'Commuter' couples tackle challenge of long-distance marriage

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  • Nan BW ELder, CO
    Aug. 13, 2012 1:47 p.m.

    We did this in the 1970s when my spouse was finishing grad school. I lived in a home we owned in CO, and he lived in a minimal apartment in OH. I took children to child care in temps as extreme as -40, and we eked out a living with my parttime teaching and eating lunchroom leftovers where my mother-in-law cooked. There were some advantages, but when our daughter, age six, said "Let's get a new daddy that stays with us," it appeared changes were needed. Now we are sort of retired, and I am considering taking a job in OH that would later permit me to work from home and thereby have income to finish projects long in progress. I have a son who lives in KS, goes to grad school in WI and works in CA. Such scenarios keep boredom away!

  • IndeMak South Jordan, UT
    Aug. 13, 2012 12:23 p.m.

    I did it for nearly 4 years in Las Vegas. I lived at home but managed resorts all over the country. I was home for two days of each month. I was fortunate enough to have a great wife that would take care of the kids, school, etc but it really put a strain on the relationship. My wife would call and ask me to get after the kids. It was hard after I hadn't seen them for two straight weeks. I ended up simply being that guy that would show up once in a while. I finally left and started my own business after my wife mentioned she liked talking to me more on the phone than in person. I won't do it again. I made a lot of money but it isn't worth losing the family.

  • gray Escondido, CA
    Aug. 13, 2012 10:41 a.m.

    My family and I have been doing this for over a year now. I live and work in LA and my family is in Utah. It sucks but you do what you have to do! Does anyone know if you can write off the second residence as a business expense?