Ask Angela: What she posts on social media sites offends me

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  • patjan Flower Mound, TX
    July 27, 2013 11:15 a.m.

    Judging the judgers. Hmmmm. Almost everyone I know judges others harshly in some area. We do all need to give each other some slack that it's ok to not be perfect - even in judging. As the general conference quote goes, "Don't judge me because I sin (or judge)differently than you.". Lets remember that the Savior loved the Pharisees even though he condemned their actions. They were an offense to him, but he still loved them. One of the greatest joys in this life is loving others. Pray to love and appreciate those who are different than you.

  • Pavalova Surfers Paradise, AU
    July 23, 2013 2:39 p.m.

    Interesting article. My wife is quite social and enjoys going out with her friends dancing, dinners, GNO activities, etc. I am sure the activities she engages in are totally above board, but there are people in the ward who view her differently. Mostly because she puts it on FB.

    I do know that the LDS population can be very judgemental at times. That can cause problems in friendships. I see this more with the women, than with the men.

  • rinman Kabul, Afghanistan, 00
    July 23, 2013 12:16 a.m.

    The author doesn't say that the VT was pushing her ideas (whatever they were) during her visit, so that is good. Regardless, there is no requirement to be friends with your visiting teacher. She and her companion should come over together at a scheduled time, visit briefly and leave a message, and leave. One should not feel guilty for not having a relationship with a visitng teacher. If it happens, great, but that isn't the purpose. If this woman wants to be friends with the woman assigned to be her visiting teacher, then that exists outside the VT assignment and VT should not be part of the discussion. If she's a friend or you want her to be a friend, invite her out to lunch and then ask the question that Ask Angela proposes. But don't do it in the church foyer.

  • joe5 South Jordan, UT
    July 22, 2013 4:20 p.m.

    It is apparent to me that at least one person in this visiting teaching relationship is narrow minded. I cannot conceive refusing to associate with someone because they happen to disagree with me. In fact, my greatest learning comes from those with different world views and paradigms than mine. That's how I grow.

  • Brother Benjamin Franklin Orem, UT
    July 22, 2013 1:35 p.m.


    So am I to interpret that you have read those Facebook comments by what you wrote? You didn't write your opinion, just your reactions to other's opinions. How about forming your own opinion instead of simply reacting to others?

    If I'm being judgmental and hypocritical and jumping to conclusions without having read any of that woman's Facebook comments, then you have no legs to stand on because we just don't know what this woman said on Facebook. No specific clues were made as to what they were.

    At least I try my meager best to give this lady enough benefit of the doubt because we simply don't have all of the facts. You take little snippets of my opinions and twist them out of context.

    I strive to state my honestly formed opinions, not reactions. I stand by what I write, and if someone doesn't like it, they are entitled to that. I can live with that.

    I do hope we learn something from this article about treating each other with greater kindness, charity, and love.

  • bw00ds Tucson, AZ
    July 22, 2013 10:57 a.m.

    @LDS Liberal

    You assume so much. Wonder if it was the other way around...

    @Bro Ben Franklin

    I agree with your premise, but you are being hypocritical. You say don't be judgmental and don't jump to conclusions. Yet, without having read any of the FB comments to which the woman is referring, you are doing exactly that.

  • LDS Liberal Farmington, UT
    July 21, 2013 2:24 p.m.

    Don't tell me, let me guess....

    You are a Tea-Party Republican,
    and your Visiting Teacher is Liberal Democrat...
    ...and YES, she IS a Mormon!

  • Brother Benjamin Franklin Orem, UT
    July 21, 2013 2:22 p.m.

    This woman needs a talking to from someone who loves her enough to tell her you should not judge people like that. If you want to know what a person thinks about something, or what's really going on, ask them politely!!

    This woman ought to be ashamed of herself. It is people like this that are the problems in all churches and in life nowadays, that jump to conclusions without having all of the facts. It is little wonder so many are offended and don't come back to churches, social groups, schools, and the like because of thoughtless and inconsiderate things like that.

    I think some people just need to have some kind of experience in life that will help carefully and lovingly show them that people are not always what they seem. Cut it with the assumptions!!

  • I M LDS 2 Provo, UT
    July 21, 2013 11:29 a.m.

    Visiting Teachers are not a saving ordinance of the gospel. Just ask for someone else to be assigned, or ask not to be visited at all.

    If it does not edify, why waste time with it? Life is too short to waste listening to narrow-minded people. Move on and find friends who edify your life.

  • bw00ds Tucson, AZ
    July 20, 2013 1:02 p.m.

    Wow, Angela, what insightful and great advice!

    The only other thing I would recommend is to either hide all comments by said person or unfriend the person.

  • george of the jungle goshen, UT
    July 20, 2013 10:09 a.m.

    Loyalty is something I have to learn more about. Because it has to be both ways. It's got to have something to do with understanding. But by the grace of God go I. So I'm just trying to be gracious.