Also, it's very much possible to practice EC part time. You don't have to do it
24/7 or carry your baby all the time. You can offer the potty once a day, first
thing in the morning (you're changing the diaper anyway!), and then not think
about it the rest of the day. And do it on the weekends if you feel like it.
There haven't been a lot of studies on this, but there's tons of anecdotal
evidence that babies who have this introduction to the toilet from a young age
have a much easier transition to full potty training than they would if it were
introduced as something totally new after age two. A baby who pees on the toilet
once a day knows that it's possible to go outside of a diaper, and he has more
awareness and muscle ability than a baby who only ever uses a diaper. And I know
parents who taught their nannies to do EC! Some childcare centers are open to it
too (I had my daughter in a Montessori toddler program that did EC).
I have experience with early potty training. I started potty training each of my
4 kids between 2-6 months old. My son trained by 14 months, the girls by 18
months. Nights were the easiest for them to complete. It didn't matter if I was
working or a stay-at-home, the training still worked. My grandson is two and is
potty trained except for rare accidents. Babies wake up because
their bladder is uncomfortable. All we have to do is "listen."
Where are the arguments against EC? That parents must work is not saying that EC
is damaging to the child. Why not look at EC as another reason why parents must
spend time parenting their children instead of saving for another big screen TV
in the year-long-empty guest room? I know many parents who could afford to stop
working for a short period of time, but don't. A simpler lifestyle in return for
a happy child and wonderful parenting years is rarely contemplated. Usually, the
choice to stay home with the kids is driven by cost savings, not kids' best
interests. And if you were to ask the kids, they'd also prefer more time with
their parents rather than a room of their own, toys, and gear. I grew up in such
an environment - crib in parent's room, one toy a year - but had the happiest
childhood ever. Both of my parents scaled back their work and did stuff with us
kids every day (play, read, picnics, etc.) No, they did not EC, but they could
communicate with us verbally and non-verbally from very early on. We're all
accomplished professionals today.