A Mormon dad's view: Why I’m not talking to my children about Miley Cyrus

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  • Nachtmerrie_in_Brugge Mesa, AZ
    Sept. 19, 2013 1:51 p.m.

    Miley who?

  • MapleDon Springville, UT
    Sept. 18, 2013 11:29 p.m.

    Can we move on? The amount of time devoted by DesNews to Miley ought to disturb its 20 or 30 readers.

  • sid 6.7 Holladay, UT
    Sept. 18, 2013 2:53 p.m.

    Excellent comment Mr. Rico. It's nice to know you practice what you preach.

  • Mister J Salt Lake City, UT
    Sept. 18, 2013 2:38 p.m.

    to JoeBlow

    Completely agreed.

    Like the saying goes, "There is no such thing as bad publicity." These so called "celebrities" live off that mantra.

    Ignore Miley, The Kardashians, etc... Additionally, Stop watching E!, Dancing with the Stars, The Voice, TMZ, Showbiz tonight and many of the ills of 21st century America will vanish.

  • Liberal Ted Salt Lake City, UT
    Sept. 18, 2013 10:35 a.m.

    Miley is just another final product from the Hollywood elites that try to tell us how we should manage and live our lives.

    Just another example why giving any attention to those in Hollywood is a waste of everyone's time.

    Besides they can't produce an original piece of work anymore, and haven't produced original work in decades. Zero talent, money hungry, greedy, 1% people run Hollywood. Yep the very people bo likes to hang out with, while telling us peasants how evil they are.

    I guess they're only evil if they're giving money to your political committee. Right bo?

  • gdog3finally West Jordan, Utah
    Sept. 18, 2013 12:11 a.m.

    Amen Sir. I find that when I discuss philosophy, history, and science to my kids, it is then that they become interested in substance and disinterested in brainless capitalist entertainment.

  • spiderwebwebb75 Utah County, UT
    Sept. 17, 2013 7:56 p.m.

    His statement is odd, because, you need to discuss these things in the home. The concept of "dont talk about it and it will go away" is a mindset that parents need to get away from. Don't talk about the destroying aspects of porn and porn will go away. We know what is trash and what isn't. Trying to teach children these things are abhorrent by being silent about them or not talking about them = totally false method. Helping our children recognize behavior that is against the principles that we are teaching them and that don't correlate to the principles of the Gospel of any church you belong to is important. Our kids understand it all, they hear it all...especially when they enter highschool. A brief discussion about a subject that is uncomfortable or gives undesired attention to someone like Miley Cyrus in our home for a moment, also introduces the ability to teach, the ability to identify behavior not conducive to your families beliefs and helps your children know that you are not blissfully unassuming that the world is pretty jacked up. Problems don't go away by ignoring them

  • GeoMan SALEM, OR
    Sept. 17, 2013 3:08 p.m.

    How many people were shocked or surprised to hear most of what was said in General Conference last April (the exception of the missionary age change proving the the rule). Just because children (and everyone else) already know something doesn't mean that they shouldn't hear it again.
    What is happening in Syria is tragic, but there is really little we can do about it. Most actions that any nation might take will almost certainly kill additional children. The fact is that many more children die due to disease, malnutrition, starvation, and "normal" violence throughout the world than die due to chemical weapons. Children in the US not properly restrain in automobiles is in the same ballpark as chemical weapons.
    I think a conversation about how some actions are right and some actions are wrong is always good. Also discussing how someone can do some good and admirable things but how that doesn't mean that everything they do will be good or admirable is in order. Whether or not Miley comes up during such conversations will depend. Some parents might choose to bring it up because of Hannah Montana. Regardless, the kids will likely bring it up.

    Sept. 17, 2013 1:11 p.m.

    Joe Blow--several weeks later, and once again we see that nefarious picture of Miley. Every time I see it, I wonder--are those little knots of hair on the top of her head a metaphor for the image she's trying to portray?

  • Gracie Boise, ID
    Sept. 17, 2013 11:38 a.m.

    I understand the sentiment, but your children are hearing about this at school--at least there--constantly. It's easy for adults to come to the mature understanding of what trash Miley's performance was and the desperation driving it. Adults have had time to learn enough life's skills to make those distinctions and decide on which side of the line they will remain. Our children need more than our silence about such garbage while they sort out how to keep strong when they interact with their friends who will trash *them* for appearing smugly self-righteous. Trusting our children to be as well-grounded as we know or hope they are is good, but helping them stand strong is a better strategy.

  • oldcougar Orem, UT
    Sept. 17, 2013 9:51 a.m.

    I think "and" is a good word here, rather than "or." Why can't parents discuss with their children the TV trend away from uplifting material and toward "sensual" material. The Miley Cyrus act can be illustrative of the trend, which we should take steps to stop. "And," we can talk with our kids about world events and actions we can take to affect them positively.

    Oh, Uncle Rico, you were guilty of doing what you criticized...you just chose a different target. There is room on the comment boards for differing opinions.

  • JoeBlow Far East USA, SC
    Sept. 17, 2013 4:56 a.m.

    Why in the world would Miley Cyrus, or anyone else for that matter, go beyond "acceptable" in a televised performance?

    To get the exact reaction that she did.

    For more than a week after her exhibition, that was all that was talked about. (and here, another letter, more than 3 weeks later)

    She accomplished exactly what she wanted; driven primarily by those most disgusted with her performance.

    She outsmarted you.

  • Moontan Roanoke, VA
    Sept. 16, 2013 10:57 p.m.

    When society is giving our kids a steady diet of Miley's, I think it is important to address the issue. There is room enough in a conversation for Syria and Cyrus, or at least there should be.

  • Uncle Rico Sandy, UT
    Sept. 16, 2013 9:47 p.m.

    What a terrific article. Ignore the trivial distractions and focus on what really matters in life.

    @darnoch Typical criticism with nothing of value to add to the discussion. Historically it has always been easier to tear down then create, sadly most people have become this way.

  • procuradorfiscal Tooele, UT
    Sept. 16, 2013 6:57 p.m.

    Someone needs to tell Miley that if she keeps making that face, it's going to grow that way.

  • Forrestc Greenway, AR
    Sept. 16, 2013 6:14 p.m.

    Yes, he took the time to write an article and get it published, which was his way of talking to other PARENTS, not his children. However, I feel it might be necessary to at least tell your children how you feel about Miley Cyrus and her life choices without spending a lot of time on the subject.

  • NM Trish Bloomfield, NM
    Sept. 16, 2013 6:03 p.m.

    @ Darnoch: It looks like we read the same article by Ryan Jardine, but we "heard" different things. To me, Mr. Jardine is NOT talking about the recent events at the VMA. Instead, he is talking about how many adults are focusing on the unimportant clamorings of the entertainment-driven media, when they should be talking with their children about real events happening to real people. He cited the recent events in Syria as an example. I agree with Mr. Jardine. I will follow his advice, the best I can, and have those conversations with my sixteen year old daughter.

  • Darnoch Davis, UT
    Sept. 16, 2013 4:32 p.m.

    I find it interesting that he claims he is "not wasting any time talking to my children about Miley Cyrus or anything that may have happened at the VMAs"; yet, he took the time to write the article and get it published on the Deseret News website.
    If it is important enough to write a news article about it, isn't it important enough to discuss with your children?