If it's OK for women to propose, why don't they?

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  • My2Cents Taylorsville, UT
    May 5, 2014 4:35 a.m.

    People may say they don't have a problem with women asking but its not likely to become the norm or much of an alternative and may get turned down more.

    A woman can be ready emotionally before men are but a man not ready emotionally is in for a very rocky ride, especially if they have been cohabiting where secrets and secrecy are part of the relationships. Asking a person off the street cold turkey to marry you is more likely to work than a duet pretending to be in love living together for 7 or 8 years.

    Though men are sexually intrigued doesn't mean men are emotionally ready for anything that comes. Women are on a biological clock and men seldom consider families.

    Cohabitation is too much of an I and I and no we. They don't know how to share and have many pre wedding secrets they don't want to disclose which is stressful on a marriage. These are the friends with benefits group who don't learn to share money and finances. The benefit relations have too many skeletons in the closet to be as open as they should be to become a real marriage.

  • Gildas LOGAN, UT
    May 4, 2014 4:43 p.m.

    Men are supposed to be more decisive and women more like the female leads in Gone With The Wind and Far From The Madding Crowd each with three men on a string and not always sure which to choose.

    I think women are often the more decided "in real life" though and some men have a problem "taking the plunge". It'll all work itself out I dare say.

  • Spellman789 Syracuse, UT
    May 3, 2014 7:22 p.m.

    I think the best illustration of why men do the proposing was actually shown on 'Friends' when the woman tried to propose to the man and burst out crying.

  • Outside-View Federal Way, WA
    May 3, 2014 11:22 a.m.

    Havent you heard of the "talk" in which the women says, we have dated long enough, if we arent going to get married I need to move on". In this case, the women is proposing. Sort of.

    As with all succcessful marriages, the important this is good communication.

  • Chris B Salt Lake City, UT
    May 3, 2014 9:06 a.m.

    Good point. I imagine that a fair number of feminists aren't interested in men. That is why we likely don't hear of many women proposing to men.

  • Hutterite American Fork, UT
    May 3, 2014 8:37 a.m.

    Maybe there isn't a need or want to get married at all. People who don't want to get married are best off not married. It's not mandatory. If they want to shack up, that's their business. If not, that's fine, too.