Mormon Parenting: King Benjamin's fantastic promises to parents

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  • ShaunMcC La Verkin, UT
    April 29, 2012 8:53 a.m.

    I am happy that these often over-looked verses are being examined, but let us look a little more closely than some are looking. It is clear that nothing in them takes agency from the children. It simply says that parents with these qualities will "teach" their children these values and actions and "not suffer" or allow endless fighting and quarreling. It doesn't necessarily mean children will not choose to rebel against their parents influence. That is the nature of agency. I do believe that parents with these qualities that continue in loving wayward children, teaching when inspired to do so and praying always, will most often see those children blessed by their efforts.

  • Straitpath PROVO, UT
    April 28, 2012 11:38 a.m.

    A promise is a promise and I believe that promise. It may not come today, but it will come. I am willing to wager Lehi and Brigham Young, etc. would agree.

  • garybeac Chapel Hill, NC
    April 27, 2012 6:33 p.m.

    I love the illustration. All metaphors should have palm trees. Joseph was at his best in his revolutionary understanding of Heavenly Father's love for us in the King Benjamin sermon. Of course some kids fight and sin, but they will be reconciled, either in this life or the next, if we strive to earn the right to the temple promises. It amazes me how people so easily forget the keystone of the restored gospel: eternal progression.

  • anchorageles Ventura, CA
    April 27, 2012 2:45 p.m. family have received the promises decribed and I am so gratefull and thankfull....

  • Ilovethejjs medford, MA
    April 27, 2012 12:19 p.m.

    If we think in the eternal perspective we can have all these promises. It is one thing to "contend" with one's sibling and another to simply disagree. When I read about the relationship Hyrum and Joseph Smith had, they not only lived for each other, but were willing to die for each other. I'm sure they may have had disagreements in their lives, but ultimately, they were taught by their parents not to be disagreeable.
    I taught my sons that nothing in this world is worth sacrificing their relationship. Have they had disagreements? Of course. Do they contend with each other? Absolutely not.
    The Lord would not have included these promises in the BOM unless He provided a way for their implementation. Some things manifest themselves by hope faith and work; and some times we must trust in the Lord's timeline if we want certain promises to come to fruition.

  • donn layton, UT
    April 27, 2012 11:05 a.m.

    RE: King Benjamin. So let’s go back to the preceding verse to see what the challenge or condition is that leads to the promises. Verse 11 of Mosiah 4.

    An earlier promise in Mosiah 3:25, “And if they do evil they are consigned to an awful view of their own guilt and abominations, which doth cause them to shrink from the presence of the Lord into a state of misery and endless torment, from whence they can no more return; therefore they have drunk damnation to their own souls.”
    10.And ye yourselves will succor(help) those that stand in need of your succor(help) . Succor=(Boētheō Greek 997, to help).

  • Full-on double rainbow Bluffdale, UT
    April 27, 2012 10:59 a.m.

    I first thought that the premise of this article was pretty funny. Now the more I think about it, it kind of makes me sad. Because you know there is some parent out there that is feeling pretty guilty that their kids fight and don't follow God's laws. Then the parent reads this article and thinks "Oh all I have to do is be humble and my kids will fall in line." When that doesn't work they feel even more guilty for not being humble enough. I'm sorry but I really don't see how this is helpful.

  • Gracie Boise, ID
    April 27, 2012 10:55 a.m.

    Once again is heard in the land another formula for guaranteed happiness... There are no guarantees over someone else's moral agency. The only one we can truly change in Godly ways is ourself although we can influence for good every day, and that influence is powerful. When we do good, we're granted greater power to continue on. We also find a driving ambition to do all the things Heavenly Father wants us to do as parents in order to provide our children's best environment so that they will get along better with each other and us. We'll make sure they're fed, even if we skip meals, ourselves. We'll live our religion towards our neighbors by providing relief to those who seek it at our hand. And so forth. I can't speak for the Church and I won't presume to do that. I know that any less than happy family life will be made up to me and mine if I do everything in my power to provide the atmosphere for eternal happiness to germinate. Those promises are true. We've all got important lessons to learn, including our children, friends and neighbors.

  • Full-on double rainbow Bluffdale, UT
    April 27, 2012 10:48 a.m.

    Huh,my first comment must have been too subersive for the moderators. I guess I'll try again.

    Even though I'm a pretty unexperienced parent I think I can give better parenting advice than: be humble, pray. How about this: Spend time with your kids, be genuinely interested in the things they are interested in, love them even if they are quarelsome or "trangress the laws of God."

  • Midvaliean MIDVALE, UT
    April 27, 2012 9:41 a.m.

    Certainly there is more to parenting then humbling yourself before God. These simple promises can't all be true. Pay tithing have more money. Be humble your kids will not fight etc... Some kids are just plain rotten, some are angels. Sigh.

  • Sneaky Jimmy Bay Area, CA
    April 27, 2012 9:24 a.m.

    Note to Lehi and Sarah; Joseph Smith; Brigham Young; Adam and Eve: If you would only have been a bit more humble your children would not have strayed.

  • nayajja` Ephraim, UT
    April 27, 2012 9:14 a.m.

    Thank you for your perceptive article. I noticed in my last reading of these verses that they are indeed promises, not commands. What an insight. The focus is not a checklist of "to do's," but our relationship with God.