Its definitely sad when a child has to die at the hands of a parent, step-parent
or other close relative. But what creeps me out even more is the relatively new
trend of stranger danger that this story reveals. Many of the
unsolved killings are stranger based or unknown. This is a sad reflection of our
current society its devaluation of human life.
These numbers are horrific but far more horrific to me is the idea that most of
these murders happen by way of family. Parents I know are incredibly freaked out
by child abductions or stranger violence but it is much more likely to be
somebody known or in the family that kills a child.And, with a
population of 350 million people, these numbers aren't the least bit surprising.
I need a license to cut somebody's hair but anybody at all can have kids. So,
lots will, including potential killers.
"Infants and very young children are especially vulnerable to fatal violence
from family members, whether despondent mothers suffering postpartum depression
or angry stepfathers and boyfriends unhappy with the demands of unwanted
parenthood."Why don't we also focus on prevention of murder.Death-by-stepparent is frequent and violent, as shown in recent Utah
cases, including the Ethan Stoops case. I propose a method for reducing that:
Anyone co-habiting with a custodial parent must undergo a background check. The
results of that background check, if it reveals criminal background,
particularly violent background, may trigger revisitation of custody.Anyone co-habiting with a violent person is a questionable parent, and the
other parent should have the opportunity for custody. That law may have
prevented the murder of Ethan Stoop.To be a scout leader or little
league coach you have to submit to a background check with a cost of
approximately $25. I don't think it unreasonable that a non-parent cohabiting
with a custodial parent should have to do the same.
One thing is almost certain. Many of these children should have been given up
for adoption because the parents involved were not equipped to be parents. There
is an attitude that having a baby, regardless of circumstances, gives status to
young mothers without a good support system. If we can change this attitude to
one in which it is a heroic act to give up a child for its own wellbeing, babies
born to ill-prepared parents will have a better chance.
Surely one factor in the case solved rate is the population of the area. If
there are relatively few possible suspects that would make things easier.