Will focus on children be enough to get help for parents?

Bill would fight bullying and give tools to parents

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  • yankees27 Heber, Utah
    Feb. 7, 2013 2:32 p.m.

    @Joseywales, I agree. Bullying does not have to be a part of life as was stated above. It's sad that some people think this way. I feel for you about how you tried to talk to the parents. To me, it's like some parents actually enable their kids to be bullies. It's almost like their view is, better to be the bully, than the bullied. I have a friend that allows their kids to act this way, and they never discipline them or correct them that treating others in an inappropriate way is never allowed. But, they are the first people whining when a kid retaliates or teases their kid. I take comfort in knowing that for the most part bullies rarely end up being successful, or having much joy in their life. Prison, drugs, divorce,etc., is usually the norm for these guys. However, they sure can make it tough for a kid who just wants to go to school to learn to find much joy. I wish that bullying would be treated more harshly than it is. Only then will it get better. Or, you get a kid who snaps and then...

  • joseywales Park City, UT
    Feb. 7, 2013 12:48 p.m.

    Sally- No way! Bullying doesn't have to be a part of life. And it can go away, at least to a degree that makes many, many kids happier. I agree it will never be 100% gone, but could be greatly reduced. Bullying isn't just physical violence, but more often it's emotional. Parents must get involved more in their kids lives. Quit passing the buck to others. When my daughter was having some problems with some "mean girls" (like the movie) her teachers would do nothing. After several attempts talking to the teachers, principal, and counselors, I was fed up. I went to the school at lunch, ate with my daughter, and then went out to recess with her. I stayed on the edge videotaping while these girls circled my girl and her friends, taunting them calling them names and teasing about their clothing choices and how stupid they looked. Needless to say when I presented the video, things changed. I actually gave each parent of the "offenders" a copy. After trying to talk to them, it was apparent where these girls got their meanness from. It seems bullying might just be an inherited trait.

  • sally Kearns, UT
    Feb. 7, 2013 8:00 a.m.

    I think children and adults need to learn how to deal with bullying. Bullying is a part of life. It will not go away. So, why not learn to deal with it instead of trying to legislate it away. I like the idea Carolyn Sharette presented. Make it available to everyone. Both children and parents can improve their skills in dealing with others. If the training is interactive so the participants know if they are learning and applying the info, then it would be more effective. Lectures are rarely effective.

  • Tolstoy salt lake, UT
    Feb. 6, 2013 5:05 p.m.

    that chip must be getting heavy. where does this article at any point talk about costing you one red dime? where in this article does it say anything about abdicating personal responsibility? If anything this type of program is aimed to encourage parents to get off of facebook and stop watching television and tune into their children.

  • Western Rover Herriman, UT
    Feb. 6, 2013 4:24 p.m.

    I think the most effective programs are going to be those that are run by people who are truly sincere in persuading the kids that they are loved and needed, in other words, programs that will happen with or without legislation.

    Programs run by people who are doing them only because of a legal requirement will become stultifying powerpoint presentations that won't fool any students into thinking they are anything but a box to be checked off.

  • Chase Saint George, UT
    Feb. 6, 2013 3:43 p.m.

    I propose a new tax be levied in cooperation with new legislation; it will save many lives.

    If we will just pay more taxes, to fund more programs, which would reduce personal responsibility from our already weighed-down shoulders, while increasing the role of government in our lives, not one of our precious souls will be lost.

    We would then all be able to spend more time on Facebook or television watching with out the endless nagging of child-rearing or any associated bullying.

    Problem solved!

  • Carolyn Sharette Sandy, UT
    Feb. 6, 2013 8:49 a.m.

    If the legislature and advocacy groups really want to be helpful, they could create a high quality computer-based training that schools could simply email out to their parents every month if needed, and also post a link on their websites. They could also set up a quick post-training quiz that would gather information from the parents - was the training helpful? Do they need additional resources? Do they know of youths they are worried about? Would they be willing to share that information with the school counselor?

    Schools could gauge the participation by the questions answered, and schools could send out ongoing requests via email to parents to view the training and respond.

    Having meetings and seminars is just not an effective way to reach parents anymore. They are too busy to come in the evenings (they need to be with the adolescents we are talking about saving!). An electronic means would be much more effective and helpful to the schools. If they wanted to hold a seminar, they could use the computer-based training as well, and could use it for the required training for their staffs.