What a girl’s pastimes reveal about her parents

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  • junkgeek Agua Dulce, TX
    Aug. 9, 2013 9:15 a.m.

    One more reason to put kids in soccer over dance, then.

  • washcomom Beaverton, OR
    Aug. 7, 2013 3:57 p.m.

    Let's not label the kids under a "specific" area. I thought we were just teaching our kids to explore possible talents, and they choose what they want to continue with. I wasn't labeling my kids at all. I feel this is such a sham.

    My kids, btw, loved music, soccer, baseball, softball, volleyball, martial arts, swimming, theater, running, and just meeting great friends in each area. They had to choose which ones they wanted to focus on, but that was their choice, not mine.

  • andyjaggy American Fork, UT
    Aug. 7, 2013 3:30 p.m.

    I agree, it seems pretty silly. We'll let our daughters decide their own hobbies, I hope they are interested in what I am, but if not than oh well. We are a very non sport family, just like my parents, but if one of my girls decides she wants to play basketball, I will support her in that. My only caveat is that whatever you decide to do, do it the best you can.

  • Tuffy Parker Salem, UT
    Aug. 7, 2013 8:33 a.m.

    Couldn't agree more with Solomon. When our daughter was young we exposed her to many and varied interests including sports, arts and dance. What we learned is that she gravitated to the things she enjoyed the most. After looking at the article on The Atlantic's website, it's clear that the parents the author interviewed are hyper-focused on making their girls successful in ways they deem important rather than allowing the girls to become who they are on their own.

    This is very problematic to me as it feels like micro social engineering. My opinion is based on my belief that each child comes to this life with their own talents and abilities that should be nurtured and grown rather than engineered to fit s certain expectation.

  • poindex EAGLE MOUNTAIN, UT
    Aug. 7, 2013 6:34 a.m.

    Or maybe they choose one particular activity because they stink at the others.

  • Reasonable Emotion Springville, UT
    Aug. 7, 2013 2:04 a.m.

    It seems odd to compare chess to dance and soccer. I doubt many children would the dedicate a similar amount of time to chess as compared to those who are in soccer or dance.

  • Solomon the Wise Alpine, UT
    Aug. 6, 2013 8:40 p.m.

    So what if the girl's pastimes include dance, track & field, vocal performance, drama, graphical design, and rock climbing?

    Too often parents and educators try to pigeon-hole multi-talented, multi-faceted children into one personality type. It's best to let them explore many different varieties of activities so they can discover their own sometimes hidden talents.