The radical Mormon father, Part III

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  • Just an Observer Salt Lake City, UT
    April 19, 2012 11:07 a.m.

    "(W)e need to bring back the man who prided himself in home repair, who built shelves and cabinets, who fixed his own car or tiled the bathroom."

    This type of thinking is not only flawed, but also dangerous because of the damage it does to those who don't fit gender stereotypes. At the least, it causes unnecessary feelings of inferiority. At worst, it leads to homosexuality (and I don't need someone else responding about the lack of problems with homosexuality, because I won't address them). After all, many who decide they "must" be gay came to that conclusion precisely because they weren't good at fixing things, didn't like guns or football, but did like the arts, did like music, et cetera.

    My wife is fortunate to be good at female stereotypes: cooking, baking, decorating a home, etc. Our daughter, though, isn't interested in cooking. While we will try to teach her to be able to cook for herself, we want her to know that her value isn't based on whether she will be able to impress people with that ability.

  • rickdoctor Chandler, AZ
    April 12, 2012 6:10 p.m.

    going back 20 years is not far enough -- try about 30 -- about when various levels of 'Joint Custody" began to be much more frequent in the divorce courts -- and the judges and the experts began to realize that fathers were just as good of child-raisers as mothers, except perhaps for infants being breast-fed!(Although many fathers have managed quite well in raising infants, when for whatever reason mother was not longer present all the time!) -- many of us became joint-custodians back in the early 80's, and soon there were more and more studies of 'joint-parenting' (the better name than 'joint custody')-- there had not been very many, because the 'traditional judicial practice' was to simply give custody or primary custody to the mother, and there had not been enough fathers who were successful in overcoming this unjustified and unsupportable 'tradition' -- they simply lost because judges accepted the adage that small children are better off with their mother -- and because more mothers were afforded the opportunity to be stay-at-home parents, while fathers rarely had that opportunity -- So it was not due to parenting skills at all -- which is what the studies eventually clearly demonstrated.