Nearly half of children experience trauma, creating potential for woeful outcomes when they grow up

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  • Eliyahu Pleasant Grove, UT
    Aug. 9, 2014 7:46 a.m.

    Dealing with stress and adversity is part of what prepares a child for adult life. Children who've never experienced anything more unpleasant than not getting the dessert they want at dinner are going to be singularly unprepared to deal with the frustrations and stresses of adult life. Growing up in poverty taught me to manage money carefully and to not waste what I have. Growing up with an abusive father taught me to feel compassion for others and to treat them kindly, the way I would have wanted to be treated. It taught me to be careful about judging others, as I have no idea of the burdens they carry inside or the battles they've had to fight to survive. Had I grown up in a carefree and idyllic environment, I might easily have assumed that life had been just as easy for everyone else and not been able to empathize when they have a hard time getting by.

  • Needa Nap St.George, UT
    Aug. 8, 2014 7:53 a.m.

    So divorce is worse that living in a home with constant fighting and a husband verbally and emotionally abusing his wife? Is divorce worse that having a dad in the home sitting at the computer or laying on the couch, refusing to get a job while the wife does everything? What kind of example of what a fathers role entails is that? In the divorce parenting class it says that WHERE EVER there is less stress, fighting, upset and unhappy parents even if the parents are apart, That is what is best for kids!!

  • happymom123 Clearfield, UT
    Aug. 7, 2014 3:09 p.m.

    I wanted so much to help my daughter to cope with the divorce of her father and I. I wanted her and I to attend family counseling in order to help her through it, but unfortunately my rights as a mother was taken away when her father manage to get full custody of her. Now she has grown up being an angry young adult who doesn't want anything to do with me. I have faith that Heavenly Father will one day manage to touch her spirit to help have a change of heart.

  • Wonder Provo, UT
    Aug. 7, 2014 10:19 a.m.

    To clarify, by "physically harmed" in my previous post, I mean harmed in an additional way besides the rape (i.e. killed, attempted murder, cuts and bruises, black eyes, etc.) Otherwise you must not have fought, so you must have consented (per the "legitimate rape" crowd.)

  • Wonder Provo, UT
    Aug. 7, 2014 10:17 a.m.

    @Mainly Me -- Liberals want to go easy on sexual predators??? I've never heard that one. I thought it was conservatives who believed in the "legitimate rape" concept (that a woman has to have been physically harmed or she must have consented). Most "liberals" I read about say get tougher on rape. Weird topic to bash liberals on.

  • A Guy With A Brain Enid, OK
    Aug. 5, 2014 5:38 p.m.

    So is a child living with constantly bickering parents/constant contention an "ACE" experience? Just guessing here, but though the article did not specifiy it is, I bet it is.

    (By the way, it would be smart if the article explained that "ACE" meant "adverse childhood experience".)

  • lost in DC West Jordan, UT
    Aug. 5, 2014 8:52 a.m.

    what should we expect when we live in a society where

    half of the children are born to single mothers?

    the value of having a mother AND a father is ignored?

    we feast on violent and foul entertainment - Breaking Bad, Sons of Anarchy, Game of Thrones, Spartacus, Rome, Bill Maher, Sopranos, True Blood, rap, etc ad infinitum?

    personal immediate gratification is ALWAYS the goal over long-term fulfillment or societal benefits that require some current sacrifices?

    the traditional family is mocked and alternative lifestyles are praised?

    the law of the harvest - as ye sow, even so shall ye reap

    I am glad our only solution is not to kill people - we use many other non-lethal punishments as well. Since there is a wide range of crimes, a wide range of punishments are available. But the punishment needs to fit the crime, and that does include capital punishment for certain extreme crimes.

  • SomeClarityPlease Quiet Neighborhood, UT
    Aug. 5, 2014 12:25 a.m.

    My feelings are that divorce should generally be considered child abuse when you have adults thinking mostly of themselves.

  • jzzlvr Salt Lake City, UT
    Aug. 4, 2014 8:20 p.m.

    I don't think that divorce is an "adverse childhood experience". My ex-wife many times said it would not affect the kids at all as she was leaving our family.

  • Midwest Mom Soldiers Grove, WI
    Aug. 3, 2014 7:30 p.m.

    Violence begets violence. When we conclude that the only solution is to kill people, we have run out of ideas. The answers lie not in what to do after the problem, but in trying to build stronger people, families and society, in order to prevent such human damage.

    "No nation can rise above the strength of its homes or the virtue of its people."
    (Gordon B. Hinckley)

    "Charity never faileth..." (1 Corinthians 13:8)

  • Mainly Me Werribee, 00
    Aug. 3, 2014 4:53 p.m.

    I love the liberals and progressives who want to go easy on sexual predators. In 2007, SCOTUS ruled on this: "As it relates to crimes against individuals, though, the death penalty should not be expanded to instances where the victim’s life was not taken." -Justice Anthony Kennedy, writing for the majority in Kennedy v. Louisiana (2007)

    None of these arbiters of the law have ever been raped as a child. They say, "Oh, golly gee, the child can always get counseling." I speak from experience when I say that counseling doesn't do much to help. I was raped as a child several times and I've had years of counseling. It doesn't work. My life was a total mess and I suffered from suicidal depression. Many victims of rape do kill themselves. What about that life then? Didn't the rapist kill that victim?

    The death penalty is too kind for this type of scum.

  • Maudine SLC, UT
    Aug. 3, 2014 4:33 p.m.

    One of the things we know from previous research is that children who have supportive adults in their lives do better coping with adverse childhood events (ACEs). This adult can be a parent, a friend's parent, teacher, religious leader, aunt, uncle, older sibling, older cousin, etc. Having more than one caring, involved adult increases the chances of overcoming ACEs - the ideal is 3. And ii is even better if the person is there consistently throughout their childhood, although new relationship with caring, involved adults can also work to mitigate the harm.

    Therapy is great, but programs like Big Brothers/Big Sisters (or other mentoring programs) are also really helpful.