standard that leaders look to in training, counseling, and discipline. My experience is that leaders unequivocally teach these principles, pulling no punches in priesthood leadership meetings. My experience is that perpetrators are dealt with strictly and that victims are supported.

    I believe this episode will strengthen the resolve of church authorities, general and local, to apply better the training and counsel they are receiving as they deal with this aberrant, abhorrent, inexcusable behavior.

  • Impartial7 DRAPER, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 2:41 p.m.

    @kaysvillecougar;
    "Impartial's comment is completely inaccurate. Maybe you could let us know why the LDS church doesn't abhor abuse. "

    I'm sure the church abhors it. I'm disputing the fact that every priesthood holder that abuses his wife is disciplined as stated.

  • screenname Salt Lake City, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 2:34 p.m.

    (Im)partial,

    That's a whole lot of allegations in such a short comment. Any citations or are you just showing your impartiality again?

  • RoxyLynne Madison, IN
    Feb. 9, 2018 2:30 p.m.

    I wish groups wouldn't use names like that. You aren't necessarily representative of "Mormon women". No group can be, which is why the church shouldn't be used for any agenda no matter how well meaning.

  • QuickRick Brigham City, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 2:23 p.m.

    Impartial7 says:
    "Obviously there a lot of abusers that are in good standing."

    I always mistrust a statement that begins with "obviously". If it really is obvious, that wouldn't need to be stated.

    Examples, please.

  • kaysvillecougar KAYSVILLE, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 2:13 p.m.

    Impartial's comment is completely inaccurate. Maybe you could let us know why the LDS church doesn't abhor abuse. I'm not buying it my friend. You're anti-LDS bias couldn't be further from the truth.

  • Impartial7 DRAPER, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 1:55 p.m.

    @SayNotoBO;
    "I'm so glad MWEG spoke out about this. There are so many people who are in favor of abusing women. /sarc off"

    They're speaking up now, because whatever admonishments that were made before aren't working.

  • Say No to BO Mapleton, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 1:26 p.m.

    I'm so glad MWEG spoke out about this. There are so many people who are in favor of abusing women. /sarc off

  • Impartial7 DRAPER, UT
    Feb. 9, 2018 1:19 p.m.

    "No man who abuses his wife or children is worthy to be a member in good standing in this Church. The abuse of one’s spouse and children is a most serious offense before God.' "

    That sounds great in theory, but it's clearly not policy. Especially if the abuser is a rising mormon star. Obviously there a lot of abusers that are in good standing.