There's also the threat of natural consequences--get good grades or be held
back a year. Contribute to the running of the household or forget about
receiving those benefits. Be responsible with media/device use or lose those
Everything we do teaches our children to demand more and more for their
performance. If we're going to do away with these 'bribes' then
there is no way our children will succeed without radically changing society at
the same time.
I don't think that it is good to idea to bribe your kids. Tech them to do
well and expect them to do well, then occasionally reward them for doing so. IF
you bribe them you are raising a dependency of expectation and no foundation of
hard work. I feel it's ok to monitor the communication and cell phone
activity of children to make sure they are on task. Most children fall behind
because they are texting friends while in class. It's ok for parents to put
Phone Sheriff on their kids smart phone to make sure they are staying on task.
instead of trying to bride our kids, I say monitor them to make sure they are on
task and safe.