Woman chooses motherhood over her own life in battle with cancer

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  • suzyk#1 Mount Pleasant, UT
    April 3, 2014 11:18 a.m.

    Since I was a very small child I loved children and wanted to be a Mother with 8 to 10 children. I never received that blessing but if I had been in this women's situation I would not have hesitated to give my live that my child would live. What a privilege for this child to know that her Mother loved her that much she was willing to give her life for her. Bless this sweet child.

  • Truthseeker SLO, CA
    April 2, 2014 6:26 p.m.

    I was diagnosed with cancer at the 14 week mark in my last pregnancy when I had to have surgery to remove an ovarian "cyst." My husband and I had "the conversation." He was adamant that if it was between my life or the life of the baby, he wanted me to choose myself.
    Thankfully, my cancer was not thought to be a fast-growing kind and the oncologist and my ob/gyn both thought it was safe for me to continue with the pregnancy. At 8th months I was scheduled for a C-sect and after my ob delivered the baby my oncologist took over to finish the surgery.

    That was 20 yrs ago.

    I am sorry this mother didn't face such favorable odds.
    My deepest condolences to the family at this very difficult--bittersweet--time.

  • Atalya Stansbury Park, UT
    April 2, 2014 1:38 p.m.

    She made a very hard decision. Please don't cheapen her decision about how to manage her cancer, or whether give her child a chance at life. Ultimately, it was her decision, and I know it was made with much thought, considering all options, and I am sure there were a lot of tears and second-guessing, and worry and fear. I am sure both of the parents were well aware that she might lose the battle and not make it after delivery, leaving him to raise their daughter without her help. There was no guarantee she would live even if she had agreed to abort their child. Fighting cancer is an intensely personal battle, and the outcome is not guaranteed. Cancer is sneaky, and can come blasting right back at you years after you are "cured" or "clear" and you think all is well. She did the best she could to give her child life AND to fight for her own life with all her might after delivery. For the naysayers, I hope you never have to make decisions like this. The family needs support not heartless critics with a political ax to grind.

  • Furry1993 Ogden, UT
    April 2, 2014 10:11 a.m.

    Nan BW 7:16 a.m. April 2, 2014

    Pagan's comment is mysterious. Because everyone must die, we shouldn't support life? Huh?


    "Supporting life" would mean terminating the pregnancy. That way the only living, breathing, life-in-being in the equation (the woman) would have had a chance to survive. This was not a wise pregnancy in the first place (the wise decision would have been to take steps to ensure that she never got pregnant AND,if she so badly wanted a child, she could have adopted or the couple could have used surrogacy, among other alternatives) and the decision to continue the pregnancy also was not wise. Half-orphaning a child (with the child knowing that s/he was the cause of her mother's death) and widowing a spouse is never good.

    This is one of the VERY few times I believe pregnancy termination is appropriate. There was nothing heroic about this decision. Quite the contrary in fact. Sad.

  • nmjim SANDIA PARK, NM
    April 2, 2014 7:49 a.m.

    Wow. Wouldn't it be nice to see THIS on national news.

  • fowersjl Farmington, Utah
    April 2, 2014 7:34 a.m.

    @pagan, whatever are you talking about? Her pro-life choice resulted in her baby living! She might have succumbed to cancer whether or not she chose to keep the baby. Normally, a mother does not have to make that choice, and a pro-life choice always is the best choice. A "pro-choice" or abortion choice always ends with the death of the baby. Is that what you meant to say?

  • happymomto9 Saratoga Springs, UT
    April 2, 2014 7:20 a.m.

    actually, "pagan", it doesn't end at death. at least not for her!
    and it was the mother that passed on, not the child. duh.

    i had a friend who made this same choice almost 20 years ago. her sweet daughter is still alive and he father re-married. definitely the most memorable funeral i have ever attended!

  • Nan BW ELder, CO
    April 2, 2014 7:16 a.m.

    Pagan's comment is mysterious. Because everyone must die, we shouldn't support life? Huh?

  • Pagan Salt Lake City, UT
    April 2, 2014 12:44 a.m.

    Notice, those who are Pro-life, always ends, in death.

  • Ute parents - me Cougar Rathdrum, ID
    April 2, 2014 12:01 a.m.

    That is true love in it's purest form.

  • toosmartforyou Farmington, UT
    April 1, 2014 11:45 p.m.

    A fine example of true love and an application of it. That child has a legacy that will forever be enshrined upon the hearts of her family. Thanks for such a touching and tender story.

  • El Chango Supremo Rexburg, ID
    April 1, 2014 6:38 p.m.


    I second those thoughts... A real Hero indeed!

  • Mikhail ALPINE, UT
    April 1, 2014 4:57 p.m.

    A real hero!