Couple money woes: When one partner is a financial bully

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  • sisucas San Bernardino, CA
    Dec. 1, 2013 5:46 p.m.

    What a silly article. There needs to be a follow-up study that figures out how many of these bullied spouses have major soending problems. Money is the biggest conflict in my marriage. My wife is so smart and talented, yet after years of discussion she just can't keep a budget to save her life. Luckily I make a good enough income now that she can't spend it all. If I made less than six figures we'd be ruined.

  • rightascension Provo, UT
    Nov. 30, 2013 1:01 p.m.

    I wonder how many couples -- committed or otherwise -- discover that one of the partners is a complete and utter spendthrift. As in "You can't tell me that all ten pairs of these shoes are necessary?" "Of course they are not all necessary."

  • cjb Bountiful, UT
    Nov. 30, 2013 10:28 a.m.

    When I saw this article I would curious as to what bullying meant. I know people who spend very irresponsibly. If such a person is married to a person who is responsible with money, the irresponsible person might think they are being bullied if their partner insists they change their ways.

    Some advice to people who are considering getting married. Check out the other persons credit score and find out how much debt the other person has. This may seem un-romantic but if the prospective mate doesn't know how to handle money, the marriage will likely end up in divorce any way or worse this the irresponsible spending habits could cause a lifetime of misery.

  • george of the jungle goshen, UT
    Nov. 30, 2013 5:39 a.m.

    Having some money is the object, the objective. I hate the words goal and budget. I try to use words like limits and boundary not crossing the line. That's where things get lost in translation.

  • My2Cents Taylorsville, UT
    Nov. 30, 2013 5:19 a.m.

    I'm assuming this article is about unmarried non financially obligated couples in this farce of a story.

    The author has omitted all reference to marriage committed adults with or without children that may or may not be the biological parents of with no shared obligations of debt or household costs.

    No obligation is always the center of breakups and civil disorder among unmarried relationships to have a bed mate. Bedding each other is a convenience and expected benefit of each partner but that doesn't pay the bills or promote the well being of the home.

    You can' gloss it over like the author has done in the article, conflict and sharing is always the stress of cohabitation, which is an unhealthy lifestyle for any couple and children to cope with. Children never feel like they are a part of the parents lives, and children grow up with no identity or self worth and value their lives with little regard. Children are not proud people when strife and sharing is a mine and yours divided diversity of cohabitation where both bully each other.