Linda & Richard Eyre: A big reason for not giving up on marriage

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  • Thinkman Provo, UT
    Feb. 11, 2013 5:04 p.m.

    ElleJay,

    I fully agree that a marriage should be ended if there is abuse, adultery and drug or alcoholic addictions. There are very very few reasons other than these to end a marriage if there are still children to be raised.

    You would end a marriage if your spouse no longer believed in the religion that you believe? What if he/she hadn't changed in behaviors and was devoted, caring and loving to you and your children? Would you still advocate divorce? Really? I feel sorry for your spouse and perhaps more so, for your children. What happened to "focus on the family" and "families are forever?"

  • Thinkman Provo, UT
    Feb. 11, 2013 4:48 p.m.

    An LDS temple marriage has no greater worth than a marriage that was conducted on a beach, in the mountains, in a house or in the courthouse. Neither are the stakes of an LDS temple marriage any higher than any other marriage.

    It is amazing to me how many people throw away their marriage because of very small differences or issues that are mole hills but are soon viewed as a mountain too tall to overcome.

    If you can't stay together and put aside your selfishness for your spouse's sake, then stay together at least until the children are raised. And if you have to gut it out for the children's sake, grow up, take responsibility for your own happiness, focus on them and love them and try for even just 2 minutes to love your spouse who you may now hate or loath or "just don't love anymore." When you can love and accept your spouse for just 2 minutes, then that 2 minutes may turn into 2 hours, then 2 days, then 2 weeks then 2 months, then 2 years, then 2 decades and then you wonder why you didn't love him/her all the time.

  • ElleJay Sandy, UT
    Feb. 10, 2013 6:17 p.m.

    1st - If you're in an abusive relationship, GET OUT of it fast. 2nd - Divorce is sometimes unavoidable. If you truly feel in your heart that you have done everything possible to make your marriage work, yet it continues to spiral downward, you are left with no other option. When you continue to live your life according to your beliefs and values, and your spouse no longer adheres to the values and/or beliefs the two of you had as a couple, it may very well be the best decision for all involved, to part ways. I have recently personally witnessed a couple who a year ago thought they could get through anything together. Now, the husband has become someone none of us recognize anymore. The wife needs to get out of the marriage as soon as possible. There are some fights we are not meant to fight. Know when to hold 'em. Know when to fold 'em and walk away. And after you walk away, don't cling to the old or try to get revenge. Be brave enough to walk away, let go and move forward.

  • airnaut Everett, 00
    Feb. 8, 2013 2:03 p.m.

    Q: What if you are in an abusive relationship?

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    sharrona
    layton, UT

    Whatever - save your breath.
    Try taking your fight up with an atheist, Muslim, Jew or Budahist.
    They don't even believe in Jesus Christ.

    Start there, and come back an attack us Mormons and Catholics after you've convert all them first.

  • sharrona layton, UT
    Feb. 8, 2013 9:53 a.m.

    RE:"..the inestimably huge worth that an eternal, celestial marriage will someday have."

    For when the DEAD rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage. In this respect they will be like the angels in heaven,(Mt 22:30 NLT)

    No marriage in heaven because Angels are heavenly beings Created by God (Psalm 148 2,5 )&( Col 1:16) Angels do not procreate, sexless.

  • dr.bridell mclean, VA
    Feb. 8, 2013 9:10 a.m.

    Wow, powerful metaphor!