Some question Sheryl Sandberg's Ban Bossy campaign

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  • Jac0m Provo, UT
    March 23, 2014 2:37 a.m.


    You are exactly right. They are not excusing bossy behavior, just the word that is used to describe it. I feel that it is unfortunate if any young girl shows any assertive behavior, it is unfairly correlated with the term "bossy".

    What percentage of adults use this term? I don't remember the last time I've heard an adult use "bossy" when there is conveniently another 5 letter word most commonly used.

    This campaign is a great example of political idealists side-stepping family responsibility to teach children self-censorship. Children evidently cannot learn right from wrong unless there is a prohibiting law with punishable consequences...or so the campaign promoters infer.

    March 21, 2014 8:18 p.m.

    @Jefferson - Amen! I asked my young grandson just yesterday to stop being so bossy. Why? Because he was being BOSSY, not because he was trying to be a leader. Who was the first insecure, narcissistic feminist to actually believe this was a gender-specific term? So unbelievably ridiculous. If someone is bossy - male or female - and he or she doesn't want to be called bossy, then STOP BEING BOSSY!

    Bossiness is not a leadership trait, and I highly doubt very many people use the terms interchangeably.

  • jsf Centerville, UT
    March 21, 2014 10:28 a.m.

    And the think police are out in force. Back to 1984. Should we stop using words like tyrant, dictator, revengeful, because they make people not want to be one or are used to be critical of one who is. Like in many countries of the world. You know if we stop using gender words, then people will stop identifying as a gender. It will no longer cause anyone to question their gender. SSM will no longer exist, same sex attraction will no longer exist. Gender identification is so disruptive in society.

    What will be the next word to remove?

    Bossy, I think it covers both Obama and Hillary. See it is not gender specific.

  • texasmomo Plano, TX
    March 21, 2014 9:24 a.m.

    I don't think the campaign is trying to say it's okay to be bossy. They are just trying to get rid of a hurtful word that is always targeted at one group of people--girls.

    Being called bossy doesn't improve anyone's quality of life. It only discourages girls by making them feel like they can't be leaders or else they are labeled "bossy." It's not about being politically correct, it's about realizing that our words matter and send messages to our kids.

  • Sister McGoo Cushing, OK
    March 21, 2014 8:38 a.m.

    i had a supervisor that was raised in Girl scout and is now a girl scout leader. She was hands down the worst supervisor i have ever had and "led" through intimidation and force. We lost a lot of great staff, and had really high turnover. In 3 years she had destroyed all the work that our manager had done building a great department and was fired. If this is the kind of leader that the girl scouts are turning out, they need to take a hard look at more than vocabulary. They need to re-evaluate what leadership means and revamp their whole program.

  • Jefferson Kalispell, MT
    March 21, 2014 7:34 a.m.

    I am puzzled by all these comments that find "bossy" to be sexist and claim that it is ONLY used in relation to girls and NEVER applied to boys. I don't know where these people live or grew up, but where I live and where I grew up, "bossy" did and does describe behavior, regardless of gender. I hear little boys tell other little boys to "stop being so bossy!" The word is being hijacked and given a negative, sexist conotation in order to create yet another "progressive" rallying point. "Gay" was hijacked, apparently because "homosexual" was too descriptive? "Marriage" is being hijacked and given a new definition. "Bossy" is being hijacked and made a gender specific behavior term. WORDS HAVE MEANING. But when you change the meaning, the words lose their value.

  • Counter Intelligence Salt Lake City, UT
    March 21, 2014 7:32 a.m.

    Sheyrl Sandberg is a big Hillary supporter, This is merely the fist step in setting up the liberal McCarthyism of labeling anyone who questions Hillary as being a sexist (just as anyone questioning Obama is labeled a racist by the intolerant left)

    Where was the liberal feminist outrage when Palin was called far worse?
    Where was the word censors when the Obama campaign was calling Romney a felon or traitor or worse?

    How many men would ne viewed as competent if they made victimhood the central point of their power?

    Passive/aggression is both bossy and hypocritical.

  • I know it. I Live it. I Love it. Provo, UT
    March 21, 2014 6:26 a.m.

    If she'll spend just as much time banning terms I don't like against men, then I'll give her some credit.

    The liberal world of political correctness is already a ridiculous extreme in bossy-ness. If you don't like the label, quit acting that way. Trying to BAN what you consider a non-politically-correct phrase is exactly one thing... being bossy.

    People think there are more important issues than defending the family. I hear the complaint all the time. So is this one of those 'more important issues'?

  • Kinderly Riverdale, MD
    March 21, 2014 5:19 a.m.

    My five-year-old daughter is a natural leader. She's always planning these imaginative games and easily finds a group of kids who are thrilled to be part of the game. My daughter doesn't exclude or command, she invites. She is NOT bossy.

    Bossy little girls are often brats or bullies. I think it is okay to call out bossy behavior as negative behavior. Teach the bossy girls how to be inclusive, kind leaders instead. Don't try to tell me that bossy girls are leaders because a lot of times they are not.

  • Jac0m Provo, UT
    March 20, 2014 10:56 p.m.

    When these words are used to promote a better society, the penny is released in that really cool looking, but unfortunate downward spiral.

  • U-tar Woodland Hills, UT
    March 20, 2014 8:14 p.m.

    By the way, it's being bossy when you tell us you don't want to be called bossy.

  • U-tar Woodland Hills, UT
    March 20, 2014 8:10 p.m.

    Since the 1960's women have wanted to be the boss, so now you are all going to have to own it. And by the way we as men would probably love you women a whole lot more if you were not so Bossy!

  • Spoc Ogden, UT
    March 20, 2014 3:09 p.m.

    Isn't this boss at Facebook being just a bit bossy about language and what she is willing to allow us to think and say? I suspect that is how she got into that position.

    If you want your leadership to be respected, earn it by showing respect. Then you won't need to be bossy to lead.

    I have heard it said that the difference between a sheep herder and a shepherd is that a sheep herder stands behind the flock and drives them forward with fear. A shepherd walks in front of the flock and they follow along out of trust and love.

    March 20, 2014 1:24 p.m.

    I think the point of Ban Bossy is that the word is never used to describe males. It is only used to describe females and is considered a negative when the exact same behavior is seen as a positive in men.