Linda & Richard Eyre: Ideas on how to 'unspoil' your children

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  • dr.bridell mclean, VA
    Sept. 20, 2011 11:24 a.m.

    I don't think the Eyres are suggesting big, expensive trips. I think they are just saying that if you do have a modest budget for a family vacation, at least look into some of the less expensive service trips (Some to Mexico or even to inner city projects very close to home do not cost that much).
    If, as pat says, you have little budget and mainly go tent camping, I think the Eyres are suggesting that a local soup kitchen or homeless shelter offers the same kind of perspective gaining experience for kids. I don't think they are suggesting that this type of experience is limited to families who have lots of money!

  • pat1 Taylorsville, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 9:59 p.m.

    I believe that the Eyres are great parents. However, I continue to be amazed that the examples in articles like this show solutions that would not work for many readers of this paper who can only afford to take their children camping (in a tent) if they actually get vacation time. What about families in a lower socio economic situation than the Eyres? You are assuming that everyone can take their families to Disneyland. You mentioned that people could do other things. But examples are what is needed of what these other things are. Otherwise, these examples may look to someto be self-serving. (This is the proof that we are good people).

    I respect what you do with your family, and am not jealous of your ability to do what you do. It is just out of reach for most of your readers, so not very relevant to us.

  • K Mchenry, IL
    Sept. 19, 2011 9:14 p.m.

    I wonder if sending that much money to a project rather than going yourself might be better?

    Does service or denying yourself make someone grateful?

    I think these experiences might make someone feel that they got the more blessed life.

  • Alpinian Alpine, Utah
    Sept. 19, 2011 4:44 p.m.

    I know another family that has done this for years. Their reflections of those experiences have been nothings short of amazing. If you can afford it, do it. If it is beyond your means, find another way - we send way too many spoiled brats out into the world without a great understanding of how most of the world really lives.

  • Vince the boonies, mexico
    Sept. 19, 2011 2:18 p.m.

    I appreciate those of you that cannot afford the costs of the many trips mentioned in this article. However if I were younger and the parents of children today, I would treat them just like you were treated as a youth, and how your parents were treated. That information should be readily available and I believe very helpful in most cases as to how kids need the be raised and treated. Same ole same ole-whats good for the goose is good for the gander!

  • The Authority Richfield, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 2:17 p.m.

    Has there ever been a generation that doesn't think the younger generation is a bunch of spoiled, unthankful whelps? I swear, my dad said it about my generation, not until after his dad said it about his, and his dad before him said the same thing. Now I find myself thinking the same thing about my kids' generation.

    Maybe this is more of a psychological problem with people who reach a certain age than an actual problem.

  • raybies Layton, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 9:50 a.m.

    2K per person!? Yikes. That's way out of my budget for my five kids and myself--at least for the next few years...

    I would prefer more intelligent discussion of what can be done in this community to strip the whole spoiled thing out of them. It just doesn't seem like a very practical suggestion--though I'm sure the experience is amazing.

    Further I worry about security of travel--right now the US government's issued travel advisories to Mexico, due to the high rate of kidnapping and drug-related violence.

  • JP71 Ogden, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 8:43 a.m.

    I'm sorry, I looked into this and the costs that I saw for going started at $1995 per person. So, a family of 4 with plane tickets would be atleast 10K - 12K. Anyone who spends 10K on Christmas or thinks this is reasonable must live in a bubble. I consider myself to have a slightly above average income for UT and there is no way we could spend 10K on Christmas or would want to for that matter.

  • mormonmama West Jordan, UT
    Sept. 19, 2011 8:27 a.m.

    What a great idea. Another great article on parenting. Thank you!

  • dr.bridell mclean, VA
    Sept. 18, 2011 5:20 p.m.

    As one who has looked into this type of expedition, I can confirm that they are sometimes cheaper than the typical "disneyland" type of family trip. But I'm glad the Eyres mentioned that you don't have to go on a trip at all to give the kind of service that gets kids out of their bubble. Almost every town has a shelter or homeless place of some kind, and they are always welcoming of volunteers. It's a help to those who are down and out, but its also a huge help to the perspective and gratitude of kids who get involved!