Ailing father writes letters to daughter he won't see grow up

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  • DeeDee Logan, UT
    June 4, 2012 2:28 p.m.

    Tiger5 - my sister-in-law could have written your comment. Relationships are not destroyed by one person if there is a relationship and not just a loyalty bond because of the closed family system. I think it is offensive to accuse one person when it really takes a family to destroy relationships. My in-laws have never supported us as a couple. They supported their son/brother/uncle but never us as a couple. He was always supposed to be loyal to them even if that meant destroying our relationship. You sound just the same as his family. I am certain you and your family have not been supportive to them as a couple. Sounds like you have a closed family unit that is dysfunctional but one has to be loyal and keep the unspoken rules or you are kicked out of the family, especially as an in-law.
    I applaud this father for making memories for his daughter. That shows the love and care he has for her and his family. I hope his wife and daughter have both sides of the family supporting them without judgement. That usually happens in solid families.

  • Tiger5 Cache county, USA
    June 2, 2012 1:39 p.m.

    The last paragraph says it all.
    I wish my family could just get along.
    My sister in law has destroyed my brothers relationship with all of us.
    Remember how funerals put us all in perspective?
    I can only imagine the clarity this disease would bring to many people.
    Good luck Emerson!
    You're lucky to have those parents.

  • suzyk#1 Mount Pleasant, UT
    June 2, 2012 8:17 a.m.

    What an uplifting article and what wonderful and caring comments. That is what this ole world is about, thinking of others, loving and supporting even those who are strangers. Just made my day.

  • Nan BW ELder, CO
    May 31, 2012 5:08 p.m.

    Wonderful story, and the it should be an inspriation to of us, no matter how different our own challenges may be. My prayers are for all with these really tough trials.

  • Fitness Freak Salt Lake City, UT
    May 31, 2012 3:16 p.m.

    I'm teared up!

    Best article I've read all week.

    I'm going for a walk before anyone notices me crying!!

  • EnglishAlan Rugeley, Staffs
    May 11, 2012 6:45 a.m.

    What a wonderful attitude to life this courageous young man has. Truly inspiring.

    This story reminds me so much of a wonderful book that I read some time ago. It was called "Tuesdays with Morrie," by Mitch Alborn. The true story of a college professor stricken with this same illness.

    Whilst this illness may take his life early, this little girl will one day meet with her Daddy again, this time never to be separated This is what the Apostle Paul meant when he said, "...O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory..." (1 Corinthians 15:55)

  • Pac_Man Pittsburgh, PA
    May 10, 2012 11:31 p.m.

    Very inspiring story.

  • RanchHand Huntsville, UT
    May 10, 2012 9:27 p.m.

    I agree with Utah Girl. Videos will give the daughter not only the words of her father, but visuals of him talking to her.

  • Utah Girl Vernal, UT
    May 10, 2012 8:14 p.m.

    My gosh...need to proofread my posts. I meant to say "when she gets older" not "old". I have a friend whose husband is deployed to Afghanistan. They do nightly devotionals as a family, so he recorded about 3 months' worth of devotionals before he left, and his family has really treasured hearing those while he's been gone. I have some cassette tapes of my father playing his harmonica. He's been gone for 18 years, and it was several years before he died that he could no longer play due to Parkinson's disease. I treasure the letters I still have that he wrote to me, as well as ones from my dear mother. Those things are priceless. If we ever have a fire in our home, my first thing to grab, if I could, would be my journals, then pictures, then my computer which has so many pictures of my family on it, and my scriptures. Tucked into the pockets of my journals are letters from my mom and dad, poems by my children, their patriarchal blessings, and much more. Some things are just not replaceable.

  • Utah Girl Vernal, UT
    May 10, 2012 7:45 p.m.

    Letters are wonderful. And maybe even more important, if you can, make some videos for her. Tell her about yourself, about her and what she's doing, maybe video the two of you together for her to see later. Make videos reading a book to her, telling her a story, anything that you think she would love to hear when she gets old. Advice about her first day of school, first date, so on. And make extra copies!

    My daughter-in-law's father died from this awful disease just a few months before she and my son got married. That was 6 1/2 years ago. Their first son they named after his two grandpas.

    So sorry you have to deal with this, but you are taking something very difficult and turning it into something memorable instead. God bless...