What is needed in both women and men is character! Physical appearance means
nothing if the person lacks morality and character.
Physical beauty doesn't matter much. It will attract men, but it won't
keep the right type of men. There always has to be something more to maintain a
long-term relationship. But, I do realize there are both men and women who
aren't looking for anything long-term. Hopefully we can all find long-term
President Elder Uchtdorf very effectively gave the inspired solution in the
Women's General Conference in October 2017, Sister Glad. It applies to
brothers as well.
SarahCochran - you said it perfectly- "It is disturbing that American women
believe that their worth is dependent on their attractiveness...".I
used to work with adolescent and young adult females for several years. It was
so disheartening when they would be so vulnerable to esteem dependent on what
they thought others valued of their physical appearance. They often even
demonstrated fear that education would be something that could decrease their
appeal. Many only had mentors who saw themselves the same way. That
said, as the first female college graduate in my family, in one of my courses a
professor noted that the common factor behind first time college attendance in a
family is someone, even just one person, who showed them they could. I tried to
make it a point to let each young woman i worked with know that they had
education opportunities and that i believed they could succeed. I tried to
avoid language associated with their physical attributes and focused on their
minds, and their goodness. I told them about the women and men who encouraged
How about, we have way too much time on our hands to put so much stress on our
I watch movies and TVs. I get ticked off that only pretty young things can play
a part in a show but men can be fat, ugly and competent. Women can only be
labeled as competent if they are proper eye candy as well.This is what is
leading the negative self-image vision. You need to be a princess or beautiful
to be considered of value., where as a guy is good as whatever. Even geeks that
were downtrodden have won respect, but if your older woman with less than
high-heeled showpiece of a body... your not a woman of value. Hence There is no
reasonable image of women as they are.
An excellent article! Women have SO much more intellect, beauty, character,
love, etc than many men. I married a woman who was (and still is) VERY
intellectual and who has raised our kids extremely well. I am very grateful to
our Lord for bringing her into contact with me.
I wish everyone were as comfortable in their own skin as I am in mine. If I woke
up every morning worrying about what society thought of me, I would be a
complete mental case!
The sentence "Equally disturbing: Only about 1 in 10 American women consider
themselves to be very attractive, and nearly one-quarter says they are not very
attractive or that they are unattractive" is bolstering this problem.It is not disturbing that American women consider themselves
unattractive. It is disturbing that American women believe that their worth is
dependent on their attractiveness, which sentences like this support. Thanks.