Gaming with dad may help teen girls

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  • Mukkake Salt Lake City, UT
    Feb. 2, 2011 1:17 p.m.

    "My Daughter is a huge Hentai Fan to include going to the conventions."

    I'm guessing, and hoping, you misstated this. I'm guessing you meant "ANIME" or "MANGA" and not "HENTAI".

    Anime is Japanese animation and Manga is Japanese comic books and graphic novels. Hentai refers to the pornographic versions of manga and anime.

  • jca Cedar City, UT
    Feb. 2, 2011 10:20 a.m.

    In our house, there are no video games and only a few computer games that the kids (all girls) earn the privelege of playing 1/2 hr per day, max, by doing their responsibilities. The rest of the day we go cross country skiing, music lessons, playmakers (acting), table tennis, hiking, 4-H activities, reading, reading, and reading. Their dad does all things outdoors with them. He also spends at least one hour every Saturday with one of the children, rotating every week. Each child looks forward to their special time with dad . . . no video games needed. :)

  • Andon Provo, Utah
    Feb. 1, 2011 3:59 p.m.

    I agree with most of these comments. It is more about the interaction than the medium. A lot of Facebook games, for example, are starting to accomplish this, as well (think FarmVille). An upcoming Facebook game I'm affiliated with here in Orem is specifically geared toward bringing families closer together through common ancestry ( if you're interested).

  • Independent Henderson, NV
    Feb. 1, 2011 12:39 p.m.

    It all depends on the type of game. I think Guitar Hero is one of the best inventions to bring people together in a long time. I like the fact that you are all trying to acheive a high score together, instead of competing against each other. It fosters a sense of teamwork and togetherness, and everybody feels good, instead of some feeling good at the expense of others.

  • Joe Moe Logan, UT
    Feb. 1, 2011 12:27 p.m.

    Like so many things, video games are not of themselves good or evil (with a few notable exceptions). It's all about perspective, moderation, and common sense.

  • Kitenoa Salt Lake City, UT
    Feb. 1, 2011 11:02 a.m.

    I don't even have a "video game" to play with at my house. Does that mean my kids are not well adjusted for not possessing some electronic game? No I don't think so.

    My girls are successful students despite not having any "games" in their lives. We spend precious time just talking about subject of mutual interest, or ideas that will greatly impact their future lives or solve current struggles. Those teaching moments do NOT come easy at all. You have got to plan, and even under the best of circumstances, insist that you are ready at a moments notice to connect mentally and emotionally with your child.

    Good luck to all parents and children!

  • bikeboy Boise, ID
    Feb. 1, 2011 10:42 a.m.

    The daughter and the wife are both addicted to World of Warcraft. Hours and hours almost every day, and when they're not playing, their conversations are largely about W of W. (As is so often the case, they "can't see the forest for the trees." Both of them acknowledge that game addiction is a problem, but "they're not addicted." Yeah, right.) When I suggest to my daughter that she scale it back a little, my wife takes her side in the discussion.

    I can't see that my joining in will be a positive thing in anybody's life.

  • Friend West Valley City, UT
    Feb. 1, 2011 10:19 a.m.

    This study is spot on!
    My daughters, older teens, have a great (open, honest, respectful, fun-loving...) relationship with their dad. There are many factors that foster this kind of relationship, gaming being one of them. Their dad plays all kinds of "E" games with them from the strategic, to the downright silly. They laugh, talk, and high-five as they play. Their dad is approachable, attentive, and involved in their lives.
    My2Cents said that he had to feel sorry for these poor children who are forced to use TV to feel needed and cared for. Does he feel sorry for the children who use a ball, board game, or movie to connect and spend time with their dad? As long as the activity is harmless fun that brings children and parents together, it should be encouraged.
    Dads are so important, especially to teenage girls!

  • luv2organize Gainesville, VA
    Feb. 1, 2011 10:02 a.m.

