Djk, please use capitals.
Bubble,First of all I doubt that a one year old could seriously hurt
an adult. Second, I used the word discipline for a reason. Discipline does not
necessarily mean punish, but it does mean they need to be taught. I've
watched too many parents simply chuckle or ignore their kids bad behavior
excusing it as just being a kid. Those kids who aren't corrected grow up
to be the bullies in our schools.
"...once he misbehaves, he’s lost a privilege for the day."I remember often losing the privilege of being able to sit on my butt
without it hurting.
Most of what they are talking about here has nothing to do with discipline or
teaching. Little kids simply don't understand that they can hurt you, and
most injuries are unintentional. My oldest used to give me black eyes.
He'd be in my lap - he was under two, and suddenly he'd rear back.
The back of his head would hit my cheekbone. No, I never punished him, he had
Even tykes learn by example. Yes, I know that the instinct to strike back is a
basic instinct that children need to overcome, but when they're being
spanked or watching violent television or adults get angry at them, what are
they learning? They're learning to respond with situations they don't
agree with with violence and anger. Spanking might get them to cooperate out
of fear, but think about those whom we respect and have taught us the most. For
most of us it would be someone who treated us with patience, kindness and love;
who valued us as an independent person; who taught us by example. As has been
pointed out by many people, the word discipline comes from the word, disciple,
or follower. In order to become someone whom our children want to follow, we
need to earn their love, not teach them to fear us. I've done quite a bit
of observing and it seems that the happiest, most well-adjusted families teach
their children with love and patience and don't resort to fear tactics.
this is what is the results of no discipline and screaming 'you can't
spank or correct that child because it is abuse'. hey i was taught i
misbehaved i got a spanking not 'now stop that think about what you
did'. my children were taught the way i was taught. i wasn't abused i
was taught with love. the caregiver/parent should correct this children with a
Unintended parent abuse? We are actually counseling on this? No doubt a
Federal Grant has been received for a committee to study such an issue and
invade our homes on another level. Can we not solve our own problems--one size
fits all? This is a joke--an unsettling joke. Can someone write me a script?
Children need to be disciplined for EVERYTHING. But before you call CPS, I
suggest you look up what the word Discipline means. There is no difference
between being taught and being punished. What there is, is a need for children
to learn boundaries and appropriate behavior and to develop the discipline to
stay with in them
@ MormonUte and AggieLove: Are you really suggesting that when a 1 year old
child accidentally hurts their parents that child needs to be punished?Taught yes - punished no.
Parents these days need a spine. It's ridiculous.
Parents need to be better at disciplining their children. If we want to stem
the tide of violence in our society, we need to teach children respect for
others and how to control their tempers. Sure, a certain amount of acting out
is expected from children, but too many parents simply let it go unchecked.
They are creating monsters who will one day contribute to the ever increasing
violence we see in our public places.
Very informative and interesting article, but I have to laugh at the thought of
a "well -rested" parent also being the parent of a toddler.