Funny. My first marriage we didn't fool around or live together before marriage.
Ended in divorce. Same with the second marriage. Third time, we lived together
for three years, got married and six years strong now.The problem
with research, is that is is only looking at a very small select group, and
everyone is different. Using data like that, in that way, doesn't fit anyone.You have to do what is right for you, what works right for you.
Otherwise, you are just following some doofus with a degree who says they know
better than you.You should only do that if you are an idiot.
I am currently working on my Ph.D. in Human Development and Family Studies at a
university in the Midwest. Busby and Carroll are well respected researchers in
the field. Their findings are consistent with the vast majority of empirical
research (from scholars all over the country) that finds that those who cohabit
prior to marriage in general have lower levels of satisfaction and are at
greater risk of divorcing.I am familiar with other studies by Busby and
Carroll using this data. Data is drawn from people across the country. Typically
they limit the number of LDS people included in their analysis to less than 5%.
They include people from all religions and those that aren't religious.
Furthermore, they controlled for religiosity in this study. The Journal of
Family Psychology is one of the premier scholarly journals in the field. For
this to get published it would have been reviewed anonymously by at least 3
scholars (that very likely aren't LDS) who would be careful to scrutinize the
methods and results to make sure they weren't overstepping what the data was
telling them.Congratulations to Busby and Carroll for another quality
contribution to the field.
In answer to CHS 85, I'm sure the good folks in San Francisco would reach a
different conclusion.It is hard, however, to argue that there are
some virtues associated with moral cleanliness. I'm guessing that Pagan and CHS
85 have no problem with any skirt that comes along but at the end of the day do
they have a faithful wife and little children to welcome them home from work.About the only benefits I can see linked to immorality are the joys
associated with the various sexually transmitted diseases that go with that kind
of life style.
I'm shocked that a LDS-funded university would come to this conclusion. Would
the study have been published had the outcome been the opposite?
'If you bothered to actually do some research...' - Redshirt1701 | 2:51 p.m. Ok Redshirt, I'll call BYU up to do just that. Also, if
marriage is SO great, and SO helpful to our society... why do some
work to deny marriage, that very good, very great thing... to gay
To "Pagan | 10:04 a.m." you should just eat your words now because
this is not the first study to come up with similar conclusions. You also
missed the review by a NON-BYU researcher you agrees with the findings. The
article said the following:"Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the
University of Texas at Austin, who was not involved with this research, read the
study and shared his take on the findings."Couples who hit the
honeymoon too early that is, prioritize sex promptly at the outset of a
relationship often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the
qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and
trustworthy" "If you bothered to actually do some
research, you would find that it has been known for years that the happiest
couples waited until after marriage to engage in sex.
Society laughs at chastity like there is something wrong with it. Instead of
rewarding self control they mock it.
Most reasonable people agree that people who don't sleep around with any and
everbody are less likely to experience the joys associated with sexually
transmitted diseases, some of which are incurable.It has even been
suggested that people that show a little self control and wait until after the
wedding vows to enjoy the sacraments of marriage are less likely to do the John
Edwards thing.Translation: Whose going to trust someone who sleeps
around to ever be faithful?
When the study is not from BYU, a college based and funded by the LDS church,
who's official stance is AGAINST premarital sex to begin with....
and changes from 'may' to 'is'.... I'll pretend like this study
didn't have an pre-concived conclusion before it even started.
Surprise, surprise. God knows what is best, after all. Who are we to think we