Wright Words: Can a miscarriage teach divine lessons?

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  • sharrona layton, UT
    Oct. 10, 2012 7:49 a.m.

    RE: LDS Liberal; What to do was between her, her Doctor, her family and *God - no one else needed to get involved?
    In The U.S. We have “The Right to LIFE” Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness"
    If you could ask the child, would he say abort me?
    For you (*God)created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb.(Psalm 139:13 NIV).
    LDS Liberal, I have Orthodox(Temple) Mormon family and neighbors and I pretty much understand what they believe(we agree to disagree on the BoM). But talking a liberal Mormon would be like trying to nail Jello to the wall.

  • Dadof5sons Montesano, WA
    Oct. 10, 2012 1:05 a.m.

    As a husband of over 22 years of marriage and some great son's. My wife and I have had nine miscarriages each one was hard and had us on our knees praying for understanding. We cherish each of our five sons as miracles that The Lord has blessed us with over the greater part of twenty plus years of parenting. No matter how many times this happened each was a trial and a lesson if we chose to learn and grow from it. Thanks for sharing.

  • Physics27 Cedar City, UT
    Oct. 9, 2012 9:39 p.m.

    LDS Liberal,
    It appears to me that we are living in two different worlds. My experiences in life and in the church seem to be very different than yours. Isn't it great that each of us can have our individual points of view. You can do whatever you feel is right and it does not matter what anyone else thinks. It only matters what God thinks. The less time we spend worrying about what others think about us, the better off we will be.

  • Nan BW ELder, CO
    Oct. 9, 2012 9:34 p.m.

    We've all had experiences in life wherein someone reacted in a "caloused, or scornful, or sarcastic" manner when we were in deep sorrow or distress. This is life. Not everyone is going to be sympathetic or understanding when it is needed. I had a miscarriage once too, and reaction was varied. That doesn't matter. I'm not perfect, and I'm sure someone is correct that I have reacted in an inappropriate manner. What I and others need to focus on is learning from our adverse experiences, whether they be something along the lines of a miscarriage, or someone hurting our feelings with an inappropriate reaction. We can only progress if he move forward and don't let adversity mire us in bitterness or self-pity.

  • LDS Liberal Farmington, UT
    Oct. 9, 2012 4:20 p.m.

    Lafayette, IN


    Because rather than being met and supported with kindness, compassion, sympathy -- we were met with scorn, ridicule and dispesement by MEMBERS.

    Some people put their political ideology ahead of our Christian values, and following the brethren -- THAT'S why.

    I was in the room, my Sister-in-Law, my Mother and my Father prayed and had life-support pulled on my 32 year old brother following a motorcycle accident.

    Life and Death decisions are to be between a Family, Docotr and God -- NOT the Govenrment, not other members of the Churhc, and definetly NOT some bogus Political Party.

    For the last 17 years, it's all I can do to attend Church, and listen to lessons about Life and Death and hear the hash words about a Families decisions, while those same people Cheer a public exicusion by the State or rally for another Foreign War for oil.

    I suppose so -- but I can't wait for the day when Christ's Atonement rectifies and makes ALL things right -- and heals my soul, since the members of his Church are so calloused.

  • theOtter Lafayette, IN
    Oct. 9, 2012 2:07 p.m.

    Jason, thanks so much for your thoughts on the subject. If I could add one thing: if the doctor recommends a D&C, please strongly consider getting one. My wife and I decided not to, and have been infertile ever since. We stopped trying to get pregnant not because we don’t want more children, but because we couldn’t bear to spend 45 or 50 months trying to get pregnant, only to watch yet another baby die, anyway.

    LDS Liberal, I definitely feel your pain, but I’m not sure why you felt the need to politicize this article. We can debate elsewhere whether your assertions are even accurate, but to display them in this particular venue is pretty classless. Bad show, LDSL.

  • LDS Liberal Farmington, UT
    Oct. 9, 2012 10:59 a.m.

    My wife and I have gone through this same experience.
    I taught Divine Lessons, and political ones as well.

    It changed my mind and my heart about 2 things:

    1. The LDS allows for aborations under these cicumstances "viability of the fetus", and "health and well being of the woman". What to do was between her, her Doctor, her family and God - no one else needed to get involved.

    2. The Republican Party does not, and would strip away choice. or She and her Doctor would be Criminals.

    My wife would be dead, and I'd still have no child - or future children as a result.

    I learned alot.
    It broke my bleeding heart, and gave me a more contrite spirit.

  • Smiley Taylorsville, UT
    Oct. 9, 2012 8:46 a.m.

    I too had experience a miscarriage with my first pregnancy. Oh the valuable lessons I learned . It was a comfort to me talking with a friend & sister in-law who had both experienced miscarriages themselves. I was able to read a few books that helped & brought a whole new perspective on life. For those that are struggling out there, I'd recommend what I've shared & get a priesthood blessing. Remember you're not alone.