It is time in Utah sports to get an acknowledgement and agreement, verbally and
in writingthat there will be times when frustration will occur, but
the participant and parents agree not to engage in violence or to raise his/ her
voice against the ref or others.Agreement would include an
appropriate penalty for those who violate the agreement.
Whoa NellieAs I have been given much, I too must give.I
care for others. I do not wish harm on the boy, the referee's family, or
anyone. I believe justice is a righteous principle and I believe that this boy
can learn and grow and change for the better. I know I have changed a lot of
things in my life. As a teenager I was very different than I am today. I have
been given a lot of second chances and my life is blessed for it. I simply want
to give the same to others.I do believe in justice. But many seek
vengeance and call it justice. I want to give the boy a chance to change and be
better. I want to give him an opportunity to not spend years in prison, marked a
felon for life, etc. I want to help him.The real question isn't
why I want to help him, but why others care so much that someone does.
Let's not confuse forgiveness with justice. We can all be forgiving...
even "more" forgiving in our lives. However, justice must also be
served. I agree with the posts that call for this young man to be punished to
the fullest, as per the laws of the land. This was a violent and selfish act.
The act cost a man his life. It cost a family a husband and father! This case
will be critical to the type of actions people take in the future (in regards to
sports and sports officials). It is of critical importance to me that the
punishment is such to deter any further such actions.Tough deal for
all involved. I wish all parties involved internal peace.
"Portillo-Lopez said her family will take some comfort in the fact that many
people’s lives will be better because her father's organs were
donated to others."What a precious gift you have given to
others, so their lives may continue on. My most sincere sympathy. I
know how hard it is to lose a father who is well loved, and who died too soon.
Something about this situation just isn't right. Not sure what it is yet, I
am sure there will be some details coming out shortly. Sad for the family.
Can't help wonder what kind of example the punk's father has been at
other sporting events. But, something just isn't feeling right about the
I am so sorry for this families loss. Just a day or two previous to
Ricky's death, his daughter made the statement that he seemed to be doing
better. I was hoping for a recovery and was shocked when they announced he had
lost his battle for life. Only time will help with the loss, just remember the
good times you had.I hope this thoughtless act doesn't affect
the sports. These kids need an outlet for their energy, and need to be active.
This in no way condones what was done, but in my granddaughter's school,
because of the actions of a couple, their sports program no longer participates
in any sport that may include any physical contact. Hopefully this thoughtless
act won't affect hundreds in the league. Parents, this is an ideal time to
take this as a teaching moment for your kids. NEVER, I repeat NEVER should a
parent condone any type of violence. My kids were taught to not be bullied and
a target, but never to instigate anything.
Re: "Previously, he suffered broken ribs and a broken leg following
incidents of violence from irate players . . . ."Sounds like a
rough league. Hopefully, police officials are looking into the league, as well
as any gang affiliation status of the young toughs comprising it.
I have heartfelt sadness for this family/friends. I don't understand how
zero tolerance results in this man being seriously injured 3 different times
with the last resulting in death. This "almost a man" did not make a
"poor decision"...he reacted violently to an official doing his job. Our
bodies are not meant to act out in anger to others. He apparently has never been
guided to control his anger resulting in physical harm to others. NO ONE has the
right to harm another human being! As I taught my children...his rights ended
where the officials body began..
Condolences to this family and hopes that the Atonement will help them heal.Lad, there's no coverup here. This is an article about the mourning
of a family not whatever organization did or did not sponsor a soccer match. MormonSean, why do you feel the need to forgive the perpetrator of this
violent act? Are you related to the Portillo family? Were you injured or
offended directly by this boy?
well said DH48. my condolences also to all the parties involved.
The comments saying the league officials must do something, they must provide
more security, miss the mark. I understand they come from someone that is
grieving and I don't wish to criticize but our nation needs to realize that
more security is only treating a symptom. The cause is whatever lead up to this
young mans anger, or whatever made this young man believe that it was
appropriate and ok to punch someone in the head.Our society is
sending such mixed messages. We glorify violence to such a high degree then
become shocked when people act out with violence. If we want change the change
starts within our own hearts and minds.My sympathies to those
impacted by this tragedy.
Not sure what religion this family is. I hope it is ok to say that I believe the
atonement of Jesus Christ will help this family during this rough time. My
condolences. A careless act took your Father's life. May the Spirit of the
Lord comfort you.The young man that made this choice will need the
atonement too. Maybe he did what he did without thinking and never thought it
would end this way. I don't know. Only he does. Hopefully people will think
things through next time. This all happened over a soccer game, and someone not
being able to control their temper.God bless the families involved
in this tragedy.
This story is very sad. I feel bad for the family and those who knew this man
who passed away. I also feel bad for the young man who made this poor decision.
I am sure his intentions weren't to kill this man. This needs
to be a reminder that sports are recreational. We can all get too heating
playing. We need to remember common sense and perspective.
Why the big coverup? We don't even know what organization was sponsoring
the match, or who the teams were or what league was represented. It's
not the job of the newspapers to aid in creating a snow job but to investigate
and pass along all the details they can gather. Statement's from other
players, the other ref(s), what spectators saw, etc. I get that the offender was
over 17 , but not yet 18 and an adult: so his name can be withheld, but why the
complete lack of all other details. Nationally, this sick story is getting lots
of play in the Las Vegas Review Journal, Arizona Republic, LA Times, Denver
Post, NY Times that I know of, making it seem as if Utah is some wild untamed
place where you shoot the ref for making calls that bother you. The number of
Utah related parental assualts during kids games is well known also as well as
the coach who was accused of whacking a football player from the other team
giving the kid a concussion. Maybe law enforcement needs some new laws to deal
with the mess, kids frown on dad being locked up for bad behavior
I want to share a quote from President Hinckley's talk I mentioned."I know this is a delicate and sensitive thing of which I am
speaking. There are hardened criminals who may have to be locked up. There are
unspeakable crimes, such as deliberate murder and rape, that justify harsh
penalties. But there are some who could be saved from long, stultifying years in
prison because of an unthoughtful, foolish act. Somehow forgiveness, with love
and tolerance, accomplishes miracles that can happen in no other way.The great Atonement was the supreme act of forgiveness. The magnitude of that
Atonement is beyond our ability to completely understand. I know only that it
happened, and that it was for me and for you...""May God
help us to be a little kinder, showing forth greater forbearance, to be more
forgiving, more willing to walk the second mile, to reach down and lift up those
who may have sinned but have brought forth the fruits of repentance, to lay
aside old grudges and nurture them no more. For this I humbly pray, in the
sacred name of our Redeemer, even the Lord Jesus Christ, amen."
In October 2005, President Gordon B. Hinckley gave a talk titled
"Forgiveness".Maybe someday this kid will see the comments
posted here. He'll surely see a variety of attitudes. I just hope that he
or anyone else that can profit from this talk will take the time to listen to it
or read it.I forgive the boy. I hope and pray for his future to be
bright. I also pray for this family to feel comfort.