Competition is good. It can drive us to be better, and to do better than we
otherwise would.The issue is what do you do when you win or lose.If you win, do you gloat and tell everybody how great you are or do you
honestly tell your competitors how well they did and the honor it was to compete
with them?If you lose, do you develop a hatred of those that did
better than you or do you congratulate them and ask those that beat you what you
could do to do better?Competition is not the problem, it is our
attitudes about winning and losing.
Yes, I think this article has it about right: competition can be a building
experience but sometimes can't people just enjoy a game without a contest,
without gloating winners and heartbroken losers. Then maybe the children can
learn to read and write, basic arithmetical functions, basic history and
geography and civics.Isn't it odd that, for all the apparent
competition for grades, that undergraduates need remedial work and are often
ignorant of even the most fundamental facts though? Somehow all this supposed
competition isn't yielding results. That's the result of "being
positive" about poor performance. So we do have two problems:
too much emphasis on sports and too little on basic knowledge and kindness. Does it really matter if you don't win every game? Are you a
better person b'c your team wins, whether you are a participant or an idle
observer? Is it the end of the world b'c your team or your child's
team loses sometimes? What a lot of sporting crybabies we have of all ages.
Good grief; aren't there more important things to be doing? Keep sport in
its place and pursue knowledge, wisdom, decency and kindness.
We definitely live in a state where it is all about winning and being number
one. That creates a lot of problems for many kids and adults that always
struggle with being good enough.