Book excerpt: Ann Romney: A mother first

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  • cris Hamilton, IL
    April 23, 2012 8:56 a.m.

    @Miss Molli,
    I was a stay at home mother. Not because we could afford me to stay home, but because we couldn't afford for me not to be home. My husband was in school full time, we were living at the poverty level, but we managed. My children did not have the best of clothes, the newest toys, ( if they had any), but they were loved, cared for, fed, and they were taught the things they needed to know to make it in this life, and they have made it. They grew up learning how to work, how to budget money and to put themselves through school. Sometimes you have to make great sacrifices to be a stay at home mom.

  • Mick Murray, Utah
    April 21, 2012 8:14 a.m.


    How about the Dems go after the dads of those single mom's to help pay for their children so their mothers don't have to work? That is some legislation I can support.

    I disagree with Miss Molli- You can have all the money in the world and that doesn't make being a mother any easier. You have the same worries, and same responsibilities as all other mothers. You cannot buy someone that teaches morals. You cannot rent someone to love your kids as much as you love them.

  • DRay Roy, UT
    April 20, 2012 8:52 p.m.

    Many working mothers would love to have been able to stay at home, likewise, there are stay-at-home Moms who would have loved to go to work...bottom line, mothers who sacrifice for the best good of their families are at the heart and soul of our nation.

    I can see greatness in both Michell and Ann, yet I vote not for them for President, but for Barak or Mitt, my vote based on substance and who I think will better lead the nation into the right can we not see the wives are great, but the contest is the Presidency, and who will lead us best.

  • Howard Beal Provo, UT
    April 20, 2012 8:48 a.m.


    No Mommy war here. Both Ann Romney and Michelle Obama are great mothers! I admire the President and the Governor for being great fathers and great examples of this for others. This might be the most important aspect of leadership, being a mother and a father!

    Sorry trollsters for being so "moderate" on this one.

  • fresnogirl Fresno, CA
    April 19, 2012 2:19 p.m.

    I enjoyed this article. It is a sweet and well written tribute to his mom.

    As far as the some of the comments here: I'm not sure I am following the Democratic strategy right now. First they characterize the Romneys as "out of touch" with "normal, working class American." And yet, the exact same thing could be easily said of the Obamas. Even when Mrs. Obama worked outside the home, it was not because they were struggling to make ends meet and her salary was far from "average."

    Then a poll comes out showing that Pres. Obama leads Mitt Romney with female voters. So, 2 people from the Democratic side have now come out criticizing women who are stay-at-home moms. Bill Maher with his condescending tone implies that women who still choose to live in an historically female role are not of worth but are actually lazy. So, according to him, in order for a woman to have worth, she must adopt an historically male role in society. Well, nothing like a condescending and chauvinistic comment to make women rally around your guy.

    I'm kind of curious to see what they will try next....

  • Lagomorph Salt Lake City, UT
    April 19, 2012 1:46 p.m.

    Lane Myer, quoting Mitt Romney: " need to go to work... to allow those parents to go back to work... to have the dignity of work."

    For the benefit of Mountanman and Rifleman (and any other *man), the Mitt Romney quote shows just how manufactured a controversy the revived "Mommy War" is. Clearly, in casual speech, in the absence of a specific context, people use "work" primarily in the sense of wage-earning labor outside of the home, a career or occupation where you toil in exchange for money from an employer. That is the sense in which Hilary Rosen used the word and that is the sense in which Mitt Romney used the word. Or were they both using "work" in its physical sense of "force x distance"? Then the conservative pundits applied an unintended alternate interpretation that ignited the kerfuffle, creating a controversy where none should ever have existed. The fact is, Ms. Romney has not spent any significant fraction of her life doing the kind of "work" that either her husband or Rosen were referring to, so Rosen is correct. None of this diminishes motherhood. Motherhood was not the topic of discussion.

  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    April 19, 2012 1:31 p.m.


    "The liberal left has raised a white flag of surrender regarding their venomous attacks on Ann Romney and her choice to stay home and rear her children. Liberals think that is what nannies and day care center are for."

    Not true at all. In fact Democrats in Congress are sponsoring a bill that lets women who are raising three or more kids continue to receive welfare without having to get a job. Let's see if Republicans really consider motherhood to be work or if they agree with Rosen that there's work and then there's paid job work with the latter being what Rosen was referring to.

  • Lane Myer Salt Lake City, UT
    April 19, 2012 12:32 p.m.


    "The liberal left has raised a white flag of surrender regarding their venomous attacks on Ann Romney and her choice to stay home and rear her children. Liberals think that is what nannies and day care center are for."


    Mitt Romney (January 2012) Talking about welfare recipiants:

    "Even if you have a child two years of age you need to go to work," Romney said. "And people said, 'Well that's heartless.' And I said, 'No, no, I'm willing to spend more giving day care to allow those parents to go back to work. It'll cost the state more providing that daycare, but I want the individuals to have the dignity of work.'"


  • JoeBlow Far East USA, SC
    April 19, 2012 12:26 p.m.

    Ann Romney is a fine upstanding, decent woman.

