People will always find external causes, nay excuses, to blame for their failed
relationships, lives, and goals. Weak people even more so. Everything, really, comes down to priorities. Obviously for some people
playing computer games is on the top of their priorities list; or is it just
that other important things weren't highlighted as such? Who's to
blame? Well, I know it shouldn't be something inanimate.
A neighboor of mine was excited to show me a new online game he found. It looked
boring to me.His wife later told me she felt lonely because he spend
so much time playing that game.She needs more companship from her
husband than she gets. My own kids spend way too much time playing computer
I someone was happy in their marriage they wouldn't spend a lot of time on the
internet. Look to the underlying reasons as to why someone is choosing to spend
so much time away from their spouse.
I am addicted to the internet. I don't mind admitting it. I don't blame the
vehicle and I could find other 'tools' to replace it, I'm sure of that.However, I do spend too much time on here and online in general- and yes, it
distracts me from being productive in many aspects of life.I'm
addicted to public debate also, out of concern for what I believe is a series
lack of logic used in the public square today.---And
don't bother replying "Then why are you posting even now?" cause I
already know... :)
According to the article, more couples are stating that their spouse spends too
much time on the internet at that this is causing their relationship to fail.Here is what I want to know:1) Has the number of divorces as
a percentage of marriages increased?2) Have other stated reasons for
divorce decreased?If the answer to the first question is yes and the
answer to the second question is no, then it is safe to claim that the internet
is causing divorce.If the answer to the first question is no and the
answer to the second question is yes, then the internet has had no net effect on
the stability of marriages, it is just being used as a scapegoat.Some people are lousy marriage partners and some marriages are not good - if
the internet were not there, it would be something else causing the breakup.
Nice job keeping up the 'marriage is under attack' drumbeat.
Ya, all these people writing posts and reading news on the internet. I mean
really - get a life. teeheee
I remember my dad ignoring my mom (and the rest of the family) by sitting in his
chairs reading books all night.The behavior hasn't changed - only
@hawkyoGOT ME on that one! Although use a lathe might be better than
waterboarding. I for one am all for gays and lesbians marrying and then being
exposed to attorneys in their divorces.
"Honey, I'm leaving you. Don't email me, don't call me. Have your father
call my father when you are ready to be my husband again."Fixed.
Egbert, I'm not sure if it was a Freudian slip or not but the idea of
"lathing" an attorney by using a sharp steel object to take chunks of
him/her off while they're spinning around at a dizzying rate sounds like the
formation of a new national past time! Perhaps we can institute this as a
punishment in our judicial system for lawyers who break the law.Seriously though, I can tell you exactly who the videogame/computer game
addicts are in my class by the end of week one in a school year. It really
affects the educational aspect of their lives, and it often affects their social
side as well. It is a sickness, make no mistake about that.
@AZRods-fail to see the connection you are trying to draw about Pagan
"promoting gay marriage", in fact, I think you are delusional on that
aspect of his post. Now, before you truly stop treading water in the fetid
backwaters, I routinely disagree with Pagan most of the time. This time, his
post is spot on. And yes, I'm politically conservative, yes, I am active LDS,
and no, Pagan's post wasn't promoting "gay marriage". Besides, would
you deny the gay community their rights to lathe and despise their divorce
attorneys too? Who cares if gay people get married, somebody probably married
From all the new Macbooks to the latest PC's and throw in all the gadgetry with
Blackberry's and iPhones and on and on .... soon you will be able to get to the
internet from your toaster. The internet is GREAT - no question - but the
addiction of setting on your rump and surfing the web is both time consuming and
dangerous with all the porn out there. Show me a consistant web surfer and I
will show you an overweight, out of shape, geek with no life other than that
provided by his latest gadget.
And only Pagan can turn an internet article into something promting gays. And
bashing traditional marriage.I suspect there are many gays who are
addicted to the internet as well. So try try again.
Come on people, turn off the darn computer/TV and start reading books, getting
yourself back in shape and get "busy" with your spouse!
Whew, anybody recall what teenage children did to your marriage?
and I thought all addictions were bad for marriage...
Another SCARY thing to be worried about! Between internets, gays, and
terrorists I dont' know how anyone stays together in marriage. OR just
maybe the media and the powers that be like us to be worried all the time, that
things are going to collapse, so that the populace will be easier to control.
The article should read: SOME people who have marriage problems use
things like the internet as an escape. Most people doing just fine.
After I finally "entered the 21st Century and began a Facebook
account," I found myself sucked into checking it constantly. I noticed
that I never had the time in the first place to be on there, now I was using
time that I didn't have to begin with, checking and commenting on my Status. To
the average person, my experience is what everyone does. To me, it bothered me
and it became a huge distraction that kept me from my kids, husband and getting
the regular day-to-day things done a little more efficiently. I finally had the
thought, "Is this what I want my kids to think of me as? Someone who
spends a lot of time on Facebook?" I'd rather leave my legacy as someone
who was involved in more noble activities. I De-activated my FB account after
about 6 months and have felt relief ever since. I know that the computer is a
useful and necessary tool for information, but like anything else, in today's
world, we are bombarded with so many choices and distractions. It takes
self-discipline to keep Internet use to a minimum because we use it for so many
Funny that an internet addiction article is posted.... on the internet! Nice!
If your eye offend thee then pluck it out! If thy hand offend thee then cut it
off!The choice is yours. Take action!!!
Our world has become a place where things are more important than people. You
can buy anything from anyplace. A neighborn told of a person sitting on a
flight and there was a couple in front of him. The lady was massaging her
husband's head and showing love toward her husband. During the flight the
husband spent his whole time with a game or equivalent and did not show any
acknowledgement or appreciation or even look at her for the duration of the
flight. This article sort of highlights that type of event. The
Internet can be such a great tool and is used that way for a lot of
communication. Communication is a two-way street. So many of the Internet
trends is to make it a one-way street. Texting is a similar thing but not
exactly the same as the Internet. Texting takes people away from each other.
You can talk to people and that is communication. Some texting can be good but
I picture that takes people away from each other. Even phones can become a
hinderance as a mother or father can spend time away from their family even
while the family is right there.
'Internet addiction harming marriage' - Title I thought it was gay
marriage harming 'marriage?' Or Pornography Or a butterfly flapping
it's wings in Turkey The chronic 'harm' to marriage that some
portray will never stop. It will be a never-ending 'threat to marriage' that
will simply have a different name. Instead of focusing on what is
bringing 'harm' to marriage (which can and will be anything) why not focus on
what keeps marriages TOGETHER. Time with each other
Communication Working out finances together, etc. Looking
OUTSIDE of your marriage to keep it together, does not typically work.