Teen rage: mental disorder or psychological crisis?

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  • raybies Layton, UT
    Aug. 31, 2012 7:07 a.m.

    why my daughter gets angry I try to slowly peel back the layers of cause and encourage her to talk about her responses. I empathize with her feelings, but also try to redirect them so she can see there's more productive ways to counter our difficult situations without resorting to outbursts, or being cruel to her younger siblings, or throwing a fit. I discovered this approach once when she pushed me to a point of frustration. Her reactions just didn't make sense. She was upset about a homework assignment and how she wasn't getting it done. Rather than sit and do it, she was getting more and more upset. As I sat and tried to help her work it through, I discovered that there were two other school assignments from other classes due the next day and an exam as well that she'd not had any warning for and had been "sprung" on her from teachers. I had no idea those other things were beneath her stresses because she'd bottled it all up. I helped her work it all out, and when she got a grasp, she apologized and is becoming a great person.

  • Sister Smith Orem, UT
    Aug. 31, 2012 6:17 a.m.

    Back in my day, when we misbehaved, we would get our ears cuffed. Spare the rod, and spoil the child.

  • Gildas LOGAN, UT
    Aug. 29, 2012 1:58 p.m.

    People get angry for different reasons.

    Children, frequently even little children, get angry to get their own way. Haven't you seen this?

    Two things to teach children about those outbursts anger that are no more or less than temper tantrums:

    1. Such outbursts are unacceptable.

    2. They don't work. (Parents: don't reward anger).

    Some parents might be bad examples when it comes to anger, but if they do not employ anger themselves to obtain that which they desire, the should expect their children to avoid anger too.

    Respect your parents; parents: never knowingly tease or provoke your children. Exemplify restraint and acceptable ways of expressing frustrations and hurts. Demonstrate patience and longsuffering and reward wi your approval and respect signs of maturity in children.

    Do not let yourself be trampled on as a parent. Too often children are taught, in effect,that they have unlimited rights but no responsibilities. Children so taught are often self-centered, and being so, tend to see others as having responsibiities and no rights or, in short, that it is "all about me".

    Slavery, or involunary servitude, has been abolished for parents as well as chldren - of all races.

  • Sneaky Jimmy Bay Area, CA
    Aug. 29, 2012 8:53 a.m.

    My opinion for what it's worth:
    1- too much sedentary activity, TV, MOVIES, COMPUTER, VIDEO GAMES -
    2- Social networks - civility is often absent.Clique's encouraged. (ive noticed that my kid gets very angry after being on Facebook)
    3- too much adult stimulation (vulgarity, nudity, alcohol) without emotions or experience to cope.

    If he wants to be an adult, let him work like an adult. I think 8 hours in the sun hauling dirt will take a lot of anger and frustration out of a kid.

  • Aggielove Cache county, USA
    Aug. 29, 2012 7:46 a.m.

    It's because there spoiled by helicopter parents
    Plane and simple

  • Yorkshire City, Ut
    Aug. 29, 2012 6:12 a.m.

    thenemo1 said "until sometimes they have a incident that makes them realize their anger reaction and conduct isn't acceptable to society"

    For some reason, many of them learn that its isn't acceptable to society at large--bosses, their workplace, friends etc--but they never get or acknowledge it is not acceptable in their family.

    A couple of men I know would NEVER flip out in rage and anger in front of their boss or others at work because these are people who's impressions of them they value--and they are willing to exercise self control and judgement in situations where these people will see and hear them.

    Sadly, this concern and control does not extend to what their wives and children think of them...

    Same with the teens I know--if it is with someone who's opinion of them they value, they can hold it together. If its in front of someone that HAS to put up with them--and for some reason, who's opinion they do not value--they let it rip.

  • thenemo1 u.s.a., NY
    Aug. 25, 2012 8:52 p.m.

    Some teens aren't able to identify what triggers their anger and why they typically respond with anger when angry.
    Much of this unfortunately follows through into adulthood as a personality trait until they are aware that anger and bullying isn't the answer to settling a dispute.
    From teen to adults some never reach this awareness; until sometimes they have a incident that makes them realize their anger reaction and conduct isn't acceptable to society.
    That's where anger management classes come into play & usually work with a adult unless the adult has a uncontrollable antisocial personality disorder.