    As is Michelle Obama.

    I am confident that most of you will agree with 1/2 of what I say.

  • Mountanman Hayden, ID
    April 19, 2012 12:15 p.m.

    @ Furry. I am sorry but try as I might I can’t understand your point about the kind leadership we need. In light of the scandals, the waste of money and the corruption emanating from big government and then when all I hear from Obama and the Democrats is nothing but screaming for more taxes, if that is the “leadership” we need, then thing will get worse, if that is possible!

  • TwoBitsWorth Salt Lake City, UT
    April 19, 2012 12:05 p.m.

    To Furry 1993:

    There are a lot of folks, including me, who believe that the Romneys are exactly what this country needs for the next four years. And if you don't think that their competitors are trying to demonize them, please take another look.

    My wife had 10 children and raised 9 of them (one little girl died at birth). She was a "stay at home" mom, and worked 14 to 20 hour days if you count the hours when one or another child needed her attention. We have a cosmopolitan group of friends from all walks of life, and she can hold her own with the best of them, regardless of the subject. She is exactly the kind of woman I would like to see in the White House.

  • Rifleman Salt Lake City, Utah
    April 19, 2012 11:59 a.m.

    Re: Furry1993 Clearfield, UT
    "The DesNews is again trying to start a "mommy war" battle. Enough, already."

    The liberal left has raised a white flag of surrender regarding their venomous attacks on Ann Romney and her choice to stay home and rear her children. Liberals think that is what nannies and day care center are for.

    The Obama campaign sent his minions out to attack Ann Romney and now the liberals regret that decision. Motherhood isn't a dirty word .... yet.

  • Ms Molli Bountiful, Utah
    April 19, 2012 11:54 a.m.

    Its easy to be a mother first when your husband is extremely wealthy. I would better appreciate articles about families who are struggling financially but have figured out a way to live off of the wages of one middle-to-lower class wage earner to allow the mother to be a "mother first". It seems that even the DN is completely out of touch with reality here in its constant quest to paint this picture of Mr. Magnificant.

  • Furry1993 Clearfield, UT
    April 19, 2012 11:23 a.m.

    To Mountainman 7:23 a.m.

    Describing the Romneys as being rich, out of touch people who have no clue about what life is like for millions of the less fortunate is not "demonizing" them; it is telling the truth about them. Unfortunately. That can be seen from Mitt's comments during the course of his campaigns, and the way there was a full-blown attempt to hide the truth of Rosen's comments concerning Ann by turning the issue from what it truly was (the valid criticism that Ann's life experiences do not qualify her to be an adviser concerning the issues of the majority of women) into a "mommy war."

    This is not class warfare. The Romneys are not be criticized for being rich; they are (rightly) being described as not what the country needs for its leader. If they were successful, with their success also bringing good to a lot of people, they would be what the country needs. That's not what their success did. Their success benefitted a few people, while bringing harm to a lot of others. That is NOT what the country needs for the next four years.

  • Eric Greene Holladay, UT
    April 19, 2012 10:27 a.m.

    I appreciate the DN's approach to situational and individual morale, by posting articles that give insight and share personal stories.

    However, this Romney attention is excessive. I guess whatever gets the clicks is permeated, and the DN knows that anything with 'Romney' in the title is bound to get views...

  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    April 19, 2012 10:22 a.m.

    "I don't see Mommy wars here."

    Do you believe this article would've been printed this week if it wasn't for the "controversy" over Rosen's comments?

  • Rob Logan, UT
    April 19, 2012 9:18 a.m.

    I don't see Mommy wars here. I see someone honoring their Mom. I've read other articles where Mom's worked outside the home and them being honored by their children. Don't we all need each other? I think as Mom's we can just encourage and love each other for what we do. Being a parent is the hardest job in the world. We are all in this together, Mom's who work outside the home and then come home and work more,and Mom's who stay at home and work also. How about if we just cheer each other on? You can do It Moontan and DEW. Send positive out into the world.

  • DEW Sandy, UT
    April 19, 2012 8:59 a.m.

    Democrat TROLLS?

    Good to see her recovery enough said. Go Mitt Romney. Beat Obama!

  • Moontan Roanoke, VA
    April 19, 2012 8:16 a.m.

    @Mountanman ... Well said, sir.

  • Mountanman Hayden, ID
    April 19, 2012 7:24 a.m.

    The left is trying to demonize the Romney’s as rich, out of touch people who have no clue about what life is like for millions of the less fortunate. Class warfare comes right out of the Democrat play book as an effort to gain favor with people who for whatever reason have been less successful. Class warfare is greed and coveting on display and more than anything else has created a European clone culture of defining achievement, success and excellence down and we, like most European nations are paying a heavy cultural and economic price. If we continue to punish success, demonize personal achievement and excellence, we will have much less of it, just like we see in much of Europe at every level. If we continue to reward irresponsibility, laziness and personal failures we will have much more of it at every level. This is these are consequences of class warfare.

  • Furry1993 Clearfield, UT
    April 19, 2012 6:56 a.m.

    The DesNews is again trying to start a "mommy war" battle. Enough, already.