@bw00dsJustice happens to be important, too, and not just in
"the hereafter." In this case, the victim made a strategic decision
that she believed would help ensure that she would get the ring back, which
involved foregoing one mode or aspect of justice. She never discounted the
importance of justice, and plainly states that she believes there will be
justice eventually. Nor does she soft-pedal, nor discount, the true nature of
the crime. Correctly, she identifies the act as Criminal Theft, and the
perpetrator as a Thief.Ideally in a situation like this, in my
opinion, the thief would face a lesser penalty in the case of a full recovery
and restitution, but still face accountability and a criminal conviction.
To those who claim Mrs Cottom is obsessed with material possessions are waaay
off base. If it were my wedding ring I would do whatever I could to get it
back. It is not the possession but what it represents and the memories and
feelings it evokes. I have had my ipod stolen and while I reported it to
security at work and let them do their job (they never found it) I didn't
go out of my way and spend the time I would have if my wedding ring had been
stolen. My ipod had some cool songs and videos on it but it wasn't a gift
given by my sweet husband who chose it especially for me to represent his
eternal love. And while we will have our relationship after this life and the
ring really doesn't matter in the long run, it means a lot to me and we can
never go back to that original time in our relationship when he gave it to me
and get that back. I am so glad she retrieved the ring and I would have done
exactly the same thing for such a meaningful object.
To: Cats..you said it just right. I would have felt the same way about that ring
had it been mine and To: Florwood...when a promise is made there is no
justification for breaking your word..it shows she has integrity and I hope her
husband sees that in her. What an example she is to all.
Love the statement, she's a thief but I won't be a liar
I appreciate this story...so similar to one of my own.Had a similar
experience many years ago when a babysitter took a ring my husband had
sacrificed his lunch for many months to buy for me. I realized that if I
accused her, I would never see it again, so we decided to have her come to
babysit one more time, and when I called I asked if she had seen the children
playing with it the last time she was there (my children couldn't have
taken it because it was out of their reach)...I didn't want to call the
police and report it stolen, in case they had been playing with it.It was
the longest night out we had had and after my husband had left to take her home,
I began my search, and eventually found it down under a piece of
furniture, hidden from view.It will be passed on to one of my
granddaughter along with the story of it's retrieval.
What do you guys think, when I go to the gym is it safer to leave my valuables
in my car or in a locker? Right now I leave my wallet and cell phone in the car
(not visible from outside) and take in only what I need to shower and change
(which I'd still hate to be stolen, but not as bad), plus my car keys of
Believer:I don't think she was "obsessed". It's
her WEDDING RING! And his Grandmother's ring, to boot...More
sentimental than material, in my opinion. Glad she got it back. The
thief will get what she deserves eventually.
She does not need to break her promise. The victim is the jewlery store
that paid the suspect $200 for a stolen ring.The store asks for
prosecution for the possesion of stolen propertyThe suspect is tried for
possesion of stolen property.The owner of the ring does not accuse, only
states that her ring was stolen and if asked that she did not give the
perpatrator permission to possess the ring.No promise broken.@LovethekittensYou are partially correct. In a felony the prosecutor
files charges because the crime is against the state not the victim.In a
misdemeanor the victim must ask for prosecution.
Hate to rain on Mrs. Cottoms parade but Joe/Jane Citizen can't press
charges. Only the prosecuting attorney can do that, it is a function of the
lledwards38, It would be better to take off the ring at home but maybe she went
to the gym right after work. You would think with a good lock on your locker, it
would be safe but apparently not. Rings can be scraped up by lifting weights
(especially free weights) and also can slip off a finger while swimming.
I'm glad she kept her word and, she's right, that criminal will get
what's coming to her. No one gets away with anything in this life.
Eventually, one way or the other, she will be held to account.
What a happy ending. Maybe Mrs. Cottom's kindness could soften the
perp's heart. One could seek revenge and or justice. Repentance and
reconciliation are better.Just invite her to church. Kindness knows
Sorry to be so cynical, but I never take off my diamond ring. If her heirloom
ring was so precious, why did she take it to the gym, anyway? And what kind of
work out was she doing that precluded her wearing the ring?
What the woman did was wrong but people need to stop being so obsessive about
Mrs. Cottam, good work doing what you needed to, to get the ring back. You had
to make that promise under duress though, so I don't think you need to
honor it. Forgiveness does not mean the person does not suffer for their illegal
I love it! I'm so happy for you, Mrs. Cottom. And thanks for being a great
example of just solving the problem without seeking retribution on the thief.
The important thing was getting your ring back and not exacting justice. You
left that to the authorities.