Sandy woman makes deal to retrieve stolen wedding ring

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  • anti-liar Salt Lake City, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 2:43 p.m.


    Justice happens to be important, too, and not just in "the hereafter." In this case, the victim made a strategic decision that she believed would help ensure that she would get the ring back, which involved foregoing one mode or aspect of justice. She never discounted the importance of justice, and plainly states that she believes there will be justice eventually. Nor does she soft-pedal, nor discount, the true nature of the crime. Correctly, she identifies the act as Criminal Theft, and the perpetrator as a Thief.

    Ideally in a situation like this, in my opinion, the thief would face a lesser penalty in the case of a full recovery and restitution, but still face accountability and a criminal conviction.

  • Kelliebelle66 West Jordan, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 12:20 p.m.

    To those who claim Mrs Cottom is obsessed with material possessions are waaay off base. If it were my wedding ring I would do whatever I could to get it back. It is not the possession but what it represents and the memories and feelings it evokes. I have had my ipod stolen and while I reported it to security at work and let them do their job (they never found it) I didn't go out of my way and spend the time I would have if my wedding ring had been stolen. My ipod had some cool songs and videos on it but it wasn't a gift given by my sweet husband who chose it especially for me to represent his eternal love. And while we will have our relationship after this life and the ring really doesn't matter in the long run, it means a lot to me and we can never go back to that original time in our relationship when he gave it to me and get that back. I am so glad she retrieved the ring and I would have done exactly the same thing for such a meaningful object.

  • suzyk#1 Mount Pleasant, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 11:43 a.m.

    To: said it just right. I would have felt the same way about that ring had it been mine and To: Florwood...when a promise is made there is no justification for breaking your shows she has integrity and I hope her husband sees that in her. What an example she is to all.

  • Johnny Triumph American Fork, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 11:26 a.m.

    Love the statement, she's a thief but I won't be a liar

  • CB Salt Lake City, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 10:50 a.m.

    I appreciate this similar to one of my own.
    Had a similar experience many years ago when a babysitter took a ring my husband had sacrificed his lunch for many months to buy for me. I realized that if I accused her, I would never see it again, so we decided to have her come to babysit one more time, and when I called I asked if she had seen the children playing with it the last time she was there (my children couldn't have taken it because it was out of their reach)...I didn't want to call the police and report it stolen, in case they had been playing with it.
    It was the longest night out we had had and after my husband had left to take her home, I began
    my search, and eventually found it down under a piece of furniture, hidden from view.
    It will be passed on to one of my granddaughter along with the story of it's retrieval.

  • Western Rover Herriman, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 9:49 a.m.

    What do you guys think, when I go to the gym is it safer to leave my valuables in my car or in a locker? Right now I leave my wallet and cell phone in the car (not visible from outside) and take in only what I need to shower and change (which I'd still hate to be stolen, but not as bad), plus my car keys of course.

  • MrsH Altamont, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 9:26 a.m.


    I don't think she was "obsessed". It's her WEDDING RING! And his Grandmother's ring, to boot...
    More sentimental than material, in my opinion. Glad she got it back.
    The thief will get what she deserves eventually.

  • SLCWatch Salt Lake City, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 9:22 a.m.

    She does not need to break her promise.
    The victim is the jewlery store that paid the suspect $200 for a stolen ring.
    The store asks for prosecution for the possesion of stolen property
    The suspect is tried for possesion of stolen property.
    The owner of the ring does not accuse, only states that her ring was stolen and if asked that she did not give the perpatrator permission to possess the ring.
    No promise broken.

    You are partially correct. In a felony the prosecutor files charges because the crime is against the state not the victim.
    In a misdemeanor the victim must ask for prosecution.

  • LoveTheKittens The Middle Of, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 8:47 a.m.

    Hate to rain on Mrs. Cottoms parade but Joe/Jane Citizen can't press charges. Only the prosecuting attorney can do that, it is a function of the 'state'.

  • Max Charlotte, NC
    Sept. 20, 2013 8:18 a.m.

    lledwards38, It would be better to take off the ring at home but maybe she went to the gym right after work. You would think with a good lock on your locker, it would be safe but apparently not. Rings can be scraped up by lifting weights (especially free weights) and also can slip off a finger while swimming.

  • Cats Somewhere in Time, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 7:31 a.m.

    I'm glad she kept her word and, she's right, that criminal will get what's coming to her. No one gets away with anything in this life. Eventually, one way or the other, she will be held to account.

  • The Rock Federal Way, WA
    Sept. 20, 2013 7:16 a.m.

    What a happy ending. Maybe Mrs. Cottom's kindness could soften the perp's heart. One could seek revenge and or justice. Repentance and reconciliation are better.

    Just invite her to church. Kindness knows no bounds.

  • lledwards38 Canandaigua, NY
    Sept. 20, 2013 6:46 a.m.

    Sorry to be so cynical, but I never take off my diamond ring. If her heirloom ring was so precious, why did she take it to the gym, anyway? And what kind of work out was she doing that precluded her wearing the ring?

  • ImABeliever Provo, UT
    Sept. 20, 2013 5:37 a.m.

    What the woman did was wrong but people need to stop being so obsessive about material things.

  • Florwood American Fork, UT
    Sept. 19, 2013 11:47 p.m.

    Mrs. Cottam, good work doing what you needed to, to get the ring back. You had to make that promise under duress though, so I don't think you need to honor it. Forgiveness does not mean the person does not suffer for their illegal act.

  • bw00ds Tucson, AZ
    Sept. 19, 2013 7:44 p.m.

    I love it! I'm so happy for you, Mrs. Cottom. And thanks for being a great example of just solving the problem without seeking retribution on the thief. The important thing was getting your ring back and not exacting justice. You left that to the authorities.