I would first like to start on we love to cast out stones without checking our
own back yard. Why is it that we want to be forgiven and when someone NEEDS to
be forgiven we can't? There are no words that I can say to you or
your family, but that Heavenly Father wants you to forgive yourself and continue
to be the best mother you can be to the children you have here on earth. All of
this negative junk, leave it in the closet with the door locked. Remember people
who judge don't matter. We all make mistakes and wish we could have done things
differently, the only difference is that we all know what you've done but you
can't see what we've done. Heavenly Father has your son now and he
is safe. You will be able to see him and be with him again but until then be
faithful and keep your head up. I wish I could be there and just give you a hug
from one mother to another. You and your family are in our prayers.
Everyone, let's get Susan Atkins out of jail so she can die in peace!!!!!! She
"forgot" she was killing, and she had a lot going on that day!! Come on
everyone, to the court rooms!
People who leave dogs to die in hot cars get jail time but people who leave
babies to die in hot cars get parenting classes?!There is something
seriously wrong with this.
I have never understood how people can "forget" they have their child with them.
There is NO excuse for what happened to Daniel Hadley, I don't care how many
reasons the judge gave for his mother's neglect. Yeah she had a lot going on
that day but at the top of the list should have been taking care of her son.
That child should have been Kamilyn Hadley's priority and he died because he
wasn't. And she should face a harsher punishment than some parenting classes.
Do I think she should be in jail the rest of her life? No. But negligent
homicide laws exist for a reason, because if an accident was completely
preventable somebody should be held accountable for their negligence. Daniel
Hadley's death was completely preventable and his mother is responsible for
How can you say that she's not a child killer when she was too "busy", or
"preoccupied" to the point that she was single handedly responsible for her
child's death. No amount of lame excuses are good enough to cover for what she
For everyone who is complaining about the outcome of this sad situation, get a
life! Instead of wasting your time chastising this poor woman, why don't you go
out and do some good for this family? All of them are suffering from this
unfortunate accident. This woman is NOT a child killer! Shame on you! Don't you
have any mercy? I bet if this situation happened to you, you'd be wishing others
would have some compassion. And putting this lady in the same category as
terrorists and rapists is appalling! Anonymous should be ashamed of
him/herself.And yes...I would "defend", as you put it, this woman if she
was white, black, brunette, rich or poor, or even gay! You weren't there in the
courtroom, so you don't know the full story. People like you should re-evaluate
This Judge is a good Judge. He is one that should be voted back on the bench.
Everyone makes a mistake that can cost dearly. Most of us have experienced it
but have been forgiven by circumstance only.
Plenty of people feel sorry for their crimes after the fact. Plenty of people
who go to jail have jobs & families. Suffering--mentally, emotionally,
economically--should not give anyone a "get out of jail free" card. It's
pathetic that people get away with killing a child by claiming they were
stressed/distracted and that they've already suffered enough. I
wonder how many people who defend this woman would do the same if she were an
illegal immigrant or someone who appeared less sympathetic (i.e., less "like
me," less blond, not middle class). To those who say, "judge not,"
do you apply this same philosophy to child rapists? To terrorists? At what point
do you start actually condemning people who do terrible things? Where is the
What if she had made the conscious decision to abort this baby just a few months
earlier when she was carrying him. I'll bet that many of you who are so
judgmental about her "accident" would then defend her her "choice" to death.It's obvious the child was wanted - leave her the heck alone - go watch
out for your own kids.
I don't believe the jugde bought into this. having a lapse in judgement is a
normal thing...when it occurs under normal events. an example would be
forgetting to blow out a candle, and having your house burn down. However,
leaving a poor defenseless, inadequate baby in the car in 130 degree heat is not
a lapse of judgement, it is pure stupidity, and murder. How can you forget your
child for 2 hours in scorching heat? "oh I was stressed that day." Big deal. we
all get stressed,so does that mean we can neglegently leave our childeren in the
middle of the freeway, or neglegenty put an infant on a boat with no lifejacket,
and leave them on utah lake for 2 hours on a raft while we chit chat about our
stress to a girlfriend. Pleeeeeze. This mother is a discrace to parents
everywhere, and she should have recieved a harsher punishment. She's an adult,
and needs to think and act like one.
