Prom is an interesting concept. It's the one night when normally
conservative helicopter parents encourage their daughters to dress wear next to
nothing, go dance with a hormone-driven boy, and engage in a light night of
partying, promiscuity, underage drinking, and other general debauchery. And
they often pay for the whole thing.And if you're one of those
parents reading this saying "my daughter would never do that", well
I've got news for you: You're exactly the one whose daughter would do
Good heavens. What a waste of money. Even worse, what a poor message this
sends to the young people who place such value on something so trivial. Shame
on any parents out there enabling and paying for such extravagence. I loved going to prom in high school. Went to almost every one. Never rented
a tux, never got a limo, never went to a very expensive restaurant. I think my
date bought a dress specifically for prom on only one or two occasions and they
were very modest (in style and in price). By the time I paid for flowers, the
dance, some photos, and dinner, I was into it $70 or $80, which was getting
expensive for my tastes. My parents never would have paid even those amounts,
let alone $1,000!
We spent a total of $76 total for jewelry, shoes, and the dress which we found
at JC Penneys as well as 16 hours making the difficult alterations. She looked
stunning and was one of the very best dressed at the prom. It was a labor of
love and fun. People who make under $30K who spend more than we did are
seriously lacking good judgement.
Proms perpetuate the high maintenance princess paradigm.
My son went last week and spent about 10% of that. Unfortunately, what we
really lack are adults who are willing to act like parents. Unless you are
wealthy, spending that kind of money on a high school dance should a complete
lack of common sense. And yes, my son could have afforded much more.
However, the kids he went with kept it simple, had a good time, and now have
plenty of money to do more fun things.
My bought a great dress for $65 and altered it a little for modesty for $5. I
don't think the boy spent much either. It's not a wedding.
Geesh. And those are out of hand too.
$1000 is a lot of money for a dress that hardly covers anything...
A local seemstress in town old me that she often has kids come to do their prom
and wedding dresses fit simultaneously. Perhaps that's one way to
I was a junior at the time proms began to get out of hand. The student council
decided to hold the prom an hour and a half away on the Queen Mary and charged
100 dollars a ticket. The student body responded by refusing to attend, for the
most part. Responsibility for this goes to the adults. It's
time we spend a little of our parenting and education time teaching young people
to think, to set values and to figure out what will matter in the long run. A
prom is nothing more than a dance. In the long run, that money is wasted. I
didn't go my junior year and I graduated early so I didn't go the next
year...and amazingly, I managed to have a perfectly good life in spite of it. My
parents taught me to spend money on things of value. An over-priced date with
someone you may not really even care about isn't one of them.
I never went to prom because my girlfriend lived 800 miles away, but I can say
that that average is more than we paid for our wedding, two receptions, and
honeymoon combined! What are people thinking?!
sad.. should only cost $100-200 dollars
And to think, I had a hard time paying up to $200 for prom.
"Families that made less than $30,000 a year spent the most."And thus we see why so many people have a hard time embracing the idea of
people taking tax dollars for being poor.It makes me sick to know I
was forced to spend my day at work, so I could pay for some poor person to blow
MY hard earned money on a $1000 prom dance.