Stressed parents also abuse babies and small children--Don't blame the
parents in this case; blame the nanny.
Chinookdoctor, I really saw only one person who was critical of the parents for
not staying home with their kids. Most of us understand that people have
different circumstances and we should not judge others. Women have a lot of
opportunities that they haven't in the past, which is great. There are a
lot of choices we are able to make and what is right for one might not be right
for another. It is a sad fact that there are child abusers out there. Nobody
loves our children like we do. Nobody will give the care that we as mothers can
provide. It's a fact (in all but a few cases). It's not a criticism of
mothers who have chosen to go out into the work place. I think what happened to
these children is terrible and I don't think the parents need to be beaten
up over it. It's not their fault, but they are probably blaming themselves
anyway. This story is a warning to all of us that we can do more to protect our
precious children. I know these parents will do everything in their power after
going through this.
Honestly, it just gets tiring to read these anti-non-traditional family comments
on DN. Every family makes different choices about who cares for their children
and how. I know plenty of first-time parents with twins who got a day and night
nanny for many reasons. Having been pregnant with twins myself, I can say that
just surviving that ordeal is rough enough to need a nanny. Then to have to
learn to parent, stay married and maintain a household financially and in every
other way--that's gotta be rough! Kudos to those of you who chose to stay
home; kudos to those women who chose to return to work after having children;
they pave the way for all women to have a choice about whom to become and what
we contribute to the world. Bottom line: the nanny was wrong. Lets prosecute her
and not the parents! When we pay more attention to women's and
children's well being than football and war in this country we might see
some of these crimes decreased. Instead people want to hash out why stay-at-home
motherhood is superior.
I was a back-up care giver for twins who went home from the hospital at four
pounds each. I cannot imagine anyone resorting to abuse for babies. Often twins
are born early and have special needs, and cry a lot. That's when they need
gentle loving care. Babies do not have meltdowns; they are just reacting to pain
or discomfort and some other baby dilemma. The nanny had no business taking care
of children anywhere, and I agree that she ought to be shipped to Belgium where
she should have faced consequences before. I have no idea of the parents'
circumstances, but I'm sure they wish they could go back and never allow
the woman in the house. I once left our two young daughters with the daughter of
a friend, who thought she was responsible, but when I came home the girls were
in a full tub of water, unsupervised, and the babysitter was upstairs looking
for something to entertain them when she got them out of the tub. It was a
signal to me that I would know babysitters much better thereafter. We all have
to learn hard lessons sometime.
My eldest son was born when I still had two semesters left at college. I hired
some relatives to come in for three hours three times a week for the summer and
fall semesters so I could finish. I wanted to go to law school but just
finishing the last two semesters of school and leaving my child was horrible. I
decided to stay home with my kids and I do not regret it. Maybe my family could
have benefited financially if I had become a lawyer, but I know there would have
been trade-offs. I wouldn't have been able to have as many of them and my
time with them would have been limited. One of the great things about being a
woman today is that we have so many choices that we can make of how we want to
live our lives. Education and great jobs are possible. These parents made their
choice but with choices come consequences. It's not wrong to work.
Unfortunately when we leave children they are at risk. It's a sad fact. My
heart goes out to this family, the parents and the children, for the pain they
@Midvale Guy,You're making lots of assumptions and then using
them to make your little point...this girl is as American as you are (none of
her names are Belgian or European - they are American names).Anderson is one sick little girl and she is likely to face trial in Belgium
and do time over there. Not a lovely prospect.
The parents had both a day time AND a night time nanny? Weren't either of
them ever home? Was there any way to have done a background check on this
woman.? I wonder what kind of references she furnished.
I don't see any mention in there that she was a citizen of this country.
Why must we wait for Belgium to extradite her. She should be on her way out of
this country so quick it'll make her head spin. Why must we take on the
rest of the world's criminals or otherwise irresponsible people? This
should be the same for anyone convicted of a crime that is not a citizen. It
would be a lot cheaper to put her on a slow boat to Belgium then to monitor the
whereabouts and probation for the next five years. This is just another instance
of why our immigration system needs to be overhauled, and not the way the
president intends to do it!
@PCDude - try walking in their shoes before casting judgement, you don't
know their situation. You just assume these are some Park City socialites out
on the town for a good time, having a nanny watch the kids. You have no idea of
the parents situation. Think about that next time before allowing your fingers
to hit the keyboard.
Why does someone who obviously hates children become a nanny? Why, why, why? I
cannot fathom what kind of pain the babies must have been in. Glad that she was
caught and hope the babies are okay and doing well. We should all be HORRIFIED
at this and unfortunately, it's far to common an incident.
Well said, pcdude.If you can afford a nanny, you can afford a hidden
camera. Obviously you can't afford common sense to provide minimal
protection/evidence with a total stranger in your home.I don't
know the details, thus I hate to place full blame on the parents, so I
won't. But as a mother of five from a large and loving family, I
wouldn't have left my newborn even with the family that I love and trust.
That's just too young and vulnerable, IMO.You can't be a
member of modern society and not know this potential tragedy. I give thanks
that the babies are alive.
Why do we still allow plea deals? This needs to stop.
"...Specifically, both ankles bore metaphysical bucket-handle fractures. The
X-rays also revealed remote rib fractures," according to charging
documents.The Summit County Sheriff's Office soon learned that
Anderson was also wanted in Belgium for investigation of cruelty toward a set of
newborn twins in that country. While the parents of the Belgium twins were at a
hospital and discovered their children had multiple fractures on their arms and
legs, Anderson went to the airport and fled the country..."=============With a crime as dastardly as this, she deserves
**much** more than a year in jail and 5 years of probation. She should be
spending **at least** that many years in prison!
I'd say that "pcdude" is guilty of wild generalizations. And I
don't much care for the suggestion that children are "treasured
possessions."Yeah, ideally kids will be raised by a mom and a
dad, and will be blessed with a stay-at-home mom. But that's not reality
for a lot of families, for various reasons. (And maybe those Park City tycoons
don't have a proper reason, right pcdude?)Is there more that
the parents could've done, to protect their kids? Maybe, maybe not. (I
don't claim to know their circumstances.) But it sounds like they were
close enough to the situation to rein it in while it could be salvaged. SHAME
on the "nanny"!!There are people who have no business being
parents. And there are obviously people who have no business being nannies,
either. I'd say this one got off WAY too easy, for hurting an innocent
@Uncle Rico,If your argument truly hinges on whether these parents
have a physical condition that does not allow them to be by their
children's side all day, then fine.But I think if we were to
find out that isn't the case, you'd still disagree with PCDUDE. And if I'm right, then stop setting up straw man arguments to just
to make yourself feel better.PCDUDE makes a point.These
people likely wouldn't leave loads of cash unprotected. So why leave the
kids?If you disagree, at least provide a sound rational argument,
not a strawman that if we could prove you were wrong, you'd just set up
@pcdudeReally is this why this happened? Do you know the
parent's personally? Dis either of them have a physical condition or
This is what happens to one's children when they put their jobs and money
ahead of their kids.If people want to be parents, then stay home and
take care of your kids instead of having someone else raise them. Leaving
someone you don't know from Adam to look after what (who) should be your
most treasured possessions is beyond me. Would they leave their $50K in the
hands of this nanny? No, I'm not LDS.