No excuses on this one. No free pass, no mulligan.
No need for the rest of us to judge because the consequence already followed
this action. Consequences are more stinging that judgement from others. It is a big responsibility to be responsible for another's life when one
becomes a parent. I think there is a tendancy to just keep chewing gum and
bring the kid a long but it is a grave responsibility to have a helpless young
one for whom to care. Since this kind of thing doesn't happen a lot, I think we
as parents don't realize how fragile these young lives can be or how we can
adversely affect life. I've learned from my son's near death experience and I'd
say I'm much more cautious and vigilant. I was lucky to know how to save his
life and undo what I had done originally in innocent ignorance.....
To re:cp @ 8:09am: I never said I was perfect. I just said that my babies were
my top priority, that's all, and one's children should be the top priority of
any parent; before a job, groceries, friends, anything. I never said she should
do jail time cause that would be very cruel. So you may think what you may. I do
feel for this lady and her family cause she will suffer quite a bit.
You ask a good question. I have wondered if it would be helpful to videotape
some type of public service announcement to play on TV during the summer months,
on many different channels, interviewing mothers/fathers of children who have
died under these circumstances, urging all parents to be more aware of their own
children. It could provide a helpful reminder to busy parents, and might also
be a healing factor for the parents who have suffered a loss. I don't know if
any of the parents would be willing to do this voluntarily. It might be well to
include it in the requirements of the court as a community service project. But
hearing from the parents who have lost children, pleading with other parents to
be careful with their own children, might get the word out. This could also
include some of the parents who have run over their children in the driveway,
which also seems to be happening more often. Few parents intentionally harm
their children. Most often it is because of being in a hurry, being distracted
by problems going on, etc. We all need to take time to be more aware of our
So you want to tear apart an already stressed family, remove a mother from other
children who are already suffering, reduce the income for a family who is
probably already having financial difficulties? Why? For what purpose? Would
it bring the baby back? No. Mrs. Hadley is suffering far more in her own mind
than any jail sentence would cause. Justice must be tempered with mercy. Do
other people ever learn from the mistakes of one person? Doesn't seem like it,
as children left in cars goes on and on. Drive-by shootings go on, assaults go
on, robberies go on, even though all of them are punished by jail or prison
sentences. Kudos to the judge and attorneys for showing compassion along with
justice in this case. Parenting counseling will be good to help avoid future
problems, and also to help this family heal. I hope they will love and support
each other, and that family and friends will do the same. Save the judging for
I can't believe people are defending this child killer! Being stressed or
distracted is no excuse for what she did. Yes, we all make mistakes, but some
mistakes are bigger than others, and that is why we have terms like "negligent
homicide" in the legal system. Unfortunately, the message sent by this court is
that if you are sorry enough, you can escape the most serious legal consequences
of your actions. Somehow I think parents would suddenly be a lot less forgetful
if a crime like this resulted in a mandatory jail sentence.
I had some forgetful moments as a mother - after the birth of my 6th child, a
beautiful girl, I was handwashing some of her cute little outfits. I put them
in my laundry room sink and started filling the sink with water, and then ran
somewhere else in the house for a minute. The minute became more like 20 and I
discovered a flood on the beautiful hardwood floor of my laundry room, complete
with temporary swelling of the wood. I did this twice. I was shocked by my
"lack of brain cells". I cannot judge this woman. The loss of this
child is enormous! It cannot be recouped. The pain and suffering this woman
and her husband will and have felt could tear apart individually and as a couple
-but this can be recouped. After the pain and suffering and learning lesson has
passed, hopefully they will, as a couple and individually be able to find peace
and wisdom from this experience.
