Well-meaning adoptions can overlook serious problems

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  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    Nov. 5, 2013 1:11 p.m.

    " Even one child stolen from his or her home is far too many."

    A less extreme version of this is Utah's extremely leniant policy on giving children up for an adoption to the point that there are women who travel to Utah to give birth and give it up before the father is able to find out and claim guardianship of the child.

  • Nan BW ELder, CO
    Nov. 5, 2013 8:07 a.m.

    There have always been pitfalls involved in adoptions, and they should be addressed. We have greater potential now to be vigilant in making sure children find homes in an ethical, humane and legal manner.

    I once gave up a son for adoption. It was many decades ago, and I depended almost entirely on the word of my OB-GYN. He knew a mom who wanted children desperately. He was certain of her reliability, sincerity and other qualities one would want for a child to have. It was true. She was an admirable dedicated mother to both sons she adopted. The dad was elated too, but he also had an alcohol problems. This had an adverse impact. I have no idea if it would have been better for the sons to have been in another home (how does one weigh the positive and negative aspects?). Of course I had no idea of the problem at the time, and didn't learn until the son contacted me. He appreciates greatly the childhood he had, but he is disappointed that his dad let alcohol have a negative impact. All children should have good homes, but we live in an imperfect world.

  • UtahBlueDevil Durham, NC
    Nov. 5, 2013 7:59 a.m.

    " Even one child stolen from his or her home is far too many."

    And here we go again. A shock piece, without the benefit of any numbers to put the problem in true proportion, and that threatens to put a freeze on adoptions, has no element of solution what so ever. What does the author propose? That we leave a thousand needy kids in orphanages because there have been some ambiguous number of abuses in the system?

    No parent should have their child taken from them. Just as in our own justice system that daily takes children from parents the courts feel are detrimental to the kids welfare. Surely there too there have been mistakes and abuses of the system. This is not in debate. But what are you to do... stop removing kids from abusive environments because a few may be done mistakenly.

    Lazy journalism does far more harm then good. Just as with the capital punishment, we know mistakes have been made.... and yet we don't stop prosecuting murders because mistakes have been made in the past.

    You do your best... that is all you can do. And when injustice happens, you set it straight.