Internet addiction harming marriage

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  • Roman K SLC, Utah
    July 21, 2011 2:11 p.m.

    People will always find external causes, nay excuses, to blame for their failed relationships, lives, and goals. Weak people even more so.

    Everything, really, comes down to priorities. Obviously for some people playing computer games is on the top of their priorities list; or is it just that other important things weren't highlighted as such?

    Who's to blame? Well, I know it shouldn't be something inanimate.

  • cjb Bountiful, UT
    July 21, 2011 10:24 a.m.

    A neighboor of mine was excited to show me a new online game he found. It looked boring to me.

    His wife later told me she felt lonely because he spend so much time playing that game.

    She needs more companship from her husband than she gets. My own kids spend way too much time playing computer games.

  • ClarkKent Bountiful, Utah
    July 21, 2011 8:45 a.m.

    I someone was happy in their marriage they wouldn't spend a lot of time on the internet. Look to the underlying reasons as to why someone is choosing to spend so much time away from their spouse.

  • A voice of Reason Salt Lake City, UT
    July 20, 2011 9:53 p.m.

    I am addicted to the internet. I don't mind admitting it. I don't blame the vehicle and I could find other 'tools' to replace it, I'm sure of that.

    However, I do spend too much time on here and online in general- and yes, it distracts me from being productive in many aspects of life.

    I'm addicted to public debate also, out of concern for what I believe is a series lack of logic used in the public square today.

    ---

    And don't bother replying "Then why are you posting even now?" cause I already know... :)

  • Maudine SLC, UT
    July 20, 2011 6:54 p.m.

    According to the article, more couples are stating that their spouse spends too much time on the internet at that this is causing their relationship to fail.

    Here is what I want to know:

    1) Has the number of divorces as a percentage of marriages increased?
    2) Have other stated reasons for divorce decreased?

    If the answer to the first question is yes and the answer to the second question is no, then it is safe to claim that the internet is causing divorce.

    If the answer to the first question is no and the answer to the second question is yes, then the internet has had no net effect on the stability of marriages, it is just being used as a scapegoat.

    Some people are lousy marriage partners and some marriages are not good - if the internet were not there, it would be something else causing the breakup.

  • Hutterite American Fork, UT
    July 20, 2011 5:44 p.m.

    Nice job keeping up the 'marriage is under attack' drumbeat.

  • freedomingood provo, Utah
    July 20, 2011 5:22 p.m.

    Ya, all these people writing posts and reading news on the internet. I mean really - get a life. teeheee

  • Kalindra Salt Lake City, Utah
    July 20, 2011 5:00 p.m.

    I remember my dad ignoring my mom (and the rest of the family) by sitting in his chairs reading books all night.

    The behavior hasn't changed - only the vehicle.

  • EgbertThrockmorton Layton, UT
    July 20, 2011 4:43 p.m.

    @hawkyo
    GOT ME on that one! Although use a lathe might be better than waterboarding. I for one am all for gays and lesbians marrying and then being exposed to attorneys in their divorces.

  • FredEx Salt Lake, Ut
    July 20, 2011 3:17 p.m.

    "Honey, I'm leaving you. Don't email me, don't call me. Have your father call my father when you are ready to be my husband again."

    Fixed.

  • Hawkyo SYRACUSE, UT
    July 20, 2011 3:07 p.m.

    Egbert, I'm not sure if it was a Freudian slip or not but the idea of "lathing" an attorney by using a sharp steel object to take chunks of him/her off while they're spinning around at a dizzying rate sounds like the formation of a new national past time! Perhaps we can institute this as a punishment in our judicial system for lawyers who break the law.

    Seriously though, I can tell you exactly who the videogame/computer game addicts are in my class by the end of week one in a school year. It really affects the educational aspect of their lives, and it often affects their social side as well. It is a sickness, make no mistake about that.

  • EgbertThrockmorton Layton, UT
    July 20, 2011 1:49 p.m.

    @AZRods-
    fail to see the connection you are trying to draw about Pagan "promoting gay marriage", in fact, I think you are delusional on that aspect of his post. Now, before you truly stop treading water in the fetid backwaters, I routinely disagree with Pagan most of the time. This time, his post is spot on. And yes, I'm politically conservative, yes, I am active LDS, and no, Pagan's post wasn't promoting "gay marriage". Besides, would you deny the gay community their rights to lathe and despise their divorce attorneys too? Who cares if gay people get married, somebody probably married you.

