Wright Words: Bad days are inevitable — complaining is not

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  • EugeneMD East Millcreek, UT
    July 30, 2014 9:13 a.m.

    I think Jason hit the nail on the head with this article. The comments have all been great so far too. I think it's great to have family and friends that you can talk to and share both good and bad, but it doesn't do anyone any good to dwell on the negative. Get it off your chest and move forward. It bothers me when people only want to hear the bad, because it somehow makes them feel better and if we're "too positive" then it makes them feel like we're "perfect". There is a big difference between optimism and perfectionism. If I choose to be optimistic then don't label me as a perfect person who never has any problems. Everyone has problems, we just deal with them differently. And as a listener, while I don't mind listening to your problems and helping you sort through them, I also want to hear the good things and celebrate the positives in your life. I feel like the more we look for GOOD, the more often we will find it, in ourselves as well as in others.

  • lindygal Dallas, TX
    July 30, 2014 8:56 a.m.

    I've always taught my children that trials and disappointments will come to us all, but it is how we react to such trials that will set us apart. Life is so much better when we choose to have a good attitude, trust in the Lord, and not complain. However, I have also taught my children that one of the reasons we should write in our journals is to record how we overcame the hard times and what we learned and how we grew because of those trials. When I read about an individual who had a very difficult trial, and how they overcame it and became stronger in the end, I realize, "this great and otherwise 'perfect' person is human too just like me, and I can stand strong and have faith in my difficult times as well." It's not "complaining" to record the bad with the good--it just depends on how you record it. Your recorded trial, combined by your thoughts, positive attitude, faith, and learning, may become another's answer to prayer.

  • Strong Man Eau Claire, WI
    July 29, 2014 9:43 p.m.

    Jason, I generally really like you're writing but I do have to say that I concur, at least somewhat, with your friend. I think it's important to be real -- not overly pessimistic but not too syrup-y sweet either. There is so much of depression and disappointment in life, often brought on by society's (read - UTAH's) perfectionism and over-optimism - that a dab of reality is not a bad thing to my mind. We need to have hope and a positive attitude -- that's scriptural!! -- but when it's insincere or overdone, I think it can be hurtful. Also, I'm sure you're aware that not getting that big interview or having car problems far understate what some people are going through out there -- like the gas station attendant you described in an earlier article. I hate to say it, but your taking a whole article to point out that this woman ACTUALLY had a reason to be down, seemed almost trite if not overly obvious.

  • BYUalum South Jordan, UT
    July 29, 2014 8:11 a.m.

    Thanks, Jason, for being real. I loved this post and believe in being positive. I also work hard to not feed off of others' negativity. I let it "wash off" like a duck.

    Keep writing!