**'Single mothers less accepted than gay parents, report says' - By Marjorie
Cortez - DSNews - 03/17/11 'SALT LAKE CITY Americans are more
accepting of families led by gay and lesbian partners than those of single
mothers, a new Pew Research Center report says.' - article
I fought for so long with another dedicated grandmother to try and move
something like this along. It has been a disgrace that mothers are the only one
considered and the damage that has been done to many children over the years
because of it. I know the agony and grief with a step father who was abusive
and you could not get the courts to listen to the children or change the decree.
I can just imagine the heart break of this father and the paternal family who
had an idea of how things were going to turn out, and the judge would not
listen.Good for the legislature finally listening.
This bill is long overdue. I spent 5 years and $30,000 to get custody of my
children, even when it was apparent from day one that I was always the more
responsible parent. However, even then, the damage had been done and now two of
my children have become addicted to drugs and alcohol, with a bleak future ahead
of them.There is no evidence to indicate that women make any better
parents than men, and significant research shows that both girls and boys
benefit immensely from having a father. This is especially true during the
teenage years when youth start making important lifestyle choices and both girls
and boys look to their father as a role model.The act of taking
children from their fathers because of their gender is discrimination at it's
worst, and unless you have been through it, it is difficult to describe the
feelings of sorrow, anger, and depression that result.
how refereshing to have the Utah leg. take up a common sense bill instead of
just tilting at windmills.
As the article says, this should be a no-brainer. Seems like the law shouldn't
even be necessary, because common sense should prevail. But maybe the bias of
some judges requires a law like this.
Here is one comment submitted to the committee in support of the bill:I
support HB 88 to ensure that mothers and fathers get equal consideration during
custody proceedings. The courts should listen to both sides equally and not
discriminate on the basis of gender. However, I have seen gender bias during my
friendâs custody battle, which has stretched on for one and a half years.
Because of the ongoing nature of the litigation, I am not able to share all the
details of his harrowing story at this point. My friend sought a divorce
because he feared for the safety of his children while in the care of their
mother, who has personally revealed to me that she is bipolar. Despite my
friendâs best efforts, his children were harmed irreparably during the
custody battle while in the care of their mother. It was exactly what my friend
had been trying so long to prevent. The event resulted in a temporary
restraining order between the children and their maternal uncle, a registered
sex offender.I do believe that the childrenâs best interest should
be at heart when custody is determined in Utah courts. Contrary to what seems
to be common belief, sometimes fathers are the best caregivers for their
children. Although some men can be deadbeats, courts should not overlook
hardworking, honest men who have their childrenâs best interests at heart.