From comments made I would just say I admire him for who he is. No one can
answer where he ranks family, church and football but him. Everything else is
conjecture. I have my opinion about that but it is only my opinion so I
won't state it.
oatmeal,My point is simply this - we all like to hear the warm fuzzy
stories and one-liners, but lets not let a great punchline or quote convince us
reality is not reality. If Reid had said he puts family first,
faith second, and football third you probably would have said you agree
that's how he lives his life. However, if he had said he puts faith first,
family second, and football third, you likewise probably would have agreed.
However, only one of those things could be true. so unless you're saying
you wouldn't have agreed with the truthfulness of one of those statements
had he said it(which I don't think you would have done), you're
letting warm fuzzy comments cloud your ability to see reality. But
tell me if I'm wrong. If Reid had flipped the order of importance between
faith and family, would you have disagreed with the accuracy of his
statement?If you just saw the job requirements of an NFL head coach
and the hours they put it, you would likely conclude it was a career first
position.But you're letting warm fuzzy comments cloud that
@oatmeal,I'm not creating a false dichotomy, unless you're
suggesting there is no such thing as putting a career before family. If
you're arguing that concept is 100% impossible then you can explain that.
But nowhere did I say one must be with this family 100% of the time to put
family first. Nor did I even say more hours of the day must be spend
interacting with the family to put family first compared to hours at work.But at some point, when little to no time is spent with family for 6
months straight year after year, the evidence shows that career is being put
ahead of family. And if you think NFL head coaches spend anywhere near
significant time with their family for the busiest 6 months of NFL activity -
you are unfamiliar with what their schedules are like.
I was at both of the firesides the Reid family did in the last month. They did a
wonderful job! I say they are great ambassadors for football, family, and faith,
and I dare say that most if not all walked away feeling the same way. Also, know
that he and his wife have added to their "family" because of the type of
people they are. I talked to one of his close associates and he spends much of
his time keeping in contact with former players and coaches, friends, family,
etc. They are real people who have known adversity like the rest of us and have
remained faithful throughout. Thank you Reid family!
Get off the dudes back. I used to be a cop and working on Sundays and at nights
took me away from my family a lot. I missed a lot of school activities, father
and sons outings, primary programs, Young women standards nights, and church
meetings because of the job. I went when I could. Did I make my job the top
priority? No I did not but it put food on my table for my family and a roof
over their heads, which was my first priority. Even with the time away, my kids
have still turned out just fine and I'm still married to my first and only
Chris B.,You are creating a false dichotomy. Every person
prioritizes throughout the day. Family can't come first in the middle of a
business meeting. It can't come first for most employed people during work
hours. There is give and take for every professional who creates and keeps a
family. And if it was put to Coach Reid, who knows what it takes to be an NFL
coach, faith and family in the big scheme of things come first.
@byu fan in dc,Y ask Y is absolutely right. He says "succeeding
at reid's level cannot be done if you put church and family ahead of
career"Now its true that most people have jobs, but not to the
level that is takes away from a family life. If you think his job is just
average in terms of taking away from family life, you don't know much about
the life of an NFL head coach.Its just the way it is - he can
certainly choose what he wants, but its the truth to say that you don't get
to be a head coach in the NFL by putting family first.
Y ask Y, You are entirely wrong about him putting football first. He
is devote member of the church just like every other person who has a job.
Currently his job requires him to work on Sundays, just like all the other NFL
coaches and players who are LDS. He could become a general authority after he
retires and I bet if he were called next year, he would job the coaching gig to
become a seventy.
Sorry, my comment was not meant as a criticism of Reid so much as a counter to
the comment of BYUalum. Too often we in the LDS Church make the mistake of
thinking that the Church and faith are and ought to be #1 priority for famous
LDS people. Then we love to read stories about the fellow Saint who turned down
a professional career because they didn't want to play on Sundays. But I
say look at the facts of the matter. Succeeding at Reid's level cannot be
done if you put Church and Family ahead of career. Career must come first, and
family and Church makes sacrifices. That is why Reid is a successful NFL coach,
but not a General Authority (and probably can't serve in many Church
callings), and even he has questioned the toll the game has taken on his family
life. So I don't see that listing Football 3rd after Faith and Family means
anything at all.
"Y ask Y," this is a positive article...one that highlights something
good. Leave it to someone to provide a negative comment to denigrate it.
He's one of yours...I admire the man; don't have the authority to
judge him. Apparently, you must.
Note that he never uses his priority list as an excuse for losing football
games. Take note byu alum
Ah... that everyone would behave as I think they should. The world would be
perfect then. confer Moses 4:1
I once saw Coach Reid a little over a year ago in the Bountiful Temple.
Y Ask Y,A bit harsh.....
BYUalum,He may have listed football third, but his life demonstrates
that football is first, and family and faith are distant runners up.
Note that he put football third.