Fighting oversexualization

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  • Mr. Bean Tucson, AZ
    Sept. 20, 2011 8:06 p.m.

    @Swedish reader: "To paraphrase Martin Luther King: I have a dream that one day my daughters will not be judged by their appearance, but by the content of their character. I'll bet I'm not alone."

    You may not be alone but your are wrong. Mother Nature has declared so. If a suitor is looking only at character content, you daughters will be sitting alone for a long time... perhaps all their lives.

  • cactusflats American Fork, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 1:08 p.m.

    Just want to say thanks to Truthseeker for not taking offense to NofitinSG. These comment boards can get so ridiculous sometimes. It's nice to see an apology and explanation rather than a defensive response like is so common on the internet.

    We can all agree that society's treatment of women today is harmed by the media's infatuation, over-indulgence, and fixation with sexuality. The Pope said it well: "The problem with pornography isn't that it shows too much of a person - it's that it shows too little."

  • Truthseeker SLO, CA
    Sept. 19, 2011 12:43 p.m.

    I'm sorry if it came across that I was primarily blaming women.
    Actually, I've lived 18 yrs in CA, (back east for 13 yrs) not in the same part of the state, and do enjoy the diversity here. I don't know if I could return to UT where I grew up.
    You are making a lot of judgments about me as a parent and as a person without knowing me. Of course all the responsibility shouldn't just fall on women, and I often get frustrated because it seems in our society we accept immoral/promiscuous behavior from men, because they are men, while holding women to a higher standard.

    However, styles today are far from burkas. It is difficult sometimes, even as an adult, to find clothes that are a little more modest. Some girls in school wear clothes here that are so short or so low cut they more resemble bathing suits. My son's comment came out of the blue that day and for the first time raised my awareness of his awareness.

  • no fit in SG St.George, Utah
    Sept. 19, 2011 10:58 a.m.

    Hard to believe that you are still blaming women. Better teach you son to learn to deal with it.
    You might like the Mid East better? Women wear burkas, and have few freedoms.
    Possibly you could find gainful employment as the "Clothes Police" in your school district? But, you gotta know that California is definitely the wrong place for you to live with your frame of mind, as it is populated by a majority of free thinking people.

  • LDS Liberal Farmington, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 9:42 a.m.

    Like the Drug, Tobacco, FastFood and Skiing industries learned many, many years ago...

    Hook them when they are little kids, and they'll be hooked for life.

    Mommy getting liposuction and breast implants doesn't give a kid a sure sense of reality either.
    Which will fuel the problem getting even worse with the next generation.

    This calls for more regulation.

    Conservatives and their "Less Government intervention" and "Free Market Capitalism" reigns supreme are selling out America and our values to Corporate greed and profits to the highest bidder.

  • Truthseeker SLO, CA
    Sept. 19, 2011 9:25 a.m.

    One thing that can be done is for schools to adopt dress codes and then ENFORCE them. The school my older kids attended on the east coast had standards for shorts/skirt lengths, a ban on spaghetti straps etc and they were usually enforced. Here the dress codes are more relaxed and never enforced. Once, when my son was in middle school he said to me, "I like winter more than summer." When I asked him why, he stated "because the girls have to wear different (warmer) clothes." I had never discussed dress codes with my son.

    Please young ladies, cover up. The boys will "notice" you. The question is do you want them to "notice" ONLY that aspect of you?

  • marxist Salt Lake City, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 9:04 a.m.

    The market for all of its virtues also is the site of abuse - labor and in this case children. If you want the benefits of the market, you put up with the abuse. It's just that simple.

  • JoeBlow Miami Area, Fl
    Sept. 19, 2011 5:19 a.m.

    'that dominate billboards, newsstands, airwaves and even toy stores are,"

    Why would business do such a thing? The answer is obviously MONEY.

    I am not pushing for more regulation, but it is obvious that business will go past the line in order to make more profit.

    For those on the far right, ask yourselves "How far would these companies go if they were not regulated at all?"

    I am not for more regulation, but those who say that the free market will keep business in line are delusional.

    We need to reign in regulation, but it does not have to be all or nothing.

  • Twin Lights Louisville, KY
    Sept. 19, 2011 5:11 a.m.

    Amen and Amen.

    Watch any show about teenagers. The "kids" (usually older actors) are not even close to the physical norm. Not one looks like anyone your child actually goes to school with. We struggle not simply against digitally altered images but with the fact that so many in the media have been surgically altered. What does it say about us as a culture when our "standard" of beauty is not something that occurs in nature?

    We may say that the 50s and early 60s views of sexuality were unrealistic or too restrictive. But there can be no doubt that the pendulum has swung much too far in the other direction. Girls over the age of 9 or 10 have few if any years left of simply being girls. Rather, they must immediately become young women with sexual potential. The situation for boys is becoming problematic as well.

    The teenage years are hard enough. They have always been filled with some self-doubt and a grappling with image. But the current climate makes a difficult situation toxic. Surely the Lord is not pleased when we allow the degradation of his daughters in this fashion. We should be similarly displeased.

  • Swedish reader Stockholm, Sweden
    Sept. 19, 2011 2:16 a.m.

    To paraphrase Martin Luther King:

    I have a dream that one day my daughters will not be judged by their appearance, but by the content of their character.

    I'll bet I'm not alone.