Cohabitation and the abuse of America's children

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  • Lagomorph Salt Lake City, UT
    May 16, 2011 6:46 p.m.

    Wilcox: "Because as study after study tells us children are more likely to thrive and to simply survive when they are raised in an intact, married home. This is no small social fact, given that the primary purpose of family law is not to serve the desires of adults but rather the 'best interests' of children."

    About 30% of gay couples have children in the household, usually the biological offspring of the partners (conceived in previous straight marriages or via artificial insemination). Yet most states deny these couples the opportunity to raise these children "in an intact, married home," thus sentencing the children to the social pathologies Wilcox describes. How can this be considered pro-child?

  • Gruffi Gummi Lehi, UT
    May 15, 2011 5:11 p.m.

    The worst abuse happens when the government gets involved and "tries to help".
    I suggest googling: "A Critical Look At The Foster Care System:
    How Widespread a Problem?" THIS is where abuse regularly occurs (various studies quite consistently estimate the percentage of children experiencing abuse while in foster care at 25-28%).

  • Nan BW ELder, CO
    May 15, 2011 2:47 p.m.

    About 30 years ago, a close friend's cousin was living with her boyfriend when this was much less socially acceptable. In a rage he killed her baby (not his), and then felt bad because he knew there would be consequences for him. I had been a student of behavioral science and was much interested in how children would be impacted by moms living with boyfrineds, a practice then gaining popularity. I'm glad that a study has been done to back what most of us have already believed, just by reading the newspaper if nothing else. I hope that education on this matter will help. The article is well written.

    I have read about a study comparing children raised by single parents, who were divorced, versus children raised by single parents who lost a spouse to death. The children of the single widowed parents did much better statistically.

  • lsteinbentley South Jordan, UT
    May 15, 2011 2:13 p.m.

    Very interesting article, thank you.

  • Screwdriver Casa Grande, AZ
    May 15, 2011 7:34 a.m.

    Here we go again. Get the government out of my business - so you'll have more time to mess with someone's else's business.

    If hypocracy weren't such a popular pastime I would think we should just make that illegal.

    You just can't separate freedom from consequenses no matter how long you hold your breath. There are plenty of women that say getting away from an abusive husband was the best thing they could do for thier children. Have a closer more honest look at the data, it doesn't pass the smell test.

    It just doesn't seem right to compare married couples that are not yet divorced and unstable to the same people 10 years from then that are unstable. Or do we not have a divorce rate of 50+% ??? No crossover huh?

    Maybe it's judgemental narcisistic attitudes that lead to divorce and mistreatment of children. People like that tend to point thier fingers at others whenever there is a problem in society. God bless, but you may be divorced and unstable yet. Be humble.

    As a widower, I object to the idea that my home is statistically or otherwise less loving.