4 ways to encourage healthy competition in kids

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  • Redshirt1701 Deep Space 9, Ut
    Aug. 12, 2014 12:06 p.m.

    Competition is good. It can drive us to be better, and to do better than we otherwise would.

    The issue is what do you do when you win or lose.

    If you win, do you gloat and tell everybody how great you are or do you honestly tell your competitors how well they did and the honor it was to compete with them?

    If you lose, do you develop a hatred of those that did better than you or do you congratulate them and ask those that beat you what you could do to do better?

    Competition is not the problem, it is our attitudes about winning and losing.

  • Gildas LOGAN, UT
    Aug. 12, 2014 6:03 a.m.

    Yes, I think this article has it about right: competition can be a building experience but sometimes can't people just enjoy a game without a contest, without gloating winners and heartbroken losers. Then maybe the children can learn to read and write, basic arithmetical functions, basic history and geography and civics.

    Isn't it odd that, for all the apparent competition for grades, that undergraduates need remedial work and are often ignorant of even the most fundamental facts though? Somehow all this supposed competition isn't yielding results. That's the result of "being positive" about poor performance.

    So we do have two problems: too much emphasis on sports and too little on basic knowledge and kindness.

    Does it really matter if you don't win every game? Are you a better person b'c your team wins, whether you are a participant or an idle observer? Is it the end of the world b'c your team or your child's team loses sometimes? What a lot of sporting crybabies we have of all ages. Good grief; aren't there more important things to be doing? Keep sport in its place and pursue knowledge, wisdom, decency and kindness.

  • Fullypresent Salt Lake City, UT
    Aug. 10, 2014 4:33 p.m.

    We definitely live in a state where it is all about winning and being number one. That creates a lot of problems for many kids and adults that always struggle with being good enough.