Ahhaha! That was an uplifting read! Just the review was encouraging as I am
raising a teen alone father is barely involved. I worry a lot about her lack
of a fatherly example, hoping the good men at church and their example will be
enough along with the father's of her friends. Thankfully, there are
plenty of those. Without Dadly examples, Boys don't know how to be men and
girls don't know how to expect the best from boyfriends. Thank you
honorable men to fill the gap.
Way to go Bay! What an awesome group. Job well done.
I was under the impression that she had left the church under pressure from her
brother (Pat Buchanan). If that is untrue, I'm glad to be wrong!
Like Ute, I had no idea she is LDS but I'm big fan of hers. Awesome story
No mention is made of the father of these boys. Interesting.I used
to be sympathetic toward single moms, until my wife filed for divorce and used
the children as weapons in divorce court. After losing my home, my children,
and my means of support, I was relegated to a state of homelessness while trying
to fight for my custodial rights in a culture where fathers are considered to be
little more than unnecessary appendages to the family structure. I eventually
won custody of our children, but it took over 5 years and tens of thousands of
dollars. Even then, our children were still scarred from a lack of
parental guidance. Those scars remain to this day.I look forward to
the day when fathers will be recognized as being equally as important to their
children's lives as are their mothers.
It's really refreshing to hear about single motherhood in a positive light
and bravo to Bay Buchanan for daring to write this book. It seems that daily
the perception is that single parents are castigated for being root of the
problem and cause of all evils in society today. What many fail to realize is
that these women have no other choice and there is no man coming in to save the
day, let alone to raise the children. I too have family members who were single
parents who would be counted as success stories like Buchanan's. They
pulled themselves up by their bootstraps, earned degrees, excelled in the job
market and even went so far as to mentor other single parents. Today their
children are raised and college educated tax paying citizens, not generational
welfare recipients. These single parents are a far cry from the stigmatized,
hated, media blasted, drug addled caricature of the single parent parading as
Parenting is tough. Raising a family alone is more difficult than raising them
as a couple. But there is no doubt that Bay is on to something. The statistics
are grim, but stats are just that, "stats." Each data-point is a
discrete unit that shares nothing with its peers besides the fact that they are
all being measured.I have a family member with cancer. The
five-year mortality is 90%. As we have talked with each other, I've
encouraged him to focus on being one of the ten percent that survive. Not every
salmon swimming up-stream ends up in the bear's mouth. Some make it all
the way home."Brethren, shall we not go on in so great a cause?
Go forward and not backward. Courage, brethren; and on, on to the victory! Let
your hearts rejoice, and be exceedingly glad. Let the earth break forth into
singing..." (D&C 128:22)We have good reason to hope.
Being a single mom does take a lot of energy. I am grateful to have role models
like Bay Buchanan because I have four boys I am raising alone. Thanks for
reviewing tihs book, DNEWS, I wouldn't have known about it and now I am
going to check it out as soon as I get a chance. Anyone know if there is an
audio version so I can listen and cook dinner at the same time or something? We
parents have to multi-task a lot, single or not.
Come on mightymouse, you should be posting your foolishness with the other paper
in town. This was a book review! Get it?
mightymite's comments made me think of Abraham Lincoln's comment that
it is "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and
remove all doubt."This is not a news item or an advertisement,
rather it is a review. Newspapers everywhere review and preview books. Perhaps
the most famous is the New York Sunday Book Review. Deseret News continues that
tradition of service to their readers. mightymite may consider getting educated
before making such an empty criticism.
I have always admired Bay as a bright person. I had no idea she is LDS. I
suspect there is be a lot of information in the book that many can use, except
mightymite. Come on mite, it must be tough getting up everyday with a chip
on your shoulder. Life is really good and the DN provides stories that other
papers don't. You might try the NYT or the tribune for stories that are
closer to what you want to read.
Is thia a news story or advertisement? Come on DNEWS you can do better then
I am really looking forward to reading this book. I have an older sister who
did it alone with two boys. She married young, had her kids young and divorced
within a few years. It was a good decision for her to divorce at that time.
She then went on to get her Masters then PhD and is now a very successful
tenured professor. Her boys? They are thriving, one just graduated college and
will be applying to medical school the other is finishing college next year and
will be going to graduate school right after. They are successful, kind,
disciplined and talented young men and I am very proud of them and of her.