Mormon Neon Trees drummer and husband open up in hopes to ‘normalize’ conversation about porn

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  • G L W8 SPRINGVILLE, UT
    Dec. 4, 2017 6:33 a.m.

    I reject notions that porn is a natural and healthy way for men to express their sexuality. There are too many examples and a number of studies that indicate that, yes, it is a harmful drug addiction.
    Most guys I grew up with engaged in "locker room talk" and dirty jokes. Some of my male friends quickly realized those behaviors were unhealthy. Others fell into the trap.
    Teen-age pregnancies and prostitution have been prevalent in all ages. But does that make them right?
    So-called "soft porn" is abundant on television and the internet. I've taped a picture of the Savior large enough to cover the screen on the top or side, swinging it aside when I've wanted to use the device. It's a good way to remind a viewer to use self control. On small screens, it can even be swung back into place when something visually bordering on porn comes on, or to change channels or websites quickly if both video and audio are objectionable.
    A bigger picture can be placed near a larger tv monitor.
    As with all other substance abuse challenges, porn is all about self-control. Most spouses will expect that of themselves and their husbands or wives. If we love them, we'll control ourselves.

  • MoreMan San Diego, CA
    Dec. 2, 2017 5:01 p.m.

    I guess you need to take a step back to realize that porn is way more popular and pervasive than Mormonism... no wonder it is brought so much at Conference.

  • Kevin J. Kirkham Salt Lake City, UT
    Dec. 2, 2017 9:36 a.m.

    Men's natural affinity for porn and women's natural hatred of it boils down to our natures. Men want lots of young beautiful healthy women to spread their seed far and wide. Women want a man to help them once that seed arrives. They want protection and resources so they favor tall, strong, rich men. Women also have innate feelings of inadequacy so they like men who are politically powerful or famous.

    Porn promotes their inadequate feelings since the women are young, fit, beautiful, amorous and wives often aren't. Porn also allows men to pursue their individual tastes in women. if a man has a thing for Asian cheerleaders or leggy redheads, there are undoubtedly porn sites for those. Such further denigrate the wives who don't match their husbands' inner desires.

    Women's porn deals with women taming powerful men. Google studied women's choices regarding porn searches and the top picks involved vampires, surgeons, werewolves and billionaires. 50 Shades of Gray being a hit since it was designed to hit women's buttons.

    Men are far less bothered by women using porn since it gets women in the mood. It's a win-win.

  • Glen Danielsen Yorba Linda, CA
    Dec. 1, 2017 2:28 p.m.

    I hope it’s okay to have a preference. I prefer the words of divinely called and inspired Special Witnesses and General Auxiliary Leaders on the issue. And other official Church sources. I love the way truth comes from them, and their uncanny clarity and incisive light.
    And you know, I’ve never seen these mouthpieces shame anyone about the porn issue. I choose my oracles carefully.

  • Joshua Thinks SLC, UT
    Dec. 1, 2017 11:29 a.m.

    It all just seems like a lot of tempest in a pot of tea. We humans have been looking at pornography since we could paint on cave walls. The only "damage" seems to be when one person in a the relationship feels threatened by their partner looking at others and gets jealous, or when someone who works in porn is taken advantage of. As long as everyone is having a good, healthy time and no one gets hurt, it seams like a fairly safe expression of sexuality. No risk of STDs. No risk of unintended pregnancy. I realize it can be come a compulsive behavior, but so can eating or washing your hands, and I don't see anyone calling those things "drugs" or blaming their relationship problems on "hand-washing addiction"

  • Nother brother Olympia, WA
    Dec. 1, 2017 8:29 a.m.

    Love my tunes, not my faves, but my few quibbles with Fight the New Drug are minor indeed on balance with the earnest, necessary good they are out to do. Major, major props to Elaine, Sebastian, and yourselves-morgan, too- for this absolute best DN article in months. same goes for the link. Keep em coming!

  • Facts are friendly Sandy, UT
    Nov. 30, 2017 8:56 p.m.

    Mature relationship. They get it.

    So many judgmental people don't get it. Shame ensues. Love dies unnecessarily.

    If more women would understand the men "don't get" their wive's addiction to shopping and instagram, then maybe some self-awareness could prevail.

    Don't understand the pull of porn? Well, honey, I don't understand the pull of Nordstrom and Instagram.

    Fair enough...

  • strom thurmond taylorsville, UT
    Nov. 30, 2017 7:59 p.m.

    This culture is horrific

  • Ogrepete Sandy, UT
    Nov. 30, 2017 5:35 p.m.

    Props to both of them. Two thumbs way, WAY up!