  • patriot Cedar Hills, UT
    July 20, 2011 1:17 p.m.

    From all the new Macbooks to the latest PC's and throw in all the gadgetry with Blackberry's and iPhones and on and on .... soon you will be able to get to the internet from your toaster. The internet is GREAT - no question - but the addiction of setting on your rump and surfing the web is both time consuming and dangerous with all the porn out there. Show me a consistant web surfer and I will show you an overweight, out of shape, geek with no life other than that provided by his latest gadget.

  • AZRods Maricopa, AZ
    July 20, 2011 1:13 p.m.

    And only Pagan can turn an internet article into something promting gays. And bashing traditional marriage.
    I suspect there are many gays who are addicted to the internet as well. So try try again.

  • Judge Smailes Cedar Hills, UT
    July 20, 2011 11:10 a.m.

    Come on people, turn off the darn computer/TV and start reading books, getting yourself back in shape and get "busy" with your spouse!

  • no fit in SG St.George, Utah
    July 20, 2011 10:28 a.m.

    Whew, anybody recall what teenage children did to your marriage?

  • CHS 85 Sandy, UT
    July 20, 2011 10:01 a.m.

    and I thought all addictions were bad for marriage...

  • Midvaliean MIDVALE, UT
    July 20, 2011 9:54 a.m.

    Another SCARY thing to be worried about! Between internets, gays, and terrorists I dont' know how anyone stays together in marriage.
    OR just maybe the media and the powers that be like us to be worried all the time, that things are going to collapse, so that the populace will be easier to control.
    The article should read: SOME people who have marriage problems use things like the internet as an escape. Most people doing just fine.

  • mominthetrenches South Jordan, Utah
    July 20, 2011 9:53 a.m.

    After I finally "entered the 21st Century and began a Facebook account," I found myself sucked into checking it constantly. I noticed that I never had the time in the first place to be on there, now I was using time that I didn't have to begin with, checking and commenting on my Status. To the average person, my experience is what everyone does. To me, it bothered me and it became a huge distraction that kept me from my kids, husband and getting the regular day-to-day things done a little more efficiently. I finally had the thought, "Is this what I want my kids to think of me as? Someone who spends a lot of time on Facebook?" I'd rather leave my legacy as someone who was involved in more noble activities. I De-activated my FB account after about 6 months and have felt relief ever since. I know that the computer is a useful and necessary tool for information, but like anything else, in today's world, we are bombarded with so many choices and distractions. It takes self-discipline to keep Internet use to a minimum because we use it for so many things.

  • Steve-o Ogden, UT
    July 20, 2011 9:53 a.m.

    Funny that an internet addiction article is posted.... on the internet! Nice!

  • Red Salt Lake City, UT
    July 20, 2011 9:46 a.m.

    If your eye offend thee then pluck it out! If thy hand offend thee then cut it off!
    The choice is yours. Take action!!!

  • JWB Kaysville, UT
    July 20, 2011 9:13 a.m.

    Our world has become a place where things are more important than people. You can buy anything from anyplace. A neighborn told of a person sitting on a flight and there was a couple in front of him. The lady was massaging her husband's head and showing love toward her husband. During the flight the husband spent his whole time with a game or equivalent and did not show any acknowledgement or appreciation or even look at her for the duration of the flight. This article sort of highlights that type of event.

    The Internet can be such a great tool and is used that way for a lot of communication. Communication is a two-way street. So many of the Internet trends is to make it a one-way street. Texting is a similar thing but not exactly the same as the Internet. Texting takes people away from each other. You can talk to people and that is communication. Some texting can be good but I picture that takes people away from each other. Even phones can become a hinderance as a mother or father can spend time away from their family even while the family is right there.

  • Pagan Salt Lake City, UT
    July 20, 2011 9:04 a.m.

    'Internet addiction harming marriage' - Title

    I thought it was gay marriage harming 'marriage?'
    Or Pornography
    Or a butterfly flapping it's wings in Turkey

    The chronic 'harm' to marriage that some portray will never stop. It will be a never-ending 'threat to marriage' that will simply have a different name.

    Instead of focusing on what is bringing 'harm' to marriage (which can and will be anything) why not focus on what keeps marriages TOGETHER.

    Time with each other
    Communication
    Working out finances together, etc.

    Looking OUTSIDE of your marriage to keep it together, does not typically work.