Jeff Benedict: Saying goodbye to 'most humble' man I ever knew

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  • mary lou shelton NIANTIC, CT
    Aug. 14, 2011 10:08 a.m.

    Ray is a legend in Southeast Ct, both in the community and in our local wards and stake. He is largely known for his humor and ready smile, but I have known him more personally for his staid and serious attention to life's ever changing challenges. He is deeply compassionate and I have served with him for many years in those positions where he has cried and prayed for those who least received the attention and assistance of others. He is a gentleman as well as gentle. Unbreaking and unyielding when it comes to righteousness yet always willing to listen to all, counsel & correct as needed, and act and work hard that success would result in all he did for family, friends and saints. I love that he has the kind of humility that never draws attention to himself but highlights the qualities he knows exists in others. There truly are not many like him!

  • litfac007 WEST JORDAN, UT
    July 26, 2011 8:28 a.m.

    I opened up my email today, and saw that a friend, had sent this article to me, "Saying goodbye to the most humble man I ever knew." Imagine my surprise when I realized that it was about someone I knew and loved. I met Ray and Rose Brown in 1978, in the Waterford Ward, in Waterford,CT. I will never forget his laugh. We had a little joke that we shared each Sunday. He would walk up to me, with his huge, infectious smile and say, "I am the "browner" and I would answer, "but I am the brownest!" ( I am African-American) Then both of us would split up with laughter as we hugged each other.It has been almost thirty years since I moved from Connecticut, to begin a new life in Utah. Shortly after arriving here, Ray and Rose paid me a visit. They were here for their son's marriage in the Salt Lake Temple. I have a picture of the three of us , standing in front of my home, with Ray displaying his characteristic smile. Thanks for being my friend and inspiration, Ray. "The Brownest" still loves you. May Heavenly Father continue to bless you.

  • Straitpath PROVO, UT
    July 25, 2011 1:42 p.m.

    I was taken by the George Bailey comment. I am going to use him as a role model from now on. Thanks

  • jdcray Richmond, VA
    July 25, 2011 6:26 a.m.

    What a great account. Thank you for sharing, Jeff. Too bad we couldn't freeze time to keep the world Ray lived and worked in from progressing more toward that "cold business" management style that is becoming more commonplace today.

  • sciencepete Provo, UT
    July 24, 2011 9:20 p.m.

    I cried as I read this. The man you described reminds me of my grandmother. Thanks for this article.

  • LKA Tremonton, UT
    July 24, 2011 8:24 p.m.

    We have too few of these people and too many of the others. The gem is to have had the honer of knowing people like this. And by doing something in your like that they would be glad they passed on to you.

  • Arizona1 Tucson, AZ
    July 24, 2011 7:03 p.m.

    I grew up near Malad, Idaho, and whenever I went to Griffiths' OK Tire with my Dad, Gordon Griffiths would go over to the soda pop machine and buy me a Root Beer. Even though I never got to know him very well, and after about 25 years, he still calls me to wish me a happy birthday. He does the same things for my parents, and I think for other former customers and people from his congregation. Now in a nursing home too, he continues to call a long list of people on their birthdays. All the years that I went through college he would contact my parents to track down my number, and after all these years and me living a thousand miles away, he still faithfully calls me on my birthday. Gordon Griffiths and Ray Brown are the salt of the earth and the people whose small actions change the lives of many.

  • Former Utahn Westminster, CO
    July 24, 2011 6:55 p.m.

    What a great man!

    Loved you last book!

  • county mom Monroe, UT
    July 24, 2011 4:41 p.m.

    My some say the same type of things about me when I am old and ill. I pray that those people that love me most are my children and their friends. My I be like Ray and be rich where it counts.

  • Hoosier Kearns, Utah
    July 24, 2011 4:27 p.m.

    A dying breed for sure. A lasting 'poitive' legacy is the best thing you can leave this 'ol world. Integrity 'sadly' seems to be a thing of the past.

    How will each of us choose to be remembered.