So, how do we stop these tragedies from happening without taking a single case
and turning it into the whipping post or poster lady for preventing this
stuff?What is to be done that will get results without unduly
discriminating against one case while prior cases have been dealt with more
We all have lapses in judgment. We forget to turn off the iron, we forget to
flush, or we forget to pay a bill. But how does someone "forget" to take out a
child from a car on a hot summer day? What about the friend? Didn't the friend
wonder where the kid was? I hope that all the "stressed" parents out there learn
from this. Don't stretch yourself too thin that you forget your kid in the car!
This is such a sad story... the poor baby, I can only imagine how he felt
sweltering helplessly in the heat! The mother did the right thing... she is
taking responsibility for her actions... the death of her son is the worst
Everyone makes mistakes that they know are stupid afterwards. It's only by
sheer luck, I suppose, that something like that doesn't happen more often. All
of us parents can sympathize with a choice that was made during a lapse of
thought. The poor mother. I hope she can someday forgive herself.
No person in this world is perfect. So those of you passing judgment and making
cruel comets need to take a good long look in the mirror. It is not our place to
judge anyone elses circumstances, so back off. The Hadley family has
been through unimaginable loss and despair. Yes, it could have been prevented,
but it happened. Now they have to move on with their lives. God
Bless the Hadley family.
Stress can do strange things to your mind. My sister and I were in a downtown
SLC mortuary one June day preparing my grandmother's body for her funeral when
someone asked my sister where her baby was. My sister screamed and ran back out
to the car where her new, 2-month-old baby had been sleeping for 1/2 an hour.
Luckily, no one had taken him because the windows were down, but luckily the
windows were down on that summer afternoon. It could happen to anyone, even
those who think they are the best parents. If it hasn't happened to you, you're
My most earnest prayers are for this family. I don't know them but I do know
the tragedy this is for them. They are also victims of this very sad, tragic
incident. May we extend love and support to help them go forward with courage
God bless and be with you Kamilyn.
Poor woman. She looks like she aged 30 years in one month. I talked to my
daugther who is a teen about this last night and showed her the pictures posted
in this article. "Be always aware of your babies or you will be like this
woman". That's the message to all those babies' mothers. Be aware. Let's make
this baby's death the last one under those circunstances.Peace be
CP someday we will all be as perfect as you.Mr. and Mrs. Hadley I'm
very sorry for your loss. You have accepted full repsonsiblity for this tragedy
which is a great example to other parents who have experienced the same tragedy
but refuse to own their mistakes. I'm hoping in time you'll be able to forgive
yourselves.Shame on the media because this story was first reported
as a accident by a self centered mother.
Yes, I agree she was negligent and I hope she learns something in those
parenting classes. No, she shouldn't spend jail time, she will more then likely
put herself in her own prison for the rest of her life. I read the article
where she noted about everything going on in her life at the time of this
horrible inncident. But, I can say it's still no excuse. Because I had 2 babies
at the time we were moving into a new house and my husband was also getting used
to a new job. I NEVER once forgot my babies. They were with me 100% of the time.
My top priority. And I even moved in the summer and what more before we could
even move in we had to do major fix up on the new house which added to my
stress, but my babies were always with me and those babies today are now grown.
So one can make excuses but there are none.
While this is definitely a tragedy, it is crucial that we not judge this Mother.
Tragic accidents happen to good people. I agree with the judge, that she must
be a good Mother. She made a mistake. No one should cast stones. I pray for her
to find comfort in her years ahead, as they will most definitely be
difficult...she has been punished plenty...I'm sorry for her and in her picture
here, I can feel her pain. We need to be Christ like and have compassion not
only on the dear child she lost, but Kamily Hadley and the rest of her family as
well.In this day and age...it is most important to ask, "What would
Jesus Do?"Love and be kind and save the harsh comments, no one needs
to hear or read them.