Letter: Bullying issues

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  • Fitz Murray, UT
    Nov. 10, 2013 11:19 a.m.

    What happened in this letter is not bullying, it is an assault. I hope you took your kid to the emergency room to get the wounds verified and treated. With video available online, mom should have also immediately called the cops. The kids involved should be criminally charged and their parents should be paying medical bills and offering apologies.

    The definition of bullying is vague. This instance is premeditated assault and is not bullying. Some of what is classified as bullying is not bullying, rather it is free speech, but poorly used. We need to be careful with how we define these terms. One's constitutional rights, though poorly used, is still a right.

    Personally, way back in 7th grade, I was bullied and it happened (repeatedly) right in front of the school office. The school did nothing. I would walk home, hoping to avoid the bullies, though we lived in the same ward. One day I finally told my dad. He told me how to defend myself, and I did. He called their parents and threatened a lawsuit (dad was a lawyer). The bullying stopped. The "bulliers" apologized, saying they were just having fun and no harm was intended.

  • Badgerbadger Murray, UT
    Nov. 8, 2013 9:30 p.m.

    This is way beyond school jurisdiction. Assaults are police matters. Get a lawyer too, for the personal injury portion. Your son deserves compensation, and a protection order. Your son shouldn't be the one forced to change schools. It should be the other kids, or he and you should be compensated for that too.

    I am not an injury lawyer fan, but this is a real case and you need a good one.

  • 1conservative WEST VALLEY CITY, UT
    Nov. 8, 2013 4:24 p.m.

    Call the district office.

    Most principals WILL respond, once they get the call from "on high".

    Also, check the policies of your school district. SOME districts take responsibility for the behavior of the kids both coming and going from school.

    I'm wondering if the incident happened "off grounds" so the school doesn't think they have any responsibility?

  • 2in1year Pleasant Grove, UT
    Nov. 8, 2013 8:13 a.m.

    Carol, I was so saddened to hear your story. Your son is so lucky to have an aware and caring mother. You're right. Bullying should absolutely not be tolerated. I hope your son is doing okay and can get over this. In the meantime, I do hope you can spin this around to stop further incidents from happening. You sound like a strong woman who can make a difference. God bless you.

  • Howard Beal Provo, UT
    Nov. 8, 2013 8:04 a.m.

    Before the video gets pulled down either try to save it on file somehow and/or take a camera, run the video and actually film the video. Also, if it happened at or near the school maybe they have video surveillance. Best wishes Carol to you and your son.

  • Irony Guy Bountiful, Utah
    Nov. 8, 2013 6:23 a.m.

    What happened to your son was outrageous. The principal should immediately investigate or be dismissed. There's something deeply wrong with the culture of Utah County.

  • RanchHand Huntsville, UT
    Nov. 8, 2013 5:11 a.m.

    Carol, I am so sorry this happened to your son. You should go to the police and file a complaint. If the videotape is still on facebook, show the officers and ensure that charges are filed against these bullies. Additionally, it may be a good idea to check into filing charges against their parents as they are responsible for not teaching their children better. Until incidents like this are prosecuted, vigorously, they will continue to be a problem.

  • KWL Bountiful, UT
    Nov. 8, 2013 12:22 a.m.

    Talk to the police and to a lawyer. This was a pre-planned assault (pre-planned since they were ready to film it). They clearly have no remorse or fear of consequences (proven by their publicizing what they did for the world to see). The lawyer should be able to tell you if the school or the families of the bullies are liable for what was done as well or of other charges that could be filed.