Mormon Parenting: Our good intentions with music lessons

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  • RunAmuckMom Salt Lake City, UT
    March 11, 2013 7:06 p.m.

    Music is one of the most beautiful gifts we have in our stress harrowed world. I expose my children to many instruments and see what they gravitate to. One is guitar, one fiddles with piano, the other has finally picked up the native american flute. I also expose them to many types of music as well. Each one of my kids listens to a different style of music than the other for studying or during outdoor activities. Each so far, has a genuine appreciation for music. For example, one has ADHD and loves symphony music and Kitaro/David Arkenstone types. Music blesses our family in many ways. it has helped to foster closeness. Whether it is practicing an instrument for horrible rock band night or belting out vocals in the wrong tones or simply listening, our family has truly been blessed by music in our journey to well roundedness

  • fowersjl Farmington, Utah
    March 10, 2013 10:11 a.m.

    Whew! This article makes me feel better. Used to joke that I kept having children hoping for a musical virtuoso, but we had to have one marry into the family, and that works, too! The long years of nagging mother and dragging children to music lessons paid off somehow. I am sure they appreciate music more. (I hope). If we had to do it over again, I wouldn't change much, except maybe try to be less grouchy about it.

  • Nachtmerrie_in_Brugge Mesa, AZ
    March 9, 2013 2:43 a.m.

    Don't tell those music teachers, higv, but a study released several years ago revealed that there is actually no causal linkage between musical ability and academic ability. According to the study, the two simply coincide in many cases, but one doesn't precipitate the other.

    If your child takes music lessons and is able to play like a pro someday, that'll be a bonus (albeit a very precious one!). The real value, however, is the qualities like discipline, consistency, perseverence and concentration that he'll develop in the process. In the Eyres' case, look at all the time they've spent together making music as a family.

    I'm a music teacher, by the way.

  • higv Dietrich, ID
    March 8, 2013 5:37 p.m.

    Interesting thing on Music and other things. I hear High school mucis teachers say music makes kids smarter and some parents mothers will say you can't do anything else until practice is up to date your learning the hymns. John Tesh type things.

    Hear a few parents expect nothing but A;s on there report. Expect the kids to be all state athletes. While those things are nice I don't think they are necessary. Some kids may be great at music, at sports, at school, Can fix anything others can't. Balance I think is finding talent and utilizing it. Not everyone will be a musician or athlete or straight a student. You can excell in your talents and be good people though.

  • Kelleen Ryan Valley Center, CA
    March 8, 2013 11:10 a.m.

    I have seen the same thing with my family. We have a large family as well and I have learned that well rounded builds them into adults who are aware of the sacrifice and commitment made by those who do excel. The last 3 of 13 children are not being allowed to quit piano all the older siblings tell them that they wish they hadn't quit!

  • luv2organize Gainesville, VA
    March 8, 2013 9:06 a.m.

    I totally agree with this statement, First, most kids eventually gravitate to what they love and to what their real, inherent skills and gifts lead them to. It’s great if parents can expose them to enough things that they can find what they love, but it’s the kids, not the parents, who have to find their passions." I think this is true with friends. We can try all we want to get our kids together with the kids we think they should play with when in fact they are capable of finding their own good friends! Let's give our kids lots of love and opportunity and they will grow into the people they are meant to be.

  • Danny Chipman Lehi, UT
    March 8, 2013 8:43 a.m.

    This article made me think back to "The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother". Her kids really did become virtuosos, but at a pretty steep price. We Americans may be "behind" in many areas compared to parents in other countries, but I think kids who are well-rounded are more likely to be happy and less stressed in life.