Elderly and frail deserve better care

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  • Rynn Las Vegas, NV
    Jan. 30, 2013 8:20 a.m.

    The problem is that not everyone has a family that can take care of them in their older years.
    What about people who don't have any children? Or the people who have outlived the rest of their family? Then what? They live on the streets?

  • raybies Layton, UT
    Jan. 30, 2013 6:32 a.m.

    Great article, Lois! Caring for the Elderly is a really important aspect of decent and stable civilization. There are a lot of elderly needs in Utah, and often it is a tug-of-war between enabling them to be indepedent and the potential to self injury. There are also those that abuse and exploit the elderly. And often we, as neighbors, simply don't know how to best protect them and we don't know what our options are--or even what the proper procedures would be if we do see evidence of abuse. What if it isn't abuse and they just fell? Then they fear that they will be taken out of their homes, and placed in a tiny room and forgotten. And if it is abuse, the fear might be that they cannot prove independent enough to live on their own.

  • Lasvegaspam Henderson, NV
    Jan. 30, 2013 2:35 a.m.


    There is no doubt in my mind that it is the same for our elderly. They are best off staying in their own homes where they are familiar with neighbors and services, as well as their own floor plans. Of course, their care needs to be increased when dementia or illness are present. But this does not change the fact that the elderly are best cared for in their own homes, preferably by their own family members.

    And though incidents like the one in this article do happen, by and large many, many people are doing a tremendous job of caring for their aging parents, and are doing the best that they know how.

    Please note that a very affordable $40-a- month plan would have avoided the bathroom incident above. A pendant worn around the mom’s neck, or a bracelet around her wrist, worn at all times – especially while bathing -- would have allowed her to simply press the button for help. Many companies today will compete for your business in setting up this service for your loved one.

  • Lasvegaspam Henderson, NV
    Jan. 30, 2013 2:34 a.m.

    Mike Richards – God bless you and your logical and compassionate reasoning. I always appreciate your posts.

    May I add further that just as the care of children is best accomplished in the home by families, so is the care of the elderly. So many in my state of Nevada keep insisting that there are thousands of children here that NEED the government to feed them breakfast (and lunch) and how the government NEEDS to care for them after school; that the government NEEDS to create a program to fill all these needs.

    To which I respond, gee, there is a “program” already in place that could solve this dilemma. It’s called “the family”, i.e., mothers and dads and extended family. These are people who already care the most about their own children. How is it possible that we ignore this?

  • Mike Richards South Jordan, Utah
    Jan. 29, 2013 6:49 p.m.

    God made us part of a family. He taught us, through his prophets, how we should treat each other. Never did he instruct us to look to government for personal needs. He told us to look to our families. Children look to their parents for help. Parents look to their grown children for help. It really is "one eternal round".

    Some of us have the great privilege to care for parents when they can no longer care for themselves. Some of us realize that the day will come when we will have to swallow our pride and rely on our family for our most basic needs.

    God gave us families and charged us to love the members of our families, to put their needs before our own. Government teaches the opposite. Government tells us that God made a serious mistake and that only government can care for us. In the 80 years since FDR, government has wasted trillions of our tax dollars proving that they are wrong and God is right.

  • one old man Ogden, UT
    Jan. 29, 2013 3:55 p.m.

    But aren't they some of those lazy, indolent, socialists who are ruining this country? Who cares what they may have contributed? Who cares how much they may have paid in taxes during their working years? Now they are just entitled loafers who are abusing the system.

    After all, aren't they part of the hated 47%?

    What's really needed is a complete overhaul of national priorities -- especially in one particular political party.

  • george of the jungle goshen, UT
    Jan. 29, 2013 8:32 a.m.

    Make your momma proud. My dad said that to me a lot when I was growing up. I'm trying to get my kids to understand what they mean to me, The second thought on their actions.
    A tear got in my eye as I read this story. I can relate to what your family went through with your mom. I hope I raised good kids but They are grown ups now and hope that they will remember to; make their momma proud.