Duce's Wild: The joys and pains of gift giving

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  • K Mchenry, IL
    Jan. 3, 2014 11:21 p.m.

    I think it's interesting when the giver doesn't have their expectations met. We perceive a family to be in need. That may be true but stuff doesn't always help. We do the same in natural disasters. We bring tons of waters and clothing down to a tornado ravaged town. Where are they going to put all the stuff? The lost their homes. The city has water after a certain point. First ask what is needed.

    Dec. 21, 2013 12:43 p.m.

    Thank you so much for this thoughtful article. We've had the exact same thing happen in our ward and it can be difficult to for the givers to overcome. You describe it perfectly and bring home the realization that giving is more for the giver than the receiver.

  • pat1 Taylorsville, UT
    Dec. 21, 2013 11:55 a.m.

    I enjoy the Christmas carols, the Christmas story, the encouragement to be a little better and remember what Jesus Christ did for the world. But I do not like gift giving at all. I know the tradition came from the wise men story in the Bible, but it seems to infuse materialism to those of us who think of this as a religious holiday, and for those who like the cultural tradition of Christmas, looking for gifts all the time becomes the whole focus, when getting together with family and friends ought to take priority. It is not the money I begrudge, it is the focus on buying. Sadly, we live in a very materialistic society. It seems to come to a head at Christmastime for me. I've been involved in sub-for-santas where the people resented what was given and wanted something better. We laugh at "ugly sweaters" that someone might have spent hours making. Black Fridays are so important, as are after Christmas sales. Bah humbug! For me Christmas shouldn't be all about stuff.

  • ulvegaard Medical Lake, Washington
    Dec. 21, 2013 9:31 a.m.

    Several years ago, we decided - as much as possible, that we would make our Christmas gifts. My wife and I became more concerned as gifts seemed to gravitate more towards cheep items from large box stores that may have been brightly colored and alluring with battery powered action, but then was often broken and useless before New Year's.

    I was surprised at how well the kids took to the notion - as well as our immediate relatives. The kids get a gleam in their eyes as they imagine the wondrous things that is within their skill level to make for others in the family and you might be surprised as to what things they come up with and which are useful and more endearing than a simple sale item snatched up during a rush to get that last gift or two.

    There is still potential to lose sight of the true meaning, but as we create our gifts, it is easier to focus on the real intent of the season.

  • CVgal Smithfield, UT
    Dec. 21, 2013 8:28 a.m.

    Oh my -- I have been indeed humbled to do better. Your thought.... "Ultimately, even souring Christmas experiences can become a tiny taste of what our Savior has endured following his atoning sacrifice for each of us...." really hit my heart. I hope I can do much better in the days to come. Thank you for putting it so beautifully. Wonderful article, because I too have felt these feelings -- of the needy getting much more than my own kids had for Christmas -- or someone was ungrateful for something I had done.

    Thank you for reminding me that it is for me -- and not the receiver -- to grow.