Tiny tyrants: Even preschoolers exclude, withhold friendship, bully

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  • Jillian West Jordan, UT
    May 29, 2014 5:58 p.m.

    I agree with the writers above. I watched it today. I'm really finished with the "princess" thing!
    It could be called "mean-girls" on the rise!

  • sally Kearns, UT
    May 29, 2014 12:11 p.m.

    It was an interesting experience working in the LDS nursery class on Sunday. It amazed me how much the children are duplicates of their parents behavior. One little girl would push and hard shove the other children with a smile on her face, then go back and try to hug the child. This occurred several times. Her mother is the same way--it is OK to be a bully as long as you go back and give a hug.

  • xert Santa Monica, CA
    May 29, 2014 11:37 a.m.

    I agree with wilf. A whole lotta this comes from the everybody gets a trophy and all of you are superstars form of parenting that leads children to think that social positioning is vital and more important than just being a good person. Ask any teacher who has dealt with redirecting that child who has never been told that they are anything but perfect and they will tell you. Kids do best when they know from an early age that they are loved, but also that they don't know everything. If you're going to heap praise your kid for being great at something, why not start with--"You are really good at being patient with others," "you always treat others with respect," or "you're good to other people," instead of "You're wonderful because you're you," or "you try harder than the other kids" or "I've seen high end fashion models who can't apply blush as well as you."

  • Wilf 55 SALT LAKE CITY, UT
    May 29, 2014 10:33 a.m.

    This phenomenon is not surprising in our culture of excessive praise, of calling children "special", and so on. Kids are made aware too early that they can be "better" than others. Next some try to enhance that position (sometimes unwittingly) by putting others down or excluding them. Praise can be motivating but can also lead to negative and jealous behavior.