    I struggle with articles like this because it should be a no brainer that having fathers involved with their children in play is a positive thing and can bring them closer together. I have found in my household that video games just cause fighting among the boys and then when told their time is up it causes contention because they want to get to the next level. Then natural consequences are applied like losing the privilege to play but then the exact same things happens after the rights are reinstated. We are a home of all boys so I can't relate to the girl side of the issue but in my opinion I would recommend to any new parents to not start down the video game trail - no game boys, no Wii, no computer games, etc. They are a waste of time and just cause problems.

  • GAmom Athens, GA
    Feb. 1, 2011 7:01 a.m.

    This article comments, "If you're looking for a way to connect with your daughter and she's into gaming, it might be a really good thing to do," I think it is if you want to connect with a child (especially a teen) show an interest in what they are interested in, not specifically gaming. When my son was a teenager he was really interested in cars. While my husband wasn't, he still went and bought a $100 junker karma ghia and they spent hours learning to rebuild the engine. It gave them many hours bent over a bench to just chat and build a bond. Don't expect kids to show an interest in what you are interested in--you go to them.

  • My2Cents Kearns, UT
    Feb. 1, 2011 6:01 a.m.

    I have to feel sorry for these poor children who are forced to use TV to feel needed and cared for. This is not quality time nor is it worthy time at all. If this is the best quality a parent, father or mother has to offer their children then we are in trouble. No wonder families are disintegrating and dieing off.

    Gaming not only controls the mind it controls the subject matter of personal interaction between child and parent. So after the game ends, what have they discussed? The Mario Brothers? Child parent relationships should be times of unification as a family not times of intense destruction of each other in a game.

    This is not quality time, at least with a movie you can talk to each-other instead of battling each other to defeat each other in a stupid game. These gaming devices breed defeat strategies and do nothing to unite or encourage family team work.

    For the gamer and the industry this is just what they want to hear.

  • awsomeron1 Oahu, HI
    Feb. 1, 2011 2:58 a.m.

    When I read somthing like this, I wounder to myself, how do people manage to get paid for doing stuff like this.

    The Sample is way small to evan matter. Nor is the subject matter relevent to anything, because there are to many factors to consider.

    Why is coming home to a daughter any different then coming home to a son.

    Playing Video Games togeather is a good idea, because Size and Upper Body Strength do not matter. Age does not matter.

    The idea is that it has to b a game where eash one gets a turn.

    That was the problem playing with my stepson, you never got to have a turn.

    My Son and Daughter both Single Adults, and both at home going to school or working, play Video Games togeather almost Daily.

    They are closed age and have always been good friends and played nicely togeather.

    The Daughter is working and going on her Mission in September. The Boy is in College, and has 30 Credits despite being Special Needs.

    My wife plays and I play.

    Video Games make it easy for you to spend time with your kids in a plesent way.

    Its all good.

  • awsomeron1 Oahu, HI
    Feb. 1, 2011 1:51 a.m.

    I am Not uch into Blue and Pink. The kids now adults have gender netural names, and the Baby Room was painted Lime Green, and we did not want to know the Gender before hand.

    My Son Games, my Daughter Games, and they play Video Games, Togeather, apart and with Friends.

    I think that Video Games have been a Large part of keeping them out of trouble. The whole family has different ganres that they like.

    My Wife like Puzzle Games, and Jig Saw Puzzles. I like Chess, and Match 3, and Target Games.

    My Son likes the Action Aventure and Super Hero Stuff and he is still a huge Pokemon Fan.

    My Daughter is a huge Hentai Fan to include going to the conventions.

    All have finished High School are In College Working or Both.

    We all play Daily.

    My Daughter Stands in line for New Boooks, My Son for new Video Games. The last time I did that was for Atari Pac Man.

    Gameing from the time of Pong.

    You have to be there for somthing other then your Daughters 1st Day of the School Year Blessing.

    They where also very Active in High School.

  • three11stu Saratoga Springs, UT
    Jan. 31, 2011 11:07 p.m.

    This just shows that Video games are the same an ANY other source of media, entertainment or leisure activity.