There is hope for single parents, author Bay Buchanan says in new book 'Bay and Her Boys'

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  • dotGone Puyallup, WA
    July 14, 2012 8:40 a.m.

    Ahhaha! That was an uplifting read! Just the review was encouraging as I am raising a teen alone father is barely involved. I worry a lot about her lack of a fatherly example, hoping the good men at church and their example will be enough along with the father's of her friends. Thankfully, there are plenty of those. Without Dadly examples, Boys don't know how to be men and girls don't know how to expect the best from boyfriends. Thank you honorable men to fill the gap.

  • across the sea Topeno, Finland
    July 14, 2012 2:55 a.m.

    Way to go Bay! What an awesome group. Job well done.

  • aztexas Houston, TX
    July 13, 2012 9:08 p.m.

    I was under the impression that she had left the church under pressure from her brother (Pat Buchanan). If that is untrue, I'm glad to be wrong!

  • t702 Las Vegas, NV
    July 13, 2012 7:47 a.m.

    Like Ute, I had no idea she is LDS but I'm big fan of hers. Awesome story

  • TheWalker Saratoga Springs, UT
    July 12, 2012 7:50 p.m.

    No mention is made of the father of these boys. Interesting.

    I used to be sympathetic toward single moms, until my wife filed for divorce and used the children as weapons in divorce court. After losing my home, my children, and my means of support, I was relegated to a state of homelessness while trying to fight for my custodial rights in a culture where fathers are considered to be little more than unnecessary appendages to the family structure. I eventually won custody of our children, but it took over 5 years and tens of thousands of dollars.

    Even then, our children were still scarred from a lack of parental guidance. Those scars remain to this day.

    I look forward to the day when fathers will be recognized as being equally as important to their children's lives as are their mothers.

  • jrgl CEDAR CITY, UT
    July 12, 2012 6:52 p.m.

    It's really refreshing to hear about single motherhood in a positive light and bravo to Bay Buchanan for daring to write this book. It seems that daily the perception is that single parents are castigated for being root of the problem and cause of all evils in society today. What many fail to realize is that these women have no other choice and there is no man coming in to save the day, let alone to raise the children. I too have family members who were single parents who would be counted as success stories like Buchanan's. They pulled themselves up by their bootstraps, earned degrees, excelled in the job market and even went so far as to mentor other single parents. Today their children are raised and college educated tax paying citizens, not generational welfare recipients. These single parents are a far cry from the stigmatized, hated, media blasted, drug addled caricature of the single parent parading as welfare queen.

  • terra nova Park City, UT
    July 12, 2012 6:33 p.m.

    Parenting is tough. Raising a family alone is more difficult than raising them as a couple. But there is no doubt that Bay is on to something. The statistics are grim, but stats are just that, "stats." Each data-point is a discrete unit that shares nothing with its peers besides the fact that they are all being measured.

    I have a family member with cancer. The five-year mortality is 90%. As we have talked with each other, I've encouraged him to focus on being one of the ten percent that survive. Not every salmon swimming up-stream ends up in the bear's mouth. Some make it all the way home.

    "Brethren, shall we not go on in so great a cause? Go forward and not backward. Courage, brethren; and on, on to the victory! Let your hearts rejoice, and be exceedingly glad. Let the earth break forth into singing..." (D&C 128:22)

    We have good reason to hope.

  • Chieftess Ivins, UT
    July 12, 2012 5:21 p.m.

    Being a single mom does take a lot of energy. I am grateful to have role models like Bay Buchanan because I have four boys I am raising alone. Thanks for reviewing tihs book, DNEWS, I wouldn't have known about it and now I am going to check it out as soon as I get a chance. Anyone know if there is an audio version so I can listen and cook dinner at the same time or something? We parents have to multi-task a lot, single or not.

  • trentster TUSTIN, CA
    July 12, 2012 3:11 p.m.

    Come on mightymouse, you should be posting your foolishness with the other paper in town. This was a book review! Get it?

  • Texas Mom Cypress, TX
    July 12, 2012 12:47 p.m.

    mightymite's comments made me think of Abraham Lincoln's comment that it is "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt."

    This is not a news item or an advertisement, rather it is a review. Newspapers everywhere review and preview books. Perhaps the most famous is the New York Sunday Book Review. Deseret News continues that tradition of service to their readers. mightymite may consider getting educated before making such an empty criticism.

  • ute alumni Tengoku, UT
    July 12, 2012 12:26 p.m.

    I have always admired Bay as a bright person. I had no idea she is LDS. I suspect there is be a lot of information in the book that many can use, except mightymite.
    Come on mite, it must be tough getting up everyday with a chip on your shoulder. Life is really good and the DN provides stories that other papers don't. You might try the NYT or the tribune for stories that are closer to what you want to read.

  • mightymite DRAPER, UT
    July 12, 2012 7:59 a.m.

    Is thia a news story or advertisement? Come on DNEWS you can do better then this.

  • chinookdoctor PASADENA, CA
    July 12, 2012 7:14 a.m.

    I am really looking forward to reading this book. I have an older sister who did it alone with two boys. She married young, had her kids young and divorced within a few years. It was a good decision for her to divorce at that time. She then went on to get her Masters then PhD and is now a very successful tenured professor. Her boys? They are thriving, one just graduated college and will be applying to medical school the other is finishing college next year and will be going to graduate school right after. They are successful, kind, disciplined and talented young men and I am very proud of